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RE: Honesty, Trust, integerity and morality. - 3/1/2006 9:04:24 AM

Lordandmaster

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OK, that counts me out. I don't use the word "integerity."

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Just wondering if people really believe in these words when they use them

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RE: Honesty, Trust, integerity and morality. - 3/1/2006 9:09:45 AM

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I don't use the word "integerity."

That bugged me so much that when I quoted (in my post), I fixed the spelling. That's probably some sort of sin of integrity.

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RE: Honesty, Trust, integerity and morality. - 3/1/2006 9:52:09 AM

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i agree. People in this lifestyle are no different than people anywhere. However, if you are going to pick at your wounds, you are not going to manage very well. We have all been deceived at times - the question remains "what do i learn from this?" and move on.

Maybe the price that is paid is too high and exacting a price in return becomes necessary?

I moved on quite quickly but I made damn sure she would think twice before playing the same damn trick on the next person she encountered. Though she did teach me a valueable lesson about the internet where you can't look someone in the eye.

Finishing someone is fine by me, finishing with me is fine, our feelings towards people change and we have no control over that but dumping on me from a great height and having planned it, that is completely different.

I sometimes think she was more concerned about convincing herself she had integrity, well hopefully she has learnt the value of integrity now and that there is a proper way to treat people and dumping on them is not acceptable.

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RE: Honesty, Trust, integerity and morality. - 3/1/2006 10:15:29 AM

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Must admit that the main thing *I* look for is not how to "Teach the other a lesson", I've found that to be an excersise in futility and almost always ends up making you look worse as a result, but rather what lessons *I* can learn to avoid walking into the same trap in future whilst still allowing me to trust at least enough to enable me to find what I'm looking for.

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RE: Honesty, Trust, integerity and morality. - 3/1/2006 10:41:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: Bunkerchief

Honesty, Trust, integerity and morality. I've heard these terms bandied about the scene for the couple of years I've been into BDSM but I wonder how much people really stop to consider what they really mean and entail.

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Add Honour, Loyalty, Duty, being a Man of your word, and you have what Gorean Lifestylers consider to be the mainstay of what we are..... So yes we do ponder and think hard regularly and debate the meaning of these things for they are the mark of a true man.

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RE: Honesty, Trust, integerity and morality. - 3/1/2006 10:54:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: IronBear
Add Honour, Loyalty, Duty, being a Man of your word, and you have what Gorean Lifestylers consider to be the mainstay of what we are..... So yes we do ponder and think hard regularly and debate the meaning of these things for they are the mark of a true man.

There are parts of the whole Gorean thing I am still doubious about, but that isn't one of them and there are a couple of you (Yourself most of all) that I have seen conduct yourselves in a fashion I can respect as holding to those values. More than enough that it has changed MY attitude toward the whole Gorean thing since I arrived here.

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RE: Honesty, Trust, integerity and morality. - 3/1/2006 1:27:56 PM

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