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for beginners to this site - 9/9/2009 4:34:21 PM

maleslave5020

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I just recently joined this site and would like to know what is the best way for me to set my profile up for results and hopefully get a mistress to accept me or atleast meet me in person for a interview if that how it works.?
It will also be good if you can take a look at my profile and give me any suggestions to make it better.?

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/9/2009 4:41:12 PM

blackpearl81

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quote:

ORIGINAL: maleslave5020

I just recently joined this site and would like to know what is the best way for me to set my profile up for results and hopefully get a mistress to accept me or atleast meet me in person for a interview if that how it works.?
It will also be good if you can take a look at my profile and give me any suggestions to make it better.?

Well...

Start off divulging some of your regular likes. Favorite authors/books, favorite bands/genres of music. What are some things that you're good at? Do you like cooking? Do you like sewing? Do you do windows? Are you an animal person? if so, what kind of animals do you like?

Anything that can tell the person whos viewing your profile who you are, and what your about.

Stuff like that. One of the best general rule of thumbs is this:

Person first. Dominant second.

Follow ^^ formula, and everything else is swiss cheese.

Oh yeah. 86 the talk about messenger/webcam. Nothing *may* scream "wank material" faster than mentioning IM's & webcams.

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/9/2009 4:41:53 PM

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My suggestion would be to put in there what you have to offer.

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/9/2009 4:46:31 PM

DarkSteven

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I'm a Dominant man but have plenty of experience with Dommes telling me of their turnoffs.

Your picture is good. It shows your face and that you're not out of shape. It's also tasteful and doesn't show anything obscene.

Your interests are good. They're not all kink related. In other words, you're a person first and a kinkster after that.

The profile as written says that you want to session. That's a part of a typical BDSM relationship and it seems really important to you now, but if you hook up with a Domme, that'll just fall into place in a relationship. I suggest that you emphasize some of the other things you like - picnics, etc.

I'd drop that last sentence. I assume that you've been pestered about pay sites before, but no genuine lifestyle Domme would push you to a site like that, and the ones that would push you, won;t read your profile or care.

You're a Muslim. If you'd be open to meeting Dommes outside Islam, I'd mention that.

Welcome to collarme!

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/9/2009 6:19:00 PM

CarrieO

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quote:

ORIGINAL: maleslave5020

I just recently joined this site and would like to know what is the best way for me to set my profile up for results and hopefully get a mistress to accept me or atleast meet me in person for a interview if that how it works.?
It will also be good if you can take a look at my profile and give me any suggestions to make it better.?

First let me say welcome.

About your profile...the first thing that I would suggest is that you change to coloring of the background and text you've chosen. My eyes went a little buggy when I tried to read it.

You seem to be more than a bit interested in having "person to person sessions" and you make a point of mentioning you have a webcam. You make it quite clear that you have no experience but then you talk about wanting to be a "sex slave or any other slave".

To be completely honest, I wouldn't be interested because you come across, in my opinion, as a "do-me" (I'm really sorry to use that description because I really don't like it but it's what I take from your profile). This will, however, attract the people who will do exactly what you say you don't want...ask for credit card info and want you to follow them to a pay site.

Like the others have said, your profile should be about who you are, what you offer and what your interests are...not just kink. You mention gorean lifestyle as a like...why? Have you read the books? You also list poetry as a like...why not post a poem you've written or one that is your favorite? You like movies? What types? Martial arts...what kinds?

See where I'm going with this? If you want quality, you need to advertise YOUR qualities and not a list of desires..much like writing a resume. Unless, of course, all you're interested in is fulfilling your desires and kink and not so much a relationship.

Oh, and get out into the community...attend a munch if possible. Look HERE for a listing of some local activities and groups.

Good luck and have fun doing your homework!

Oh...also, keep the picture you have posted. Its nice to see a man WITH his clothes on for a change

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/10/2009 3:28:51 AM

MsStarlett

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Welcome aboard. Read these forums. Respond. You'll at least get noticed and will probably make some friends.

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/11/2009 1:07:37 PM

maleslave5020

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Please check my profile again as i have updated it and let me know how it looks?

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/11/2009 10:41:50 PM

maleslave5020

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i added someone as a favorite on this site... how can i view the people i save in my favorite box.?

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/11/2009 11:12:24 PM

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i added someone as a favorite on this site... how can i view the people i save in my favorite box.?

From your profile page (or, I believe, any page other than the message boards), go to "home." Users on your favorites list will be in the lower left corner of the page. And welcome to the boards! I don't have much more to say than that, because everybody else already beat me to the good advice. Good luck, and hang in there... it can take a while sometimes. Don't get discouraged.

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/13/2009 1:41:13 PM

maleslave5020

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What is up with all this crack of crud... Most of the DOMME'S i contact want me to to a verification site to view them, where i have to put in my credit card # and oh man,, please tell me y that is and if that is safe.? for myself i dont think that is safe and worth pursuing but advice please

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/13/2009 8:56:24 PM

DarkSteven

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They're not Dommes. They're shills for pay sites.

A real person will talk with you. A shill will send you to a site. Just block, delete, and ignore them.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/13/2009 10:16:31 PM

DemonKia

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FR, after read thru

(See, I knew had use for a form-post for this particular topic . . . . )

For men: how to find a woman here

The first post in the thread I've linked to, above, is a sorta definitive statement on the subject & provides a basic foundation for making effective use of the dating tool which is 'teh intrawebs' . . ... . . & the info applies regardless of BDSM orientation . . . . .

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RE: for beginners to this site - 9/13/2009 11:27:23 PM

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Approach correspondence with women here as you would any actual human being. The women here who you would like to meet are humans first and dominants second. Most will be interested with who you are as a person before your kinks, sexual, and psuedo-sexual desires.

Just make yourself reflect who you actually are as a person, not what you think people want to hear.

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