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Aneah -> advice needed (9/14/2009 11:31:52 AM)
Hi, I`m totally new to all this, but willing to try. But I am not so certan about a Dom I met. At first he looked ok, we talked and it was all fine. Later I met a female slave and asked her about him. She said she knows about him. Her punishment from her own Master is to give herself to the Dom I asked her about. He wanted her to break some orders from hers real Master. That was strange to me. Second was when I was talking to a girl and didn`t know she was his good friend, but she promissed me not to tell him what we were talking about. But he made her tell him, threathend her. I am getting a little scared of him. Am I jut beeing paranoid? Thank you

Chimortis -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 12:00:32 PM)
Welcome to drama. Run away - far, far away - if you value your own sanity. More so if this is online drama. Seriously, people who are surrounded by drama are just going to bring it into your life if you become deeply involved in theirs. I'm curious, what did he threaten her with? Is this going above and beyond spankings or telling her Owner, or what? If she is not his girl, he probably shouldn't be threatening her in a way that violates her boundaries. You should also consider that he cannot make you tell him anything if you are not his girl, which you never said you were. If you are new and getting into the online BDSM scene, please do NOT assume that you must obey everyone with a capital letter in front of their name who claims to be Dominant. Take care and be safe!

VirginPotty -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 12:04:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aneah Hi, I`m totally new to all this, but willing to try. But I am not so certan about a Dom I met. At first he looked ok, we talked and it was all fine. Later I met a female slave and asked her about him. She said she knows about him. Her punishment from her own Master is to give herself to the Dom I asked her about. He wanted her to break some orders from hers real Master. That was strange to me. Second was when I was talking to a girl and didn`t know she was his good friend, but she promissed me not to tell him what we were talking about. But he made her tell him, threathend her. I am getting a little scared of him. Am I jut beeing paranoid? Thank you My head hurts trying to decipher this mess. Anyone have an aspirin?

Aneah -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 12:13:45 PM)
They both said she is his friend nothing more. She didn`t want to tell me what the threat was, to humiliating she said. And I wanted to ask someone before I beggin anything with him, so, no, I`m not his girl

olderm4youngerf -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 2:11:13 PM)
when in doubt walk away it is that simple you decice for your self your future there are to few murders in this country to worry that what happened on the news last nigt will happen to you our society is becoming to weak scared and timid

lally2 -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 2:57:00 PM)
this is easy: if youre already getting grief and its not any fun move right along. in fact maintain that mantra with all subsequent contacts. this is supposed to be adult fun, if the people involved cant be adult and arent being fun then they have already failed to get the point of this. do youreself a favour and get in tune with youre instincts, listen to them and act on them, they are and will always be youre bestest friend.

Arpig -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 3:16:22 PM)
You have to ask yourself if you want to be with the sort of person who other Doms use as punishment, the sort of person who would deliberately try to get a slave to disobey her Master, the kind of person who would threaten a supposed friend in order to get them to reveal a confidence? Is this really the sort of person you can see yourself being with? If your answer is yes, then go for it and best of luck to you both, however if not,then just walk away...very easy really.

Aneah -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 3:28:02 PM)
Thank you all for answering. I had similar thoughts but like I said, I`m new, and thought maybe I`m missing something here, so I decided to ask.

Viridana -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 4:28:17 PM)
Follow your gut instincts. If you get an eerie feeling about certain people, then most likely it's right. Don't tuck your common sense into your wardrobe drawer for safekeeping, it is needed just as much with bdsm relations as with vanilla. Good luck in your endeavours.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 7:53:06 PM)
If this was a guy you were interested in dating in the vanilla world, what would you do? Master Fire

OsideGirl -> RE: advice needed (9/14/2009 8:41:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aneah They both said she is his friend nothing more. She didn`t want to tell me what the threat was, to humiliating she said. Wow, some friend. Dunno know about you, but I don't threaten my friends.

Focus50 -> RE: advice needed (9/15/2009 3:52:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aneah Hi, I`m totally new to all this, but willing to try. But I am not so certan about a Dom I met. At first he looked ok, we talked and it was all fine. Later I met a female slave and asked her about him. She said she knows about him. Her punishment from her own Master is to give herself to the Dom I asked her about. He wanted her to break some orders from hers real Master. That was strange to me. Second was when I was talking to a girl and didn`t know she was his good friend, but she promissed me not to tell him what we were talking about. But he made her tell him, threathend her. I am getting a little scared of him. Am I jut beeing paranoid? Thank you Since you're new, you might find it a whole bunch simpler to totally ignore the BDSM angle here and ask yourself if you'd tolerate this kind of childish melodrama amongst your vanilla friends and acquaintances. Or would you find new friends? Focus.

AnimusRex -> RE: advice needed (9/15/2009 8:26:30 AM)
I agree with the pother posters here- BDSM is, for some people, a license to behave boorishly as if the normal rules of civility and social interaction are magically suspended.

Lashra -> RE: advice needed (9/15/2009 9:14:00 AM)
To much drama To much talking behind each others backs Not enough trust Him threatening other subs/slaves etc etc... Do you really want to get involved in something like this? Think about it. ~Lashra

bravemax -> RE: advice needed (9/16/2009 5:45:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AnimusRex ...BDSM is, for some people, a license to behave boorishly as if the normal rules of civility and social interaction are magically suspended. Yes, yes, yes. [sm=cheering.gif]

thishereboi -> RE: advice needed (9/16/2009 5:54:57 PM)
Trust your gut feelings, If your feeling scared move on to people you feel comfortable around. Has your freind told her master that this guy has threatened her?

Rhodes85 -> RE: advice needed (9/16/2009 7:21:22 PM)
Trust your instincts. In this case my instincts tell me to run away from that situation faster than peg bundy on a box of bonbons [:D]

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