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RE: Dominant vs Dom/meliness - 3/1/2006 7:00:14 AM

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I am what I am, nothing more, nothing less, I am Dominant--I command, I rule, it is My world--yet I look and sound ( as many of My esteemed Domme friends) like the girl next door--BUT don't cross Me or not deliver an order---<smiles>

My boy is strong, opinionated, dominating in his need and desire to serve and please Me--yet he bends head and knee for the Mistress.

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RE: Dominant vs Dom/meliness - 3/1/2006 12:46:20 PM

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Hmmm

i don't have a "nice guy Dom." my Master is pretty damn tough. i wouldn't call him a hard ass, but he is a hard Master to please and demands hard work out of me.

Fantasy? Maybe, but if so, i'm living my fantasy!

i am assertive at work, etc. That does not mean i have a domme side, it just means i am assertive at work. Throw me into a situation that needs cleaning up and i will be organizing and directing... But i am not dominant.

Simply V you touched on a pet peeve of mine. It is easier to be submissive? Just do as told and take beatings? If only it were that easy. Maybe that's what submission is for some...but not all. i know my submission to my Master entails a LOT more than that...and is quite challenging, to say the least. i think it is fair to say that both positions are difficult in many ways, but the difficulties differ from each other.

Umm.. if your Master requires more of you than just a doing as your told, and taking a beating if you don't. Then I don't see how I offended you?

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In many ways.. Its much easier as a submissive, to just do as your told, take a beating for wrong behavior.. than be with a "nice guy/gal" Dominant who loves you, and requires that intimate level of love from you, stands by you, helps you grow, who wants to know everything about you and lovingly devours you.

When emotions are involved, conversations, love, etc... Things get harder than just serving and taking the punishment for bad service.

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RE: Dominant vs Dom/meliness - 3/1/2006 10:18:03 PM

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i wasn't offended personally. It is only that statements which make servitude sound simplistic are a pet peeve of mine. i tend to think submission is a lot more complex than what was described.

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RE: Dominant vs Dom/meliness - 3/1/2006 10:27:55 PM

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We totally understand.

My Master is a Gentleman Dom. He is well spoken, doest swear in general, and is a 'nice' guy. The problem is that some submissives have said...' i dont think that you are dominent enough' or 'you are too tame' or worse yet...' you sound like a switch'. He is very much a Dom and the Master in our relationship.

Being a Dom/Master does not mean that you have to be a jerk.

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RE: Dominant vs Dom/meliness - 3/2/2006 3:40:48 AM

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I'm a pretty easy to get along with person and I've also been dominant all my life. My sub likes to test the boundaries at times and I'll let him to a point and then I put my stiletto heeled foot down. I've been told by many other Domme's that I'm too easy going, that I need to be a hard ass that it is what subs crave. My response is everyone has their own style and people not being cut from cookie cutters, Im sure not all subs want a hard ass Mistress. I'm the Domme I will do it my way regardless of what anyone else thinks. I am happy and so is my sub and that is what counts.

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RE: Dominant vs Dom/meliness - 3/2/2006 3:56:02 AM

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My response is everyone has their own style and people not being cut from cookie cutters, Im sure not all subs want a hard ass Mistress. I'm the Domme I will do it my way regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Well said dear. Much the same as my own attitude. IF that many subs really do want someone two dimentional then it'll just take me longer to find what I'm looking for. I'm not about to stop being me simply because the odds are against me, isn't that part of what being a Dom/me is about? Knowing who you are well enough to stand up and be counted even when things aren't going your way.

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