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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Why do you expect women to adhere to a higher standard? People are people, no one sex or gender has cornered the market on stupid or short sightedness. If you judged men by the same standards you judged women, you would rule out the entire human race.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The op is only 23, her primary experience with groups of other women I venture to guess is not on a group of her mother's friends but from her school friends - all in the throes of puberty. Wait 20 years before you make pronouncements of this sort, I guarantee you will change your mind several times.

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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Why do you expect women to adhere to a higher standard? People are people, no one sex or gender has cornered the market on stupid or short sightedness. If you judged men by the same standards you judged women, you would rule out the entire human race.

Because women have just recently won any rights to 'equality' and I work hard to set a good example of what 'equality' is to me. When I see people treating others like shit, and it when it's my own gender, I get upset because we're all supposed to be working together to be bridging the gender gap. I want my daughter to live in a world where men don't treat her like a piece of meat just because she has a vagina and I want my son to live in a world where women respect him for more than just his money or looks.

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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

Because women have just recently won any rights to 'equality' and I work hard to set a good example of what 'equality' is to me.

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Firstly My experience has been quite different than the OP's. in over quarter of a century in the lifestyle I can honestly say that out of the hundreds (Or maybe thousands, I wasn't counting) "male subs" I've ever met I can count on the fingers of one hand those who came across as actually submissive to their Mistress rather than being a do-me bunny who's only actual submission was to their own dick!

I have seen more sulky brat behaviour from so called male subs than I have ever seen from femsubs. Also a difference in perception, I quite like a degree of child-like behaviour, however I have zero tolerance for child-ish behaviour.

Add to that the fact that I rarely just Top, so need a Dynamic that extends beyond simply the 'play' environment and My sexuality is straight so any Dynamic that touches on sexuality is going to rule out a male.... also, My flat and lifestyle doesn't have enough to warrant a  purely service submissive (My girl already complains about a lack of chores to do) and there simply isn't room in My life for a sub male. Nothing he could offer and nothing I am willing to give that would fulfil the needs of such.

Plus, if I did take on a service sub... a female is FAR more aesthetically pleasing to Me than any male so if I am going to have them in My home, doing chores when I am there, again I am going to choose a female over a male every time unless I am in the position to require a regular chore that needs a males strength.... given how infrequent that is the case currently I do those chores Myself! I'll turn the mattress (Pocket sprung and bloody heavy!), she can make the bed! (Not to mention that so many male subs are bloody wimps and couldn't do such chores any better than a female!)

Don't get Me wrong, I have played occassionaly with a male in the past and probably will in the future... most often it is when a Female Domme is asking for advice on some aspect of play technique and their boy just happens to be the most convenient demo bunny. I have no aversion to doing so, just no draw to have such in My regular life when there are far better options from My perspective.

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ORIGINAL: xoxkittenxox

I was refering to mostly submissive females. Dominant women are just plain bitchy.

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ORIGINAL: xoxkittenxox

Women are bitchy. I agree on this. ALL women are bitchy. I do not think I have ever met a woman that does not enjoy having a bitchy attitude. But, most are only bitchy toward other women. When it comes to a male, they act much differently. Sometimes they are bitchy, other times they are little cock whores who suck up and give the pouty eyes to get a cock in their mouth. I praise you on bringing up the topic. ^^ Very good points. Don't listen to the women who say you are bitchy about them being bitchy, because they just don't want to admit being bitchy because they want to appear "perfectly innocent and submissive" which is just NOT the case.

I think its the hormones. Then again, I have estrogen and, well, I don't NORMALLY act bitchy, unless someone provokes it. Kay, MAYBE I do when the mood feels right...

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ORIGINAL: yummee

Crap.  Apparently I'm shallow.  I generally prefer men because they are the ones who have the penises (peni?). 

Nope, that doesn't mean your shallow, that just means you have a preference. Me, I prefer women because after I get play, I like to hug and women have breasts, which can be sooooo soft. It just depends on what ya like.

Respectfully,

amy

P.S.  Do they make realistic strapons that pulse and squirt?

actually, I think they do, but it's never been something I wanted, so I have never looked into it.

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

P.S.  Do they make realistic strapons that pulse and squirt?

actually, I think they do, but it's never been something I wanted, so I have never looked into it.

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ORIGINAL: MsFlutter

Upon her departure from the from the National Women's Political Caucus, Shana Alexander summed it better than I ever could....

'The reason women are such crude, brutal and destructive combatants, I later decided, - the reason women fighters lack pace, grace, rhythm and mercy - is certainly not because we are subject to raging hormonal impulses as some men claim.  I think that the hair-trigger female fury, the surge to leap for the jugular at the merest drop of the glove, the readiness to 'drop the bomb on Luxembourg' results from the lack of a female tradition of chivalry'

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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

When I am interested in finding a submissive partner, and I'm not in a 'battle of the switching' I am only interested in male submissives. I am a straight female, so people would assume that this is what I would want, but I'm not necessarily looking for a straight partner to also engage in sexual play with either.

This morning when the dog woke me up too early, I just randomly landed on this subject to think about. I wondered why I never look for female submissives. I wouldn't care if she's straight or gay, just like I don't care if my males are straight or gay. It also doesn't have anything to do with the revulsion I have to the idea of lesbian sex, even though that does pop up in my head as something I'd have to cover to make it clear it won't happen.

My reason is that the women I've encountered in daily life and the submissives I've been around while in groups and going to munches have been predominantly rude, bitchy, pushy, and just plain annoying. Men can also be those things, but I don't take it so personally. When a woman acts like a child, I feel like she's trying to undermine women everywhere who have been fighting hard to be taken seriously in their lives. I expect people who are adults to act like adults instead of throwing temper tantrums. If a man did that, he'd get slapped with 'crazy' and women would avoid him if they were smart. If a woman does it, men still want to have sex with her.

If I am looking for a dominant, the same applies. I try to tone down the judgement, but I'm very harsh on my own gender because I have high expectations. I would be looking for a very long time if I were open to a female dominant rather than a male one. I realize there are tons of female dominants out there who are good people, but they would have to fit all the other requirements I would need if I were looking for a dominant partner.

So that's my reason that I am not interested in a females. I find the female body beautiful, but I dislike the general attitudes that come with it.

I realize there are a lot of bisexual or more open people than I am, but for those who only stick with one gender why do YOU do it? Is it as simple as no attraction to the other or is there another reason?