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Feeling guilty - 9/10/2009 2:25:32 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I have not discussed this with Master yet but i will tomorrow. I made a post about going away (thanks to all who gave me good suggestions). My vacation is in 19 days. I am happy and excited about seeing my entire family at one time. it will be 8 days 7 nights. Now Master told me to have fun so i will. it is strange though i almost feel guilty for going to have fun while he is stuck here working.I know it is silly but that is how i feel.

Do any other subs/slaves feel guilty whan they have to leave their Dom/Master alone?

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/10/2009 2:34:12 PM   
GabrielleSlave


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Status: offline 		i have not done that yet, but can easily imagine feeling the way you do if i did. i don't think it's odd at all; you spend your life making sure He is top priority and there you will be, having fun without Him lol! The best thing to do is to do what makes all us 's' types happy and OBEY YOUR ORDERS lol! Have fun!!

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gabrielle x

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/10/2009 3:57:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's natural for anyone in a strong, loving relationship to feel guilty or selfish for enjoying themselves while their partner is not able to. Take pictures, bring him cute presents, write him letters or do a journal. This will allow him to share afterwards.

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/10/2009 4:00:36 PM   
kallisto


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I think it's natural for anyone in a strong, loving relationship to feel guilty or selfish for enjoying themselves while their partner is not able to. Take pictures, bring him cute presents, write him letters or do a journal. This will allow him to share afterwards.



I agree with Des. The best thing you can do is to share your experiences with him afterwards. Not only will he know that you were thinking of him while you were away, but he will be filled with pride and joy knowing that you did enjoy yourself ... which is what he wants you to do.

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/10/2009 4:13:13 PM   
SweetNika


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Status: offline 		I don't agree that you should feel guilty for doing something without your partner (regardless of the label they were) because in my opinion in a healthy realtionship people need to be able to do things seperately as well as together. Especially if your owner is giving you his blessing and permission to go.

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/10/2009 4:43:15 PM   
dove967


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Status: offline 		Feeling guilty for going and having fun while Master is home and working?  Nope...can't see myself having that problem!lol

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/10/2009 5:04:14 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		Would it be so much better if we could share it together? Sure. Does he want me pining for him when I am doing something I have been looking forward to for a long time and don't get to do very often? Nope. His happiness is mine. If he is pleased by you going and having a great time, then by all means do it! You can think of him and including him in many ways just as Des suggested. Do some things while you are away that you think to yourself how pleased, impressed, excited, or whatever he will be of/for you when you return and you tell the stories and share the pictures. Maybe go out and try something you have wanted to and put off while you are away, especially if he's been prodding you go on and jump into it. The best thing you can do is come back with GREAT stories! Go create them! Have a great time!

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/11/2009 9:21:02 AM   
petmonkey


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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Do any other subs/slaves feel guilty whan they have to leave their Dom/Master alone?

Matt's littleone


Not usually, no. But then, this isn't a new, fresh relationship and We are used to having time apart as it's always been a required factor of His work and mine.
He has made it clear He enjoys His alone time and that i should enjoy mine.  If We felt a desire to do everything together all of the time, We'd have a discussion about co-dependency and what one or the other or both of Us were lacking in our lives to cause it.  But that's just how We roll and it's not for Everyone.


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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/11/2009 11:19:02 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		My girl certainly does... it is something I end up growling at her for.... If I have given permission for her to go somewhere then there is NOTHING for her to feel guilty for and in fact feeling guilty is detracting from what I want her to get from whatever the hell it is that I have given permission for, namely her to go have fun!

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/11/2009 12:57:13 PM   
sexisubi


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Status: offline 		sometimes but not really, i feel like ill just miss them. 

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/11/2009 1:12:03 PM   
porcelaine


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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Do any other subs/slaves feel guilty whan they have to leave their Dom/Master alone?


no i don't. i think time apart is healthy and makes us appreciative of the moments we have together that can be forgotten or taken for granted. its always the little things that seem so insignificant that we miss most when the other is not there. the only time i might feel guilt is if my partner is in need and my support or care would make a difference. otherwise if it involved a trip, work, or some other activity that requires a separation i try to make the most of it and give him lots of attention and tlc when i return.

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/11/2009 1:41:54 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		No. I don't. But I do feel anxious and over whealmed and I hate leaving him to do anything, even if it's a short period * I'm talking very short like 2 hours* I just do not like being away from him period.   If I can help it I try not to be gone on his days off, not to make plans to do anything that he can't come do with me on his days of. I can be a bit obsessive about that, and it's not cause I feel bad about him being alone, he'd be thrilled to be alone every now and then, but I am not happy to go off and not be around him as much as I can.

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

I have not discussed this with Master yet but i will tomorrow. I made a post about going away (thanks to all who gave me good suggestions). My vacation is in 19 days. I am happy and excited about seeing my entire family at one time. it will be 8 days 7 nights. Now Master told me to have fun so i will. it is strange though i almost feel guilty for going to have fun while he is stuck here working.I know it is silly but that is how i feel.

Do any other subs/slaves feel guilty whan they have to leave their Dom/Master alone?

Matt's littleone

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/11/2009 5:21:04 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		I'm flying back to New Zealand to see my family , for two weeks. Its been long delayed, in part because of Sirs cancer diagnosis, and do i feel guilty??  Heck no  -  i plan to sleep late, eat every thing that i can't get in the States, get lots of sight seeing done and just enjoy being back in the country of my birth.

Will i miss my Sir? Yes and no. I shall be somewhere that he has never been, so it won't be as if there is an empty space  in my day-to-day life, but there won't be anyone there that i love as much as my Sir. There won't be anyone there that understands me the way my Sir does. There won't be anyone there that can give me what i want the way my Sir does.

I shall enjoy going, and enjoy returning even more. It shall be a pleasure getting back to my "real" life.

All -in-all , there shall be no guilt in my enjoyment, but i expect to miss my Sir and our life together.
Holidays are GREAT!!!!!

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/12/2009 7:58:35 AM   
sparkelfairy


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Status: offline 		If it helps you might think of it this way. Your Master told you to have fun and I am sure you want to abey and please your Master. So by doing so you are following his wishes for you. Yes its ok to miss him. My Master and I are apart this weekend and I too was told to have fun. When he returns monday I will have things to tell him of what I have done. So have a good time. I will be.

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/12/2009 8:14:12 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		Speaking of guilt   -   i bought a chocolate cake with raspberrys in it. I love raspberries. Sir     -    not so much!

I hid it in the fridge.

And that is where it stayed.
I felt so guilty about buying something that Sir doesn't like that i couldn't eat it. I wanted to, but just couldn't bring myself to do it.

After two weeks, i ended up throwing it out, untouched by human hands. *sigh*  it looked so good too.

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/14/2009 7:35:50 AM   
andreaC


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Status: offline 		I just came back from a 4-day little trip with one of my friend and her daughter.  I felt the same way, leaving Master, not being there for him, not being able to talk to him.  He also told me to enjoy and have some fun, but the guilt feeling has never left me until i spoke to him.  It was the first time i was separated from him that long.  When i came back, i felt like jumping on him yummmmmmmmmmmmmyyyyy.

Try to enjoy the time with your family :)




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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/14/2009 8:25:32 AM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

Speaking of guilt   -   i bought a chocolate cake with raspberrys in it. I love raspberries. Sir     -    not so much!

I hid it in the fridge.

And that is where it stayed.
I felt so guilty about buying something that Sir doesn't like that i couldn't eat it. I wanted to, but just couldn't bring myself to do it.

After two weeks, i ended up throwing it out, untouched by human hands. *sigh*  it looked so good too.


Ya know, as much as I loved my ex, if there was chocolate in the fridge that she didn't want, it would be history. Of course with her, the problem would have been getting her to share it, but if she hadn't wanted any, then it would not have been a problem for me. Personally I think you should be fined for chocolate abuse, but I am not that crazy about raspberries, so we will let it slide this time.

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/14/2009 8:38:54 AM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		I never feel guilty about buying or eating something Daddy doesn't like, in fact my attitude is yum more for me!   But then I can be greedy

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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/14/2009 5:12:33 PM   
leadership527


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
I think it's natural for anyone in a strong, loving relationship to feel guilty or selfish for enjoying themselves while their partner is not able to. Take pictures, bring him cute presents, write him letters or do a journal. This will allow him to share afterwards.
Yeah, what Des said. I'm the dominant in our marriage, and I've felt pretty bad that Carol took the brunt of the packing for our recent move. But that was just the way things worked out given our own innate talents and dispositions.

I wouldn't worry about it too much if I were you. Over time there'll be another event where you are left saddling the daily workload while he goes off and plays somewhere. These things [hopefully] even out over time.


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RE: Feeling guilty - 9/15/2009 11:03:11 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I talked to Master and i don't feel as guilty. He told me not to feel guilty, if it make it eaiser I am ordering you to have a good time. Since i always follow his orders i guess i will have a good time. He even told me where i can rent a wave runner because i really want to do the. it is a blast.

Thank you for all your resopnses.

Matt's littltone

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