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typesgirl -> Reactions to First Play Party (2/27/2006 12:13:40 PM)
Master recently took me to my first play party. Everyone there was wonderful, intelligent, sexy, and accepted and respected Master’s limits for me. After W/we left the party I was soaring! I couldn’t wait for the next party. I felt addicted for days and days after, looking forward to my very next chance to show off for Master. The next play party was planned for two weeks away and I anticipated it with everything I had. Sadly, Master and I both got sick a few days before the party and weren’t able to attend. I expected to feel very disappointed by not being able to go but in reality it felt as if it was no big deal, even less than that. It may have been a bit of a relief to have a good reason not to go. I can’t quite figure out this reaction so I’m asking here to see what others have felt after their first play party. I do not regret anything that happened at the party; I’m proud of all of my participation and there is nothing that I did at the first party I wouldn’t eagerly do again so I don’t get my reaction. The only mitigating factor between the two parties is that I became a bit more aware of some of the politics that seem to go on in the group but none of these issues effect me at all and none of them would have changed my behavior at the party. I’m stumped! typesgirl

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (2/27/2006 12:15:40 PM)
Parties take a lot of energy, usually planning and money as well. Yes they are great things, and I usually enjoy them a lot. But you can enjoy something and still enjoy a break from it as well.

DragonNphoenix -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (2/27/2006 12:22:53 PM)
I have not been to a play party. I am not sure how I would react in the setting. I would like to think that I would be a credit to My Dragon. 1st Girl Phoenix

krikket -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (2/27/2006 12:58:00 PM)
Over the years i've been to a couple of play parties, both private and ones run by an area group. While i didn't play at any of them, i found them amazing and fun and i'd love to go back one day. The people there were super, interesting and delightful. Hope y'all get to go again soon... jimini

Jasmyn -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (2/27/2006 3:53:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: typesgirl The only mitigating factor between the two parties is that I became a bit more aware of some of the politics that seem to go on in the group. Ahh group dynamics ya either love the politics or hate the politics. You are not alone, plenty of people have found themselves less than enthusiastic about group run play parties because of behind the scenes dramas and the various networks keeping the dramas alive and well for their own agendas. Let the politics roll right off ya and enjoy the moment for you and your Master.

Sensualips -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (2/27/2006 9:50:30 PM)
I really enjoy play parties, but once in a while I find myself feeling very apathetic during. When I am feeling a bit of burnout a play party can either pull me out of that and rejuvenate me...or it can intensify the feeling of disconnect and sense of ennui. I think a some of it is the energy of the setting and the people, and weird tensions or politics can affect that. Maybe I am just sensitive to that type of thing. But most of it is just my frame of mind going in. This weekend I was DETERMINED to really relax and enjoy this Mardi Gras party. I had fun dressing up and seeing some familiar faces I had missed over the last few months, but overall I still couldn't quite get there. I try not to stress and obsess over it though.

MsPurrmeow -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (2/28/2006 9:11:34 AM)
Ignore the politics. Keep going to munches and parties, just shut your mind down on the politics. There are politics in any group that manages to find a gathering space and play together. Politics are necessary to a degree. A group without politics is a group that's lying to you. It's important that some people stay out of them and just keep the energy going. If and when somewhere down the line you want to devote some time, then go ahead and get involved. The group needs your energy, so keep your head clear. Politics in kink groups is a vicious circle. It needs to happen to have events that bring people in, but the politics then scares away the new and excited folks. It drains the energy. It helps everyone if there are some that ca just stay excited about the play parties without getting bogged down. Good luck... and do go to more. Go there with the same innocent outlook that you did the first party. It's worth it for everyone. Ignoring the politics is your right as a new person.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (2/28/2006 9:52:32 AM)
quote: I’m asking here to see what others have felt after their first play party. it was fabulous!!! something this slave had previously expected only to encounter at a "professional" place in amsterdam! (ok, so this slave was a bit "sheltered" in some areas...[:)]) the opportunity to share the energy with other folks into their own scenes or just observing has since been an uplifting, educational and often erotic experience for this slave!! after three years of going to parties at various locations, held by various groups, this slave has to say there have been very few negative experiences...but then, this slave isn't one to get sucked in by the group politic, and Master prefers His slave's focus to be on Him, anyway!!! Master's pleasure is paramount~if tomorrow He decided to never attend another party this slave would have no longing or disappointment within herself to contend with. this slave has viewed it from the first play party as a function of the relationship--Master enjoys going, has been attending play parties for decades, and made it clear from the beginning it would be something He would be taking His slave to. it is definitely a bonus when this slave has a fun time wherever it is that we go and there have been times when Master has planned for us to go and something came up and we couldn't~this slave is then disappointed for MASTER, because He is very social and enjoys parties, but not for self.

typesgirl -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (2/28/2006 5:29:19 PM)
Thank you all so much for all your insightful responses. I think the only way I'll know for sure is to ask Master if We can attend another party soon....I think I may actually be looking forward to it. :) thanks! typesgirl

EvilGeoff -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (2/28/2006 6:37:36 PM)
Play parties are hot, wicked fun! But then I am an exhibitionist and love the attention. For me, the audience becomes part of the scene, their energy and excitement mingling with my own, boosting the scene to another level of intensity. I don't focus on the people watching me, but I can feel them, and with a good crowd I hit top-space and zoooom! grins I enjoy watching others at play almost as much as putting on the show. I can feel the energy and want to feed on it, share it, add my own to the equation. OMG I love an intense, hard scene! And if you ever get the chance to watch LA in a scene, you'll enjoy it too! waggles his eyebrows@LA YIK, - Geoff

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Reactions to First Play Party (3/1/2006 6:01:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EvilGeoff waggles his eyebrows@LA YIK, - Geoff Man I GOTTA make priority for TITM...I'm missing a lot of good west coast action apparently :) Thanks!

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