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May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 2:01:16 PM   
SubOnlyForHim


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Status: offline 		This one so feels she can do nothing to please Sir this week. Does anyone have a rock big enough my big butt will fit under to just hide/wait it out till maybe possibly something might not come out wrong????

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 2:08:11 PM   
NyDaddysGirl


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Status: offline 		I feel your pain.  I'm having the week from hell too.  I think I've sufficiently pissed everyone off around me except for my Daddy.  I'm just hoping to get through the weekend without also pisssing him off too.

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 2:19:51 PM   
Sunnyfey


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Status: offline 		Ditto! *hugs* I'm sorry your having a crappy week. Keep your chin up and try harder, it'll get better. (yeah trying harder sucks, I know....)

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 2:26:46 PM   
SubOnlyForHim


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Status: offline 		As the saying goes "Misery loves company"  right? It is at least nice to not be the only one whose foot is lodged in her mouth at the moment..and this one just got it tattooed a couple days ago. It is very uncomfortable for it to stay lodged in my throat!

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 3:36:26 PM   
leadership527


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SubOnlyForHim
This one so feels she can do nothing to please Sir this week. Does anyone have a rock big enough my big butt will fit under to just hide/wait it out till maybe possibly something might not come out wrong????
Heh, take heart. i'm the dom in my relationship and I have weeks like this too. From my side it looks like, "Every command I give somehow comes out wrong. Those that should've pleased her, pissed her off. Those that should've pissed her off were shrugged aside." The great god Murphy afflicts us D types too.


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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 3:56:42 PM   
SubOnlyForHim


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Status: offline 		It is only getting worse. Sir told me to be quiet, not talk to Him anymore today.  UGH

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 4:00:17 PM   
SubOnlyForHim


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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 5:38:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SubOnlyForHim

It is only getting worse. Sir told me to be quiet, not talk to Him anymore today.  UGH


maybe you need some quiet time. you're working yourself into a frenzy and you're already feeling frustrated. sitting still and allowing your mind to relax will restore order. right now you're on edge and your emotions are guiding your words and actions. i'd suggest a much needed time out so you can wind down and regain some calm. good luck.

porcelaine


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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 5:45:05 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		Meditate with me!!! Oooohhhhhhhmmmmmm...... I am a peaceful lily floating down a stream....

merrily merrily drifting along...

Yeah... submissive state or no... at times it feels like I cannot do anything right.

Or times where I think I am doing something correctly ends up being totally wrong.


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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 5:50:53 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		i agree with porcelaine.... Try to step back and relax. My experience with these situations is the harder i try to 'fix' them or the harder i try to do the right thing or please Him or whatever the more on edge i become...the more i become stressed out the more sideways all my comments begin comming out..the more i'm actually pushing Him away..the more He becomes frustrated with me... And things begin breaking down around us......
Try and take a time out...Do you practice relaxation? Try it...If not....Do you read any fiction? Do you color? Do you draw? Do you exercise? Do you walk? Do you have a pet? Do you clean? Do you have playdough or modeling clay? i think you get the idea...Find some way to just get you outside of your own head....
Good luck,
Kali

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 5:59:13 PM   
SubOnlyForHim


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Status: offline 		He is at work now. This one is ready to smash her phone and computer so as not to be able to message Him at all.  *Sigh*  Going to see if the boy is feeling alright and maybe we'll go for a walk.

Thanks. This one should learn to meditate  or just keep her damn foot out of her mouth!

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 6:02:15 PM   
a100010001000


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Status: offline 		That's what the cane is for.  Then all is forgiven.

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 6:42:13 PM   
kallisto


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Status: offline 		I agree with the others who have said you need some time to yourself.   Quiet time or time to do something that relaxes you and  lets your mind rest.   porcelaine said it .. a much needed time out.     I too have had weeks like that.   (Thankfully this week hasn't been one of them).    I'm sure there are many of us that know exactly what you're going through.   It's not so much misery loves company as those of  us that know, definitely feel your pain. 

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 6:57:16 PM   
SubOnlyForHim


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Status: offline 		If only.....if it were so simple as to a little physical aggression to be taken out, this one's masochistic side would gladly accept that, but Sir knows it punishes this one much more to not speak to her. Physical punishment would not truly be punishment at all. Darn me for being honest with Him that this one likes that, really really likes that!  lol

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/18/2009 7:22:19 PM   
worthlesstrash


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Status: offline 		I did the same thing tonight..big time, so I know how you feel. He says everything is okay and he was the one that messed up, but I find I am taking it all on myself.

Hopefully I will have forgotten about it all tomorrow and something wonderful I do to please him will just erase it.

Wishing you the best.


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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/19/2009 4:57:05 AM   
Zechriel


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Status: offline 		Good morning!
Oh those type of days or weeks as it may be. Usually I just either am real quiet and Daddy gives me basic things to do or if it is real bad and a few times I have been especially bratty (months ago) he will not punish me right away, as someone said with the cane. He just made me undress, turn on the electric blankie (winter) and go to sleep early. Then he left me alone. If I woke up and came out, he would quietly, lead me back into bed, hold me until I got sleepy again, and then would leave. Next day I felt much better, and was so much more devoted to him than if he had just beat me. Of course, then I also got my punishment-no sodas or chips for 2 weeks-but I did it cause he recognized that something inside me was wrong and yet needy and yet still loved him even though I was pushing it. He could have really let me go then but saw thru it all and we are still together. In fact after that, he took away my limits and made me his slave rather than sub so that he could always take care of me. Hope that helps, good luck!
Love,
Zechriel


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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/19/2009 5:08:38 AM   
daintydimples


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Status: offline 		Certain personalities find it very difficult to give themselves a time out, especially when they really need it. I know this, I am one.

For the OP: Do you do any journaling at all? I have found that helps get my thoughts and emotions out. There are times I've had to write pages and pages. Eventually I get to to where I can read it all back with a much clearer idea of what the core issue is and how best to communicate it.

Hope this helps.


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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/19/2009 8:35:05 AM   
OrionAndi


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Certain personalities find it very difficult to give themselves a time out, especially when they really need it. I know this, I am one.

For the OP: Do you do any journaling at all? I have found that helps get my thoughts and emotions out. There are times I've had to write pages and pages. Eventually I get to to where I can read it all back with a much clearer idea of what the core issue is and how best to communicate it.

Hope this helps.

Good Post!

I do that alot, in a slightly different way. Its difficult for me to express things verbally sometimes so I write Orion a letter.. expressing everything.. while writing it I tend to release my emotions. When i write this letter I have no intension of actually giving it to him and never do.. but i find it helps alot as I read through it and start to rationalize what it is I am feeling helping me to communicate my wants with him which helps him understand it better instead of me having a blow out and dropping everything on him at once which does get his back up!

It really does help.

Andi x



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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/19/2009 12:45:21 PM   
slaveToKnight


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Status: offline 		I'm having one of those days too, it started off ok but went downhill, making the stupidest mistakes ever. Hugs to all those here that are having that kind of day too.

OP I think you are like me and punish yourself way more than your Sir does? Especially if he doesn't talk to you and you have time to think (too much time?).

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RE: May I just vent???? - 9/20/2009 10:52:07 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		maybe, just maybe, you're not doing or saying anything wrong, but you're being punished because he's the one having the bad day, rough week or whatever. i see it more times than not, but god forbid that he admit to it or admit to being an asshole because he's the dom. it's a bunch of bullshit but it happens a lot and happens to the best of us!

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