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Ialdabaoth -> RE: Communication (9/21/2009 9:46:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey I dont know what you said exactly, but you got a damn dirty mouth boy. Hahaha.. here's the translation: FOR MILLIONS OF YEARS MANKIND LIVED JUST LIKE THE ANIMALS THEN SOMETHING HAPPENED WHICH UNLEASHED THE POWER OF OUR IMAGINATION WE LEARNED TO TALK THERE'S A SILENCE SURROUNDING ME I CAN'T SEEM TO THINK STRAIGHT I'LL SIT IN THE CORNER NO ONE CAN BOTHER ME I THINK I SHOULD SPEAK NOW I CAN'T SEEM TO SPEAK NOW MY WORDS WON'T COME OUT RIGHT I FEEL LIKE I'M DROWNING I'M FEELING WEAK NOW BUT I CAN'T SHOW MY WEAKNESS I SOMETIMES WONDER WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE LIKE THIS ALL WE NEED TO DO IS MAKE SURE WE KEEP TALKING WHY WON'T YOU TALK TO ME YOU NEVER TALK TO ME WHAT ARE YOU THINKING WHAT ARE YOU FEELING WHY WON'T YOU TALK TO ME YOU NEVER TALK TO ME WHAT ARE YOU THINKING WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE LIKE THIS ALL WE NEED TO DO IS MAKE SURE WE KEEP TALKING WHY WON'T YOU TALK TO ME YOU NEVER TALK TO ME WHAT ARE YOU THINKING WHAT ARE YOU FEELING WHY WON'T YOU TALK TO ME YOU NEVER TALK TO ME WHAT ARE YOU THINKING WHAT ARE YOU FEELING I FEEL LIKE I'M DROWNING YOU KNOW I CAN'T BREATHE NOW WE'RE GOING NOWHERE WE'RE GOING NOWHERE

Sunnyfey -> RE: Communication (9/21/2009 10:07:31 PM)
Ok, what was in my head was so much hotter.

Ialdabaoth -> RE: Communication (9/21/2009 10:16:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey Ok, what was in my head was so much hotter. ... than Pink Floyd? Hrmph. Around here, that's worth 16 hours with no arm privileges.

Sunnyfey -> RE: Communication (9/21/2009 10:18:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth quote: ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey Ok, what was in my head was so much hotter. ... than Pink Floyd? Hrmph. Around here, that's worth 16 hours with no arm privileges. No, I just much prefer Comfortably Numb [:D]

Ialdabaoth -> RE: Communication (9/21/2009 10:23:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey No, I just much prefer Comfortably Numb [:D] THAT CAN BE ARRANGED. Oh, wait, you meant... ...right.

fluffypet61 -> RE: Communication (9/21/2009 10:33:02 PM)
Shucks, Ialdabaoth, i went through and copied the code. Do i get any points for that? The spacing was totally run together but the words divided up ok visually once i wrote them down. There was no punctuation except for the apostrophes. btw, the beginning of that song is a quote from Stephen Hawking in 1994.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 5:37:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tammystarm If she's acting* like* she doesn't care much about herself, or even like she may have some active self-loathing going on, then its a good bet that she really does have a serious lack of self- esteem, to say the least. see that is the point. im not doing that in fact its the opposite. ALL this was in an advice request. Everyone goes through a bit of rough patches in any relationships, EVERYONE so i was just asking what helped you when you had a communication problem, if you never had than dont respond or go ahead and give advice. IT WAS NOTHING MORE THAN THAT. there is no serious problems, just a bit of communication issues. W/we sometimes dont know how to say things we want to say. No more no less. Tammystarm, if you go back and read the my post that you referenced, #16- you'll see that I was referring specifically to the OP of the post I referenced there. Not you. To be clear, I was referring to SubOnlyFor Him, the OP of this thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2814301/mpage_1/tm.htm It was a bit of a thread-jack, but hey... Glad all is well with you and yours! [:)]

DesFIP -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 10:06:06 AM)
Okay Tammy, if I understand you're having a problem talking something out, getting it across. Basic miscommunication stuff. What we do is sleep on it. Once we've gone a couple of rounds and start digging ourselves deeper into a hole it's time to pack it in for the night. Seriously you get to a point where your brain hurts and you don't know exactly how to express it to yourself, let alone to him. At that point I say I need to go to bed and would he please come in and hold me even if he's going to get up again later. We get naked and just hug, full body skin contact, for a while. In the morning, we are both much more relaxed because we reconnected. And some point that next morning after a couple of cups of caffeine I can begin to think again and I can begin to think it out to myself and then to him. And vice versa. And then comes the "Oh, I thought you meant ...". Solutions to problems may not occur that fast, but getting back on the same page does. And that's the first step, feeling that you're on the same team instead of opposite ones.

Missokyst -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 10:13:34 AM)
Darn it. I was enjoying the morse code exchange. Then I thought that beating that out on someones backside would be an interesting take on it. What is this? .... .. - -- . .... .- .-. -.. . .-. And if they don't get it right, repeat it till they do.

tammystarm -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 10:24:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Okay Tammy, if I understand you're having a problem talking something out, getting it across. Basic miscommunication stuff. What we do is sleep on it. Once we've gone a couple of rounds and start digging ourselves deeper into a hole it's time to pack it in for the night. Seriously you get to a point where your brain hurts and you don't know exactly how to express it to yourself, let alone to him. At that point I say I need to go to bed and would he please come in and hold me even if he's going to get up again later. We get naked and just hug, full body skin contact, for a while. In the morning, we are both much more relaxed because we reconnected. And some point that next morning after a couple of cups of caffeine I can begin to think again and I can begin to think it out to myself and then to him. And vice versa. And then comes the "Oh, I thought you meant ...". Solutions to problems may not occur that fast, but getting back on the same page does. And that's the first step, feeling that you're on the same team instead of opposite ones. EXACTLY. totally agrees. but sometimes someone wants answers. For an example i could not relay what i was feeling at the club. ( for some damn ass reason. i couldnt say. i dont know why, i dont want to be here doing this at this moment. in fact right now im feeling rather panicked and hating this place and all who is in it. i dont want to be doing THIS in front of everyone right now! So please get me home.) So i did the best i could to keep it quiet, and relay the basic most important information, which was that im ok, and i love You. But by now, cause He has never seen me shut up ;), He is confused, worried, etc etc, and i wont give any info other than that. in fact i just kept repeating it everytime He asked me anything. (poor Master). Two hour long drive, im exhausted, He is exhausted and W/we dont talk. i cant. i cant get the words to come out right. So it goes on...... Now W/we are able to talk, but it took a fight to get us there. When it should have only been the time factor. sucks. Now im sure this will happen again and this time ill be able to say, refer to last time, and it wont be a problem. But i hated that it even happened, and was in the beginnning wondering if anyone had any suggestions. Thanks for that, it is perfect.

tammystarm -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 10:29:35 AM)
hmmm morsing coding while spanking? kinda kinky. Dom/me : starts tapping it out on back.... thud thud thud thud thudddd..... "and that would be....." sub: "shit! i missed the middle four taps. can You just do those again?" Dom/me : "ok W/we will start over."..... thud thud thud thud thudddd.... sub: "son of a %^$%!!!!" Dom/me: "Why yes you are correct that was it."

LaTigresse -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 12:19:34 PM)
Sometimes a big, verbal blowout, fight is not a bad thing. It can help clear the air for some productive communication.

tammystarm -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 12:28:02 PM)
wish that were the case here. W/we cant do that. W/we just end up looking like rats on a wheel. When W/we do fight, its not pretty and nothing gets accomplished. i really believe its because W/we are too much alike. He hates it when i say that! [:D] (ducks and covers)

LaTigresse -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 12:31:32 PM)
Oh wow, I don't know what I would do if I couldn't have a good, yelling, door slamming, free for all, once or twice a year.

tammystarm -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 12:35:39 PM)
i do that in the privacy of my own home, first i take the phone i just got done using to "talk" to Him on and i chuck it across the room. Then i start yelling at my walls, as if they were Him. till finally the house and i feel much better. and i dont get as many, hey can i borrow.... from the neighbors. [:D]

LaTigresse -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 2:05:14 PM)
Damn woman, you must have an inside deal on cheap phones!

DesFIP -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 3:21:14 PM)
Fighting doesn't work for me. We don't yell and scream, we both get cold. And at one point when he was bound and determined that we stay up till dawn if necessary to solve it, I melted down and needed to go to sleep. We discovered in the morning that this is what works for us. But if I hadn't melted down, been crying hysterically, he wouldn't have taken me in and held me. He did it despite being angry with me, because he takes care of me. In situations of panic, I freeze. The whole body gets rigid and yeah, I can't talk. It helps in times like that if I cling to him or he pulls me into him. Sometimes neither of us thinks of this and it goes on longer. So tell him that next time this happens, he needs to get you out of there and hold you. Go sit in the car. And it will happen. The first time in a month you can play will be the day you haven't slept well in a week or you're getting sick. Murphy's Law applied to wiitwd.

tammystarm -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 4:10:35 PM)
DES exactly. Maybe the doc can up my meds, while getting rid of His. ;) jK! LaTigresse; i am f'ing tired! i read that as You must live in a cheap ass hotel. bwhahahahaa... im like, NO! (hiding the holes in walls ;) )

fluffypet61 -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 7:36:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst Darn it. I was enjoying the morse code exchange. Then I thought that beating that out on someones backside would be an interesting take on it. What is this? .... .. - -- . .... .- .-. -.. . .-. And if they don't get it right, repeat it till they do. "hit me harder"

tammystarm -> RE: Communication (9/22/2009 7:37:13 PM)
You are too good fluffy! its kinda scary

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