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Whats Difficult for you? - 9/25/2009 10:09:51 PM   
Sunnyfey


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Status: offline 		Whats something your Master has you do that's difficult for you to handle sometimes? How do you cope with it? Or do you just deal with it?

Master does not let me fidget when I am upset, I used to chew my nails, or for lack of a better phrase, twiddle my thumbs. Now, if I feel the urge to fidget, I've been told to..hold onto him in some way or another to keep my hands busy and off myself. It's kind of hard for me sometimes, but I try my best to do it anyway.


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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/25/2009 10:17:43 PM   
Navina


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Status: offline 		I've been instructed to quit worryong so much. Not about our relationship exactly, but about life in general. Obsessing over things I can't control is never a good thing. I've been working on this for quite some time on my own, but having that extra nudge has been incredibly helpful.

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/25/2009 10:45:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sleep.  Sounds crazy, right? I am a hopeless insomniac and sometimes Sir has to tell me  "Sleep. Now!"

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/25/2009 10:56:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Eat!!!  You would think that it would be pretty simple... The truth is a). i just generally don't get hungry b). i don't enjoy food c). i don't enjoy eating d). making food choices is sooo overwhelming to me i would just as soon not eat rather than ever begin to eat.....
Just give me a great big glass of ice water and i'm good to go.....
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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/25/2009 11:21:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not being jealous/trusting in him. It's that plain and simple. I get jealous of my M's time with others. It's something I am working on, but it's taking everything I have to deal with. I know though if I don't conquer it, it will eventually be the thing that kills what we have together..I'll be crapped if I let that happen.




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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 5:51:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		To take care of myself, i.e., eat right, sleep enough, have fun and remember to laugh, take a bubble bath in candle light, and to STOP running myself down..NOW!!!  i take care of everyone around me first, and then myself, if there's any of myself left over. 

It was incredibly difficult to do.  i received lots of glares, some lectures, and lots of love before i could move past what, in many cases, were more bad habits than anything else.

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 7:20:40 AM   
BoundDragon


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Status: offline 		Sir goes mad with me biting my nails, this I am thankful for as I am pretty embarrassed by the mess I call my fingers
I deffinately need to find something else to do with my hands when I am bored or distracted. I am thinking of trying a small jelly-like ball with tenticles... I can spring it about, plait the strands ect.
Anything to beat this habit and make him proud.

There is loads I struggle with but I mustn't bore you with it

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 7:52:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Master tells me not to get so upset over small things. I am not high strung, but sometimes little things upset me. Master has to tell me setle down it (whatever it is) is not a big deal.


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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 9:53:00 AM   
catize


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Status: offline 		R. is a philosopher; he lives by the words “it is what it is.”   He would like me to be less anxious and more serene about things I can’t control.  Sometimes I argue that it is a personality trait and my natural reaction is to have a melt down about stuff.  I have found I can, with effort, at least tone down my responses. It’s a work in progress for sure!
 
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I've been told to..hold onto him in some way or another <snip> It's kind of hard for me sometimes, but I try my best to do it anyway.

Chuckles at the thought that you find it hard to keep your hands busy with “the CM sex god”. 

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 9:53:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey
Whats something your Master has you do that's difficult for you to handle sometimes?

Leave all the bill paying to Him. He seems to actually enjoy taking care of the banking/bill paying but...sorry, Master....He's not always the world's most accurate and prompt about it.

Don't get me wrong. We don't get in any major hot water over this. He pays everything...eventually. It's just that sometimes we get fees that really aren't necessary to get because of lateness and yeah, basically, it drives me up a mental wall

I'm very organized and Master isn't and we've worked together on this but it almost seems as if He doesn't always WANT to be as organized about such things as He could be. He wants to take care of this area of things but the laxness He sometimes shows is hard for me to take. But, whaddya gonna do? I adore Him and that's one of His little teeny, tiny traits.

I just bite my tongue and remember how great He is at everything else........luci

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 9:56:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SubOnlyForHim

Sleep.  Sounds crazy, right? I am a hopeless insomniac and sometimes Sir has to tell me  "Sleep. Now!"


i have this too although im not insomniac i find it hard to get to bed and then sleep at times.  i get the sleep now and it can be hard .

He also expects me to meditate everymorning and although i do enjoy it it can be difficult to get to the right place.  and i cant fiddle with hair or my clothes etc if i get anxious thats really hard.  he would rather i meditated or held his hand but not fiddle




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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 10:02:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sunnyfey, you might enjoy a helpful tip I picked up years ago.  I found it useful because I'm fairly nervous around others, and at the same time, I think that doing nervous things with your hands is distracting from your strong presence and looks rather weak.
I saw a woman on TV, who I think was teaching poise, show how to still your hands by resting them in your lap with one wrist resting across the other, and your hands relaxed.  She said that it would prevent you from fidgeting, and what do you know?  For some reason, it really works.

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 11:57:03 AM   
Aileen1968


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Reaching the top shelf
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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 11:57:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I make her wear her collar out sometimes. In her mind, it is like a huge blinking neon tube around her neck drawing unwanted attention to herself. Well, that and she's none too pleased with the discussions about various poly angles but that's at discussion stage only so doesn't count as "something I made her do".

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 10:08:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		This sounds so basic, but listening during sex is hard for me. It's almost like I don't process words. I hear them, but I don't process them and act on them. I want to, I try to, but I just can't seem to do it. My Dom wants me to work on it, and I want to be a better listener during sex. I'm a good listener otherwise.

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/26/2009 10:41:13 PM   
Sunnyfey


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Master KNOWS I don't process ANYTHING during sex (anything but him HA!).

I cant imagine having to follow orders or something during sex....that...boggles my mind.

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/27/2009 1:57:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey

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Master KNOWS I don't process ANYTHING during sex (anything but him HA!).

I cant imagine having to follow orders or something during sex....that...boggles my mind.


But surely you need to follow orders during sex so you roll over when he wants you to (amongst other things)

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/27/2009 5:38:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Staying in bed in the middle of the night when I can't sleep. There is nothing worse than just lying there while he's asleep. I can't turn on the light and read, I'm not supposed to get out of bed because me not being there wakes him up, but lying there for hours makes it harder for me to relax.

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/27/2009 8:01:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		not helping. im a service oriented sub and i will automatically want to help any who ask. i have to remember that it is up to my M'Lady to determine if it is allowable and safe. for me it is nearly reflexive to help others and not think of myself.

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RE: Whats Difficult for you? - 9/27/2009 11:20:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BoundDragon
But surely you need to follow orders during sex so you roll over when he wants you to (amongst other things)



That's when he pushes me into position. Sex/play is best for me when I can't think and all I do is feel and react to what is happening.

So if he wants me to roll over, he just moves me into position. I go along with it, help out if it occurs to me, but I react to his lead and just follow.

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