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angelikaJ -> RE: AAARRRRGGGG - gotta rant or I'm gonna explode (9/8/2009 3:09:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach
It's been a couple of weeks since my idiot brother called, asking me to help him get his car fixed cause "his bills are too high." Told him no on that one, he calls back a couple of days later, asking me to get his truck insured under my name, and to get the tag done (which is due Now), again because he "can't afford to do so" - this time supposedly because of the cost of paying for the repairs to the vehical.
So I tell him I'll think about it - that it's going to depend on whether there's money left after all of my bills are paid and everything done for the month that needed financing - and drag my feet about actually looking to see what it would cost. (Yes, I intended to simply put it off and then tell him I couldn't afford to help, but that's beside the point.)
So over the past 4 days, he's called me 7 times, to see whether I had "finished' getting the insurance and tag for his truck. (No, I still hadn't, and made excuses.) Only this time, while he's on the phone with me, I make the "suggestion" that he go ahead and get the insurance himself - because (supposedly) I'm having difficulties getting it as a completely seperate policy from what is on My car. At which point, he informs me that he wants me to get the insurance because he Can't - no one will insure him at this point - his driver's licence has been suspended until Next April, due to the crap back in February when he managed to get the Harley stolen!
I think the fact that he lied to you is a good reason to void your offer to help.
The insurance will not do him any good anyway as he does not have a license.
I'm...... beyond flabergasted at this point. I'm to fed up to be angry - this is simply par for the course for him. I'm just - Fed Up. I have to wonder if he's ever going to grow up and learn that it does him no good to call expecting me to clean up the messes he makes for himself.
He will never grow up as long as someone is willing to bail him out.
He spent the first 41 years of his life expecting our grandparents to bail him out of every jam he created for himself - and our grandmother the bat always obliged. She obliged right into bancruptcy. Then he conned dad into picking up where the bat left off, after mom died and dad was at his most vulnerable emotionally. He kept it up, in fact, until after dad's stroke, when I suddenly had all the responcibility dumped in my lap, and it was then strictly My decision as to whether he got helped out or not. In the 3 years since dad's stroke, he's consistantly ignored the rest of the family except when he showed up to whine for money. He didn't bother to visit dad, while dad was in the nursing home, except when he wanted money - figuring that if he whined to dad, dad would harass me about it, and I'd give it to him to shut dad up. (Bzzzzz wrong answer - dad would call and harass and tell me to give him money, I'd assure dad I would do so, and then promptly ignore the request as soon as I hung up the phone.)
The 2 times this year - since I moved dad home with me - that my brother has bothered to either show up or call - what has been his reason? Oh Yeah - He Wanted Money. Money to get his truck out of impound, money to pay the fines he incurred getting the truck put into impound, money and a front for insurance over How he got his truck into impound. He'll be 44 in February. He's older than I am - though rather obviously less mature. When is he gonna suck it up, quit trying to scam his Family, and quit thinking that he should be able to do what he wants with impunity - even if it's blatantly illegal???
(On the bright side - dad heard me arguing with the idiot on the fone, and asked who it was, and what it was about. So I explained it to him. And told him bluntly that I would NOT be getting insurance on the idiot's truck, I would NOT be getting the tag renewed, and if the idiot gets arrested and thrown in jail for driving under suspension (Again - which will be like the 3rd time he's gotten caught driving under suspension) then he will Rot there, because I will NOT be going to bail his ass out, nor will I be returning the truck after I get it out of impound - I'll sell it to cover the cost of getting it out.)
Sounds like a plan.
Your brother has no forsight because he never needed it.
IF there are never any consequences, he will never learn how the real world works.
Right now, he is operating on the assumption that the world does in fact revolve around him.
He is angry at you because you won't give in.
It is now your fault you see.
When he doesn't get his way, he whines.
The best thing you could do for him is to say no.
Never mind the things he has done that directly impacted you: the money, the lies, the posessions.
He is trying to scam you because so far, it has worked.
Aren't your arms tired of carrying his crap?
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