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sexisubi -> only bisexually submissive? (9/15/2009 9:32:39 PM)

ok i know we have pretty much burned this topic to the ground, however i cant help but wonder... if prefrences change if that of your masters change?

like i am not bisexual, however i have played with women before with Doms in the past. i mean what guy doesnt ever think about having a threesome and if they liked it and want to do it again would you, and youre straight?


or would you consider adding another if they said they wanted to?



worthlesstrash -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/15/2009 10:37:22 PM)

i used to be bisexual, but i left that part behind me. i have made it pretty clear to my Master that i don't want to do it anymore. The choice now becomes His if it's something He desires for me to do. i know it's different for others, but when i gave myself to Him, i did it in totality and that means my right to make those choices.

It's not something that is right for everyone, but it works for me.



Sunnyfey -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/15/2009 10:51:50 PM)

I don't know if it's so much that you are changing YOUR sexuality, then that you are OBEYING your Master's command.

To me, if you would not actively seek out a relationship with either sex, regardless of the feelings of others (lets not throw poly into this right now to keep it simple) then you are not bi-sexual.



sexisubi -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/15/2009 11:01:43 PM)

i absolutely understand, its all about opinions, and you make a great point after a time pretty much anything asked is provided because of the caring relationship that has evolved. so i can understand your possition thank you.



littlewonder -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 3:46:59 AM)

I'm straight. I have zero interest in other women. I've been with other women though for the sake of my partners. I would probably apprehensively do it again but I would not be happy and not the least bit thrilled by the encounter. We'd be having to have a looong discussion about it before it ever happened for me to be ok with it mentally, emotionally.



DesFIP -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 4:24:41 AM)

I'm straight.
That being so I couldn't pleasure another woman without it being obvious to her that I found her undesirable. And I can't imagine that as being at all pleasant for her. It would be like some gay guy going down on me and running off to the bathroom every minute to wash me off of him.

I wouldn't enjoy it, she wouldn't enjoy it, and I would resent him big time for forcing me to do this. And it would have to be true force, manipulation on the lines of do this or I leave.

I hope that if it ever came down to it I would have sense enough during the moment to tell him to leave first. Because I know that afterwards the relationship would be permanently harmed. So why not end it before instead of after?

But he knew this before hand and accepts it. If he wanted someone who was bi, he would have looked for someone bi. I'm not.



RavenMuse -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 4:44:58 AM)

Slightly a different take on it but My girls natural affinity re-asserted itself over the time she has been Mine.... before Me she had two years with a lying cheating muppet who tried to excuse it by labelling it Poly. Hence she was nervous of Poly when she came to Me, knowing it was part of the package deal and that she couldn't cherrypick. I'm Poly deal with it.

she has learned that Poly has nothing to do with lies and cheating, it is honest, up front, caring and foremost about the people, the chemistry and the connections not about screwing around. she has found a situation she has always been drawn to, what she is naturally compatible with, but that she had lost believe in the fact that it could be real until she became part of My household and learned otherwise.

Funny enough, her bi sexual attraction to females has also come more to the surface, confident in being able to express it without some dork using it as a route to get in the other girls knickers. If there is a three way spark then great, if there isn't then she can ask for permission and I'm not interested (Much to the dismay of one young lady who thought showing interest in My girl was a route to Me... no chemistry means not interested LOL).

It is just one way that My girl has found the freedom and support in truely being herself, by being Owned by Me [:)]



marie2 -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 5:01:47 AM)

I consider myself straight, but I do have a streak of bi-curiosity.  I would never pursue a woman alone, but I would consider "co-serving" a male dom with another female, but the dominant would have to be present and orchestrating the whole thing.  That is the only circumstance under which I would consider that type of involvement.



OsideGirl -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 7:13:37 AM)

I'm really bi. I've had relationships with women without any male involved.



sexisubi -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 7:35:04 AM)

thank you all for your responses. I think its safe to say for someone we love things are different, i personally could never consider adding another into the relationship because i consider myself straight as well however if someone i loved and cared about asked it of me i would most likely do it but as littlewonder said, there would need to be a conversation, and many of them at that. I respect the position on polyhouseholds. going deeper in my mind set and probably going to stir up some contriversy, i feel that adding another is dangerous because at first its a compitition, who can get more attention from the master or its a food chain ones lower then everyone else, which is usually the only way it works.

i believe once before i talked about the fact that my old boyfriend knew he wasnt providing me with the things i needed, in return i looked else where found a master online. at the same time he, the boy friend, thought it would be better to try and be more dominate, at the end of the day serving two people was more then a full time job! finally i broke down, and couldnt serve both full heartedly. instead of making a choice i made the choice to drop them both, and just focus on me, probably one of my better desitions. what i learned from that experiance was you cant have two people or add another to fill the holes in any relationship. in reality i am more of a 1 man chick. however i feel it could work for others, as long as they are not adding to fill gaps.

as Des said as well without the curiousity, it probably wouldnt be enjoyable for the person involved that wasnt into it. I would agree with this. i have done things with women in the past, however asked to do it again and i am sure that i would not be too happy, and perhaps the resentment would be there but i also know that no one can truely 'force you' to do anything you do it cause you want to cause you feel obligated because you can, i didnt say want, because you can. so the resentment hopefully would be brief for any submissive, but that doesnt mean its not going to be there, and yes it could put a huge strain on the relationship.  that is my answer to my own question but i would still love to hear your thoughts regarding it, everyone is different and had different opinions and it might open up my eyes to a new light, which is always what im hoping for.

**you is in general not directed at anyone inparticular.



RavenMuse -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 8:04:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sexisubi
i feel that adding another is dangerous because at first its a compitition, who can get more attention from the master or its a food chain ones lower then everyone else, which is usually the only way it works.


Only if the "Master" is ....

a) Stupid enough not to be watching for any signs of it
b) Too lazy, incompetent or not Dominant enough to effectively nip it in the bud or worse, fuckwitted enough to want that sort of idiot competition to feed his fragile ego.
c) hasn't thought through what He wants to build and lets it slip into something else.
d) is with someone who isn't Poly, is himself not actually Poly or introduces someone new into the equation someone who isn't actually Poly. Too often I've faced the "I'll try"... I no longer accept that, they either are or they are not. IF not then they are simply not compatible.



allthatjaz -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 9:44:55 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexisubi

ok i know we have pretty much burned this topic to the ground, however i cant help but wonder... if prefrences change if that of your masters change?

like i am not bisexual, however i have played with women before with Doms in the past. i mean what guy doesnt ever think about having a threesome and if they liked it and want to do it again would you, and youre straight?


or would you consider adding another if they said they wanted to?



Yes but never with a straight female

Thinking about it, I have had more relationships with women than with men and that wasn't for any other reason than I feel equally comfortable with both.

I'm slightly different in that I am a switch and when I am with a female then I want to Dominate her. This works well because its a three way choice. If I don't fancy her then I'm not even going to consider it and if she is obviously not bi then I am not going to consider it either.
We recently went down the line of me being sub with another sub female but as time went on I just became more and more Dominant. It was a hoot and we all had a good laugh about it in the end.
I tried... I really did but that fucking dominant side of me will be the death of me one of these days.

Edited to answer your questions.

It would depend on his choice and if she wasn't who I wanted the answer would be no



Missokyst -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 2:31:33 PM)

I would call a bi-sexual as someone who enjoys playing with a member of their own sex. 
And a situational bi-sexual, someone who does it because it comes up, whether that is college experimentation, or some guy wants to you to do it and you agree. 
They MAY or may not enjoy it, but they have to be ok with it.   It might be just a task in their head or they might think.. hmmm... and why am I with this guy?  People who are not ok with it are going to balk, or resent the person who put them in this position.

I am straight, almost pathologically so, so I would not do it.  Nor would I get my partner another couple of girls so he could have the experience.  If he wanted to do that, he probably is not someone I would consider suitable for me.  And I don't really care what casual players want to do on their own time.  If it was something he wanted chances are likely I would know enough to move on because for me it would always be an issue.

I am monogamous.  I prefer men who share that desire.



sexisubi -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 3:43:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I am monogamous.  I prefer men who share that desire.


i would agree with this for myself as well.



Eivarden -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 4:02:34 PM)

I'd be what ever my partner wants me to be, BUT something that you said did bring to mind a thought I once had.

quote:

if prefrences change if that of your masters change?


People ask why arnt I gay or Bi, considering what I want, is more common from a male dom, and nearly impossible from a female dom.

But if I were to be gay/Bi, those very same traits I HATE in guys.
I find it funny, but then again, maybe someone else feels the same way, or similar.



Andalusite -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 8:04:14 PM)

I'm heteroflexible (bi leaning strongly toward men), but I can't cope with me or my partner having casual sex with other people. Outside BDSM play is fine - I currently have a female submissive playpartner, and my Master plans to co-top her with me. I wouldn't mind him playing with other people on similar terms. If I were going to have sex with someone else, it would need to be with a specific person I was attracted to, in a polyfidelitous relationship.



Acer49 -> RE: only bisexually submissive? (9/16/2009 8:44:56 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: sexisubi

ok i know we have pretty much burned this topic to the ground, however i cant help but wonder... if prefrences change if that of your masters change?

like i am not bisexual, however i have played with women before with Doms in the past. i mean what guy doesnt ever think about having a threesome and if they liked it and want to do it again would you, and youre straight?


or would you consider adding another if they said they wanted to?



Been there, done that, highly overated



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