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TheInocent -> Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 2:03:45 PM)
Do you believe it to be unrealistic to look for a Master that is monogamous? I new to BDSM, but now I can't seem to fathom sex without it. Could a "Real" committed relationship take place? I mean, do you know of any?

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 2:07:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheInocent Do you believe it to be unrealistic to look for a Master that is monogamous? No. quote: Could a "Real" committed relationship take place? Yes. quote: ...do you know of any? Yes.

SweetNika -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 2:34:34 PM)
Not everyone is wired for monogomy if that is what you need in your life, in your relationships look for a man (dom) that wants the same thing as you. That being said I HATE the term real relationship because it suggests that any realationship that is not monogomous is not real.

daintydimples -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 2:36:55 PM)
Yes.

BeIgnited -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 3:50:31 PM)
Yes. My Master is monogamous.

NyDaddysGirl -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 3:52:01 PM)
Yes, I'm in a monogamous relationship. I wouldn't be involved with anyone that didn't want to be monogamous.

DesFIP -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 3:55:17 PM)
Us. We've been together over 7 years. Monogamy is our preferred style of interpersonal relationships. If you need that, don't accept less. Don't get into just any relationship when it's guaranteed to fail. Life being what it is, it is hard enough to deal with stresses when you are highly compatible. If you aren't, you haven't got much of a chance.

Wolf2Bear -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 4:22:44 PM)
All committed relationships are real. For many Masters, a monogamous relationship is very realistic for them and their partner. For others, no being monogamous is unrealistic simply because they aren't wired in that fashion. The same also applies to subs/slaves/switches.

lovingpet -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 4:54:37 PM)
Plenty of dominants are monogomous. If that is important to you, then find others for whom it is important also. It is simple compatability. lovingpet

littlewonder -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 5:35:47 PM)
Monogamous is the only way for me. I just can't do poly. It's not in me..been there done that, tried it, just about killed me.

DarkSteven -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 5:38:44 PM)
I would guess that some 60%-80% of the people I know on collarme are either in a monogamous relationship or are looking for one.

porcelaine -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 7:20:31 PM)
yes and i leave those desiring multiplicities and geometric shaped relationships to their own devices. porcelaine

kyraofMists -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 7:21:48 PM)
Yes, you can have monogamous relationship. However, it would be useful to have a really good idea of what that looks like for you. Does monogamous mean no playing of any kind with anyone else or just no sexual activity with others or... I dislike the idea that only monogamous relationships are real commitments. We are open poly and we are incredibly committed to each other. Commitment is not synonomous with foresaking all others. Knight's Kyra

onlyfreelycaged -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 7:23:33 PM)
yes, It's possible... I don't know how or why, but it is. I know this becouse of how many people try to flirt with me.. and the get all upset when they find out that they will never be my only one...

NihilusZero -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 7:24:48 PM)
This is a flatly rhetorical question as phrased. 1) You're asking if there are Doms who are not actively polyamorous. Duh. 2) You're asking if there are Doms who are not cheaters. Duh. The actual question is you seem to be curious about is whether you will be able to invite men who qualify under these two into your life...at which point, the answers aren't ones we can readily provide for you anymore.

Acer49 -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 8:21:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheInocent Do you believe it to be unrealistic to look for a Master that is monogamous? I new to BDSM, but now I can't seem to fathom sex without it. Could a "Real" committed relationship take place? I mean, do you know of any? I wont speak for anyone else. My preference has always been and always will be, a one to one relationship

Lordmanannan -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 8:55:43 PM)
I've tried the poly bit. I honor those that can maintain the time and commitment it takes to maintain those relationships, but it isn't within my "wiring". I believe there is a general consensus that we are all individuals in our own right, and there is no static type.

IronBear -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/10/2009 11:14:57 PM)
Monogamous relationship outside BDSM ... Been there, done that, have the t-shirt and show bag with scars to boot. Not a natural things for me, I'm poly all the way.

ranja -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/11/2009 1:31:59 AM)
My Master is monogamous... and He expects me to be so aswell... unfortunately we can't all have what we want...

Focus50 -> RE: Can you have a monogamous relationship? (9/11/2009 4:35:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheInocent Do you believe it to be unrealistic to look for a Master that is monogamous? I new to BDSM, but now I can't seem to fathom sex without it. Could a "Real" committed relationship take place? I mean, do you know of any? Monogamous relationships are the only kind that work for me. I also embrace an ownership dynamic; can't do that (when "burdened" with priciples and a conscience) if there isn't a greater mutual committment. But I get where you're coming from. Waaaay too many doms and "masters" adopt their title role as justification to screw around and manipulate naive subs.... Focus.

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