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AAkasha -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:47:05 PM)
You have received some suggestions, but I wanted to add some context. I think the most important thing not to lose sight of is that assignments must be something that are enjoyed by both people. Don't give assignments as busy work or just for the sake of giving orders. If you don't actually get enjoyment out of seeing the results and being involved in them, you are just giving busy work. He'll know it and you'll know it. That said, you have to be realistic about the assignments. You can't give a long list of journal type assignments if you don't have time to read them. There have been many a sub to pout and get resentful because they do things for their femdom and realize "she didn't even look at it. Why bother?" What may happen, though, is HE has more time/energy to "do tasks" than you do to "monitor tasks" and that's when you can have the disconnect. It's much better to do one task that you can really sink your teeth into than a dozen busy tasks that you don't keep track of and at the end of the day don't care about. Make him do things that excite you. Make sure you show him how excited you are. Excitement may be in the form of sexual arousal or simple glee; just make sure you show him. Subs thrive on feedback and positive reinforcement as well as structure. Akasha

porcelaine -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:53:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CandL I have a long distance d/s relationship and we're relatively new to bdsm but I want to give my sub some assignments for him to complete. Can anyone give me some ideas? don't try to start doing things you're not going to be able to maintain. just because the person is a submissive and you're a switch doesn't require an emphasis on tasks and assignments. that's another element of work and if you don't have the time, inclination, or willingness to invest in it you'll grow frustrated and bored. you should begin with mutual education. find a book and read it together. ask the submissive to highlight the things that really stand out for him and to discuss why. it forces him to think and process the information. look at his responses and provide your own. it is a shared learning experience for you both. draw from your experiences as a submissive both positive and negative. but don't allow the bad to be the thing that influences you to do or not do something. it is possible that we don't clearly understand the dominant's makeup and mindset until you're on the other side of the paddle. which basically means your leadership cannot be submissively inspired but from the viewpoint of one guiding another who's under their charge. post questions when you've done some legwork on your own, exhausted resources, or want another point of view. we all have our nuances and styles and none of the suggestions posed may be appropriate for you both. part of being a dominant is the willingness to wrestle with the things you don't know and learning how to become well versed in them. would you expect the submissive to come here asking the same, or to do a bit on his own first? i'd hope your response is the latter. on the subject of writing. it is not everyone's forte and should compliment communication, not replace it. you should pay attention to your submissive's lifestyle and try to tailor your instruction in a manner that will have a direct impact on his world. ideologies are great but he needs to make the experience and the lesson real to him. if everything is theoretic in content you lose the practical application which drives the point home. the best teachers provide an equal distribution of both. be honest about the things you don't know. but don't make excuses or cop out either. take the initiative to learn. one can never know everything. there's always something more. lastly have fun. the whole thing is pointless if neither of you are getting anything from it. best of luck. porcelaine

shadowowl -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 2:55:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha Make him do things that excite you. Make sure you show him how excited you are. Excitement may be in the form of sexual arousal or simple glee; just make sure you show him. Subs thrive on feedback and positive reinforcement as well as structure. Akasha That I would say is probably one of the best pieces of advices you could get :) If I don't recieve positive reinforcment and feedback I will become very insecure and depressed no matter how much I enjoy the assignments. Making the Domme happy is the primary goal of any true sub and as such a happy Domme is one of the best rewards we can recieve.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 3:06:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CandL I have no bloody idea what to even put on a profile..... “I'm a newly switched dom . . .” That would be a good start for a profile. We don’t need details about your identity but about your personality, desires and interests. No one knows if you are into scat, bondage etc. Is the assignment of tongue cleaning the toilet while in bondage a good idea or a waste of our time writing it out for you because we don’t have a clue about you? Introducing yourself via a profile is not only the polite thing to do but it is a good way to get our human interest and more in-depth replies to your threads. In the real world, would you could come up and ask me or anyone else for advice how to Dom your boy without offering to introduce yourself first? I wish you the best and make this reply in the hopes that you see your posts from our side of the coin. Being newly switched, you will find that a forum has a wealth of information and opinions about both the Dom and sub sides. Use etiquette and invest some in what you post and you will see bountiful results.

pyroaquatic -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 3:37:50 PM)
I cannot give you any specifics... for the juicy details of which assignments you shall give him shall fit your relationship best. BUT.... Give him assignments that will foster personal and interpersonal growth in him (and yourself too!). Reveal your sub to himself. Give it meaning. Think: Yoda, Guru... Sensei type deal.

AAkasha -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 4:21:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic I cannot give you any specifics... for the juicy details of which assignments you shall give him shall fit your relationship best. BUT.... Give him assignments that will foster personal and interpersonal growth in him (and yourself too!). Reveal your sub to himself. Give it meaning. Think: Yoda, Guru... Sensei type deal. True!! Sometimes I give a writing assignment designed to both weed our selfish wankers and also allow a sub to get an idea of some of my hot buttons. I will be very specific about what I want him to write about: I state that it should be a certain scenario and focus on x, y and z. Usually these things are like..tight bondage, vulnerability, a certain type of gag, whatever. I tell them to focus on THESE items and not stray and not make it sexual or self indulgent. You would be surprised at how many subs cannot follow these instructions and either send something totally different (their cuckold fantasy, for example), or write 3 lines about the above, and then 100 lines about "what happens next" which is - you guessed it, their fantasy. The time for telling THEIR fantasy may come later, but in this task, it's about my hot buttons. It's a dual purpose task, because it also gives me insight regarding how they view helplessness and characterize it. I can get very, very turned on by honesty in this area, and it can turn into a bit of a hot fantasy right out of my inbox, so then I am really treated. Akasha

pyroaquatic -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/8/2009 7:40:08 PM)
is that an Assignment Akasha? Venatrix gives me one and now you? [&:]

LadyPact -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/9/2009 3:44:09 AM)
A few things here. The first of which is that there are already some threads in other sections going on about assignments. All you need to do is use the search function at the lower left of the screen. That way, you can do some reading to get some ideas. Next, if you were already in a failed D/s dynamic, you might probably already know what the issues were. Pull from that and use some imagination. Lack of imagination is nothing but a curse that dooms one to failure. It shouldn't be that hard to come up with ideas. Following that, there is the issue with the profile. As it's coming across, what you're saying is that you want suggestions for the s type to do, but you're not willing to do any yourself. That's probably a bad approach. Think of it like this. You are employed at your job and understand that you are getting a new boss. This person is the nephew/niece of the owner of the company and has never put in a lick of work. Yet, that person wants you to work your ass off, just because they tell you to. The new boss has no experience, no drive, and gives no effort. I'll bet you have lots of respect for the new boss, huh? <sarcasm> Instead, what if that new boss comes in, and maybe doesn't have a lot of experience, but is willing to roll the sleeves up and get hands dirty? Willing to do the work, just like you. The tasks that you as an employee might be a little more extensive, but you see new boss right there working with you, rather than sitting in an office, waiting for others to hand over papers. Which new boss do you have more respect for?

AAkasha -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/9/2009 8:50:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic is that an Assignment Akasha? Venatrix gives me one and now you? [&:] Perhaps! But I see you are very busy right now so I can wait. But if and when you are up for it, let me know. I am sure I can come up with a suitable "scenario" for you to pen! Akasha

AAkasha -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/9/2009 8:58:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact A few things here. The first of which is that there are already some threads in other sections going on about assignments. All you need to do is use the search function at the lower left of the screen. That way, you can do some reading to get some ideas. Next, if you were already in a failed D/s dynamic, you might probably already know what the issues were. Pull from that and use some imagination. Lack of imagination is nothing but a curse that dooms one to failure. It shouldn't be that hard to come up with ideas. Following that, there is the issue with the profile. As it's coming across, what you're saying is that you want suggestions for the s type to do, but you're not willing to do any yourself. That's probably a bad approach. Think of it like this. You are employed at your job and understand that you are getting a new boss. This person is the nephew/niece of the owner of the company and has never put in a lick of work. Yet, that person wants you to work your ass off, just because they tell you to. The new boss has no experience, no drive, and gives no effort. I'll bet you have lots of respect for the new boss, huh? <sarcasm> Instead, what if that new boss comes in, and maybe doesn't have a lot of experience, but is willing to roll the sleeves up and get hands dirty? Willing to do the work, just like you. The tasks that you as an employee might be a little more extensive, but you see new boss right there working with you, rather than sitting in an office, waiting for others to hand over papers. Which new boss do you have more respect for? LP I think your analogy is good..but I would like to offer a slightly different POV that sometimes concerns me when I see posts like the OP's. It's simply that acts of domination are more effective when they come from a place of lust or compulsion, not a place of "obligation." I understand that some couples want to work together to get both parties needs met, but when a submissive is driving the power exchange and a dominant is approaching it as, "Ok, so I am the dominant. What should I do?" it's ...well, I think it could possibly fall flat. That's not to say that sometimes a dominant does not roleplay, and then get into it once she sees how exciting it is. But so many submissives are really motivated almost entirely by the reality that their femdom is truly getting off on the power. This can't necessarily be true if the femdom is saying, "Ok, I'm the dominant; so tell me what kinds of things dominants do so I can do them?" I'm not saying it CAN'T work, but I think the end results is different than a woman who has a lust for dominance or sadism. Keep in mind, a woman that "plays a dominant role" can do a HELL of a job. In many ways, I think this type of femdom is even more suitable for some subs or bottoms (well, more for bottoms). Why? Because playing the role is just something she slips in and out of, without much worry regarding her own urges for it. With me, I can't just "put on a femdom hat" if I am not feeling the "mojo" that day. There are days I just don't feel it; sure, I always have some femdom lust brewing under the surface, but the desire to enact cruel and devious things to get myself off is something that is more cyclical and is better, for me, when I let it build up and then express it in larger bursts rather than dominate daily. My urges are frequent enough that it's generally not an issue, but some bottoms in my past have been frustrated with me when they "needed direction" or femdom attention and I couldn't just switch it up for them, like a woman can whose just acting it out. Now, in the OPs case, it could be she's genuinely interested in the role and just sort of at a loss with how to start. But when I was trying to get my head around long distance topping out of necessity, it wasn't "what kind of tasks should I do?" that kept me up at night, it was "how can I get that hot, wet feeling I need from gagging a guy if he's on the other end of the phone" -- and then, it was sound, and after that, it was hey, have him send a polaroid, or WRITE about it AS he was doing it, then read it to me on the phone, then eventually it was digital cameras, etc. I figured out ways to get my bondage, humiliation or pain lusts fed by utilizing tools available to me. The goal was to get off; I wanted to get wet from his surrender. The only "how do I.." issue was figuring out how to use technology to bridge the gap. Akasha

daintydimples -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/9/2009 9:21:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic I cannot give you any specifics... for the juicy details of which assignments you shall give him shall fit your relationship best. BUT.... Give him assignments that will foster personal and interpersonal growth in him (and yourself too!). Reveal your sub to himself. Give it meaning. Think: Yoda, Guru... Sensei type deal. What a very smart boy you are.

porcelaine -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/9/2009 11:08:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Instead, what if that new boss comes in, and maybe doesn't have a lot of experience, but is willing to roll the sleeves up and get hands dirty? Willing to do the work, just like you. The tasks that you as an employee might be a little more extensive, but you see new boss right there working with you, rather than sitting in an office, waiting for others to hand over papers. Which new boss do you have more respect for? my understanding of effective leadership and experiences often cause me to examine things from a different vantage point. i accept some may be predisposed or share a desire to be in positions of authority, but having the capacity to lead and to do so with some measure of success and continuity is something altogether different. there's a big difference between utilizing ones resources and becoming wholly dependent on them. porcelaine

NibbyJibby -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/9/2009 12:21:44 PM)
Akasha... absolute words of wisdom and insight... most important to keep motivation/interest factor enticed for both parties. Always a slave desires to feel useful and meaningful and that pleasure of Mistress is sincere.

LadyPact -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/9/2009 9:12:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha LP I think your analogy is good..but I would like to offer a slightly different POV that sometimes concerns me when I see posts like the OP's. It's simply that acts of domination are more effective when they come from a place of lust or compulsion, not a place of "obligation." I understand that some couples want to work together to get both parties needs met, but when a submissive is driving the power exchange and a dominant is approaching it as, "Ok, so I am the dominant. What should I do?" it's ...well, I think it could possibly fall flat. That's not to say that sometimes a dominant does not roleplay, and then get into it once she sees how exciting it is. But so many submissives are really motivated almost entirely by the reality that their femdom is truly getting off on the power. This can't necessarily be true if the femdom is saying, "Ok, I'm the dominant; so tell me what kinds of things dominants do so I can do them?" I'm not saying it CAN'T work, but I think the end results is different than a woman who has a lust for dominance or sadism. Keep in mind, a woman that "plays a dominant role" can do a HELL of a job. In many ways, I think this type of femdom is even more suitable for some subs or bottoms (well, more for bottoms). Why? Because playing the role is just something she slips in and out of, without much worry regarding her own urges for it. With me, I can't just "put on a femdom hat" if I am not feeling the "mojo" that day. There are days I just don't feel it; sure, I always have some femdom lust brewing under the surface, but the desire to enact cruel and devious things to get myself off is something that is more cyclical and is better, for me, when I let it build up and then express it in larger bursts rather than dominate daily. My urges are frequent enough that it's generally not an issue, but some bottoms in my past have been frustrated with me when they "needed direction" or femdom attention and I couldn't just switch it up for them, like a woman can whose just acting it out. Now, in the OPs case, it could be she's genuinely interested in the role and just sort of at a loss with how to start. But when I was trying to get my head around long distance topping out of necessity, it wasn't "what kind of tasks should I do?" that kept me up at night, it was "how can I get that hot, wet feeling I need from gagging a guy if he's on the other end of the phone" -- and then, it was sound, and after that, it was hey, have him send a polaroid, or WRITE about it AS he was doing it, then read it to me on the phone, then eventually it was digital cameras, etc. I figured out ways to get my bondage, humiliation or pain lusts fed by utilizing tools available to me. The goal was to get off; I wanted to get wet from his surrender. The only "how do I.." issue was figuring out how to use technology to bridge the gap. Akasha Aakasha, while I understand your view, I think we are viewing the OP in two different ways. I agree with your idea that Domination should come from lust, sadistic desires, or compulsion. If we look at it from that angle, we have to accept that there is a drive. Personally, My drive can always be found in the pursuit of being a better Dominant. For Me, this is a constant. This is where I focused in on the OP. This OP should be focused on being a better top/Dominant. We, as Dominants, ask that our submissives live to make our lives easier. Well...... why? The easy answer is because they wish to please. What of those hours where certain tasks have been eliminated? The sub has a purpose. Why don't we? In My view, that is the difference between playing a role and having the drive. This is just My opinion, of course, but any cunt can get wet. It takes a Dominat to weild power.

AAkasha -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/9/2009 11:50:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Aakasha, while I understand your view, I think we are viewing the OP in two different ways. I agree with your idea that Domination should come from lust, sadistic desires, or compulsion. If we look at it from that angle, we have to accept that there is a drive. Personally, My drive can always be found in the pursuit of being a better Dominant. For Me, this is a constant. This is where I focused in on the OP. This OP should be focused on being a better top/Dominant. We, as Dominants, ask that our submissives live to make our lives easier. Well...... why? The easy answer is because they wish to please. What of those hours where certain tasks have been eliminated? The sub has a purpose. Why don't we? In My view, that is the difference between playing a role and having the drive. This is just My opinion, of course, but any cunt can get wet. It takes a Dominat to weild power. This is a really interesting perspective to me. I have trouble getting my head around it. I think I can understand the lust or compulsion to "be a better dominant." For a moment, I feel like I kind of understand the difference, but then it gets hard for me to grasp. Ultimately, I do wonder, seriously, if I am just better labeled a top; or, more specifically, a bondage top. I enjoy "dominance," and power exchange, and I (by way of my personality and ambitions) am a leader in romantic relationships. However, my desire for (physical) domination, my desire to inspire/create "surrender, submission, authentic vulnerability" (as I call it) preferably by use of tools (bondage gear, pain toys, or ego deflation) is a compulsion. It's a "blood lust" type feeling I get that is a physical ache and need, more distracting and alarming, at times, than the desire for sex. Granted, I never act on it immorally - not even close. I use the word compulsion carefully, because it's not a lust that makes me make POOR choices, like a drug or alcohol or other "addiction" might - however, it's physically and emotionally strong enough that I cannot just label it "yeah I think doing S&m is fun and fulfilling." It's like a bloodlust. I need it, I get hungry for it, and I want it more than sex, at times. These are clearly "Topping" urges. When I have them, however, they are consuming. It's a wonderful, fantastic, alive feeling I wouldn't trade for the world. At the end of the day, really, I have no strong urges to become a better dominant; I have urges to become a better partner, best friend and lover to my mate and similar things to friends, as appropriate - those things make me feel happy and whole. But it's nothing like the physical lust I have for S&m, and often, it's barely even connected. I guess if I was to map my urges on a messy graph chart, there'd be a crossover area between my happiness/pleasure of being a dominant (which I liken to feeling "true" and "authentic" and being able to be who I want to be rather than pretend to be a submissive, doting girlfriend for example), and my lust for submission, surrender and vulneraiblity. My lusts are really pretty physical, very visual, and very sensual. Bondage and male helplessness are core to it. I seriously should consider just relabeling myself a Top.... Akasha

Acer49 -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/10/2009 2:54:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CandL I have a long distance d/s relationship and we're relatively new to bdsm but I want to give my sub some assignments for him to complete. Can anyone give me some ideas? I believe it is an excellent idea for the submissive to do research on any implement that is to be used on her as well as what is entailed in any activity she may be expected to be involved with. Some that comes to mind Electrical play, where to and where not to touch Rope and suspension play, how to recognize possible circulatory issues What types of wax are better than others? What types of medical stuff one should have available during a scene Proper ways to use nipple clamps How to recognize and properly assess sub space and sub drop Different types of floggers and how to clean and maintain them

LadyPact -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/10/2009 5:05:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha This is a really interesting perspective to me. I have trouble getting my head around it. I think I can understand the lust or compulsion to "be a better dominant." For a moment, I feel like I kind of understand the difference, but then it gets hard for me to grasp. Ultimately, I do wonder, seriously, if I am just better labeled a top; or, more specifically, a bondage top. I enjoy "dominance," and power exchange, and I (by way of my personality and ambitions) am a leader in romantic relationships. However, my desire for (physical) domination, my desire to inspire/create "surrender, submission, authentic vulnerability" (as I call it) preferably by use of tools (bondage gear, pain toys, or ego deflation) is a compulsion. It's a "blood lust" type feeling I get that is a physical ache and need, more distracting and alarming, at times, than the desire for sex. Granted, I never act on it immorally - not even close. I use the word compulsion carefully, because it's not a lust that makes me make POOR choices, like a drug or alcohol or other "addiction" might - however, it's physically and emotionally strong enough that I cannot just label it "yeah I think doing S&m is fun and fulfilling." It's like a bloodlust. I need it, I get hungry for it, and I want it more than sex, at times. These are clearly "Topping" urges. When I have them, however, they are consuming. It's a wonderful, fantastic, alive feeling I wouldn't trade for the world. At the end of the day, really, I have no strong urges to become a better dominant; I have urges to become a better partner, best friend and lover to my mate and similar things to friends, as appropriate - those things make me feel happy and whole. But it's nothing like the physical lust I have for S&m, and often, it's barely even connected. I guess if I was to map my urges on a messy graph chart, there'd be a crossover area between my happiness/pleasure of being a dominant (which I liken to feeling "true" and "authentic" and being able to be who I want to be rather than pretend to be a submissive, doting girlfriend for example), and my lust for submission, surrender and vulneraiblity. My lusts are really pretty physical, very visual, and very sensual. Bondage and male helplessness are core to it. I seriously should consider just relabeling myself a Top.... Akasha It's funny that you used the term bloodluist. I've used that a time or two Myself. When I do or hear others use it, I know exactly in My mind what it conjures up. People who know Me well can tell when My brain has kicked into that kind of gear. My husband will see a certain look in My eyes and a grin that crossed My face and know that I'm in that particular zone. What you describe in the second paragraph, I can definitely relate to. I have little issue with periods of celibacy. I do have issues with periods of no S/m activity. At the very minimum, I have to be reading, learning, practicing, or studying, if not outright topping. If I don't take My sadist out for a stretch every once in a while, at least mentally, if not physically, I'm not as content of a person. That ache you describe can be a very real part of My world if I'm not doing something. That ache is a part of My drive. It still exists whether there is a submissive in My house or not. If I were not partnered or had only an LDR, I'd have to channel that energy in some way. As in the title of the OP, we give assignments to our submissive, hopefully with a purpose, rather than just random tasks to keep them busy or to exercise control. We want those tasks to have benefits. Flip the coin to the other side. Those same puirposes and benefits are still there. We're asking our submissives to grow and explore their submission, but if we're not doing the same thing on the other side of the kneel, we will become stagnent. On a personal note, Aakasha, I've noticed you say that particular line about labeling yourself a bondage top a few times now. In certain scenarios with certain people, I do the same thing. There's nothing wrong with that. In fact, I find it more accurate for casual play. The way I see it, if it's working for you, go for it.

MaamJay -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/10/2009 1:16:32 PM)
We've wandered away a bit from the OP and while it's a fascinating discussion, I think the OP was in the place I began, having had a few ideas of her own and then wanting a bit more stimulus material from others. I found it useful to hear ideas and then sift through and take what I liked on board, I usually changed things around a bit on the way to personalise them to Me too. So feel free to do that OP! Here's some ideas that have worked for Me as Domme (or for me as sub): 1. A rainy day envelope - collecting things a Dominant has said (or writing about what has been done eg the times you and he have been together) and keeping them in a decorated envelope. Great to pull out and reread on a "rainy day" ie when feeling a bit low. Especially good for those "droppy" times after a great meeting and a hard parting. The OP could also ask the sub to decorate an envelope for Her and to include some warm fuzzies for Her too! 2. Take a pack of cards (a cheap one as it will be useless after this activity). Go through the cards and pick one that symbolises the Dominant, and one that symbolises the sub. Write why they chose as they did ie explain the symbolism. It can give some quite deep insights! Obtain a photo of each person and glue to the back of the card to keep in a purse or wallet (or one of the both of you together!). 3. Pick a TV program you both like to watch, preferably something with a bit of substance to it, both watch an episode and then discuss it. Documentaries, movies, or shows that raise issues are all good, soapies not so much! Can be a revealing way to get at people's core values and beliefs. 4. Have them read threads in the forums here and then undertake to comment on a certain number each week. Enables the sub to learn from a variety of opinions. 5. The $5 easily mailable gift. Set a budget of $5 (evidence is required!) and get them to find the perfect gift for you, based on your conversations and meetings. This will take a little time, give them say 2 weeks. Tell them you won't answer direct questions about what you like/dislike, they will have to be a bit smarter about drawing you out. There have been others but hopefully these will give the OP food for thought! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

DesFIP -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/10/2009 1:25:48 PM)
I'm not big on busywork. If there isn't anything he needs when we're apart, he doesn't waste his time dreaming up stuff he won't bother to check on and I don't waste my time doing something useless. I've had him say he wants an apple pie on his return so I did that. I've baked and frozen cookies. I've researched how to build a concrete shower. Truth though, that one's so labor intensive you don't ever want to do it. Right now I'm looking for a rectangular curb mount skylight in polycarbonate, not acrylic. And not custom made which takes two months and over a thousand dollars.

shadowowl -> RE: Assignments for subs (9/10/2009 1:43:06 PM)
I remember one of my first assignments was to find suitable BDSM rope hehe. the stuff they sell in most hardware stores is not really suitable because of the plastic coating hehe.

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