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Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 8:33:14 PM   
MistressOfGa


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Status: offline 		I remember the first time I tied a submissive up and played with him. It was such a rush for me. The feeling of his submission to me was incredible. It actually took my breath away and I wanted to share with him the feeling and the gratitude of his giving me the power to take him, but I was afraid that he wouldnt understand. I wish now that I would of told him how important his submission was to me. Many years later I am still in awe when I see my pup looking at me with his innocent eyes and his total trust in me. When I tell him to do something and he cant do it quick enough, because of his need to please me, it makes me so proud that he is mine. From my very first experience with a submissive to where I am today with my pup, I wouldnt change a single thing.

Dominants: How was your first experience with a submissive and how did it shape the kind of Dom that you are today? Is there anything you would have changed?

Submissives: is there anything you would have wanted differently and how did your first time shape the kind of submissive you are today?

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 9:05:00 PM   
Slipstreme


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Status: offline 		My very first S&M session was with my current primary play partner, was my first flogging. Ever since then I've realized I have a weakness for the whip. It is the one thing I find myself craving to bottom to over anything else. Other than that I tend to be the Top. There are very few times I can't see myself at the business end of a flogger.

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 9:11:58 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		I thought "WOW! There's really someone who would enjoy me putting them through this?"

It made me think who was more crazy, the sadist or the massochist?

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 9:22:51 PM   
DragonNphoenix


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ORIGINAL: FangsNfeet
It made me think who was more crazy, the sadist or the massochist?



LOL I think that we are just about equal in the crazy department...

In all seriousness... My first thought was... 'this is what I had waited for my whole life'


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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 9:49:52 PM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
Dominants: How was your first experience with a submissive and how did it shape the kind of Dom that you are today? Is there anything you would have changed?


It was HOT!!! and passionate! After over 15 years it's still HOT AND Passionate, because I keep growing and changing things with her, but it has had little impact on the kind of Dom I am... Being a Dom and being a TOP are two very different things! But our play has indeed had huge impacts on my role as TOP and always will!


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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 10:16:14 PM   
MistressOfGa


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It made me think who was more crazy, the sadist or the massochist?


Ah..the age old question <s> I agree, I also found it hard to believe that someone was willing to let me indulge! Thanks for responding.

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 10:23:39 PM   
MistressOfGa


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It was HOT!!! and passionate! After over 15 years it's still HOT AND Passionate, because I keep growing and changing things with her

The key to a successful D/s relationship is growth and change. Are you talking about "play" or in your every day living? I think that any relationship that lasts past a year is an accomplishment in todays world. Too many break up at the first drop of a tear. Congrats on the 15 years! That is awesome.

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 10:49:39 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: DragonNphoenix



In all seriousness... My first thought was... 'this is what I had waited for my whole life'


1st Girl Phoenix



You took the words right out of my mouth.

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 11:00:15 PM   
yourMissTress


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Status: offline 		My first experience was as an apprentice to a Pro Domme. She spent a little time with me before the actual session (maybe 20 min) explaining safety words and toy usage. I watched her through the first session and she let me take over during part of the second session. When the 2nd session was over I said "OMG, I can't believe they are going to pay me to do this!!!" I was drenched and excited and my heart was beating. Up to that point I had never felt so alive in my life.

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 11:36:01 PM   
Rayne58


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Status: offline 		My first scene with Master was a simple blowjob, but the second His hand gripped my hair on the back of my head I just knew this was where I belonged, at His feet

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/1/2006 11:44:10 PM   
SimplyV


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FangsNfeet

I thought "WOW! There's really someone who would enjoy me putting them through this?"

It made me think who was more crazy, the sadist or the massochist?


My thoughts exactly.. from both ends.. Dominant and submissive.

I'm still really new in many ways.. and have to keep pinching myself that this is really happening.


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RE: Your First Experience - 3/2/2006 5:36:49 AM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
The key to a successful D/s relationship is growth and change. Are you talking about "play" or in your every day living? I think that any relationship that lasts past a year is an accomplishment in todays world. Too many break up at the first drop of a tear. Congrats on the 15 years! That is awesome.


I am talking about "Play"... alandra's and my BDSM play started over 15 years ago... our intimate relationship started about 18 years ago. Right from the beginning there was a very apparent D/s dynamic going on.

However, in both "Play" and D/s Dynamics grow and change has been ever present! and we do it together!

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/2/2006 6:21:54 AM   
Driver1961


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Status: offline 		He enters,dips His lid, with a cheeky and very smuggy smile..............

ummm, a nice probing question.....

quite simply I got carried away with the thoughts of implements I could fashion with my hands, never realizing that my place and my confusion was being what one calls a natural Dom!

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/2/2006 6:25:28 AM   
Driver1961


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Status: offline 		ok, addendum Mistress ofGa.

Not only did the girl get off on rough (consentual)play but she orgasmed with the sex that was included. Now that blew me out and unsettled me! Ha, I was so green to what I knew from life about Dynamic Connection!

Still smuggy
ha

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/2/2006 6:38:11 AM   
MistressOfGa


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I'm still really new in many ways.. and have to keep pinching myself that this is really happening.

Simply, lol shouldnt you be pinching your submissive? <weg>

quote:

His hand gripped my hair on the back of my head I just knew this was where I belonged, at His feet

Rayne, one of my favorite things to do is grab the back of pups hair :) Pure bliss!
quote:

"OMG, I can't believe they are going to pay me to do this!!!" I was drenched and excited and my heart was beating. Up to that point I had never felt so alive in my life.

Tress, I know that feeling. I have not been a Pro, but the feeling of awakening is something that just doesnt ever go away.
quote:

never realizing that my place and my confusion was being what one calls a natural Dom!

Driver, what do you mean? You were confused as to how you were feeling? Or that you didnt realize there was a name for how you were feeling? With me, I just didnt know there was a name for how I was. In fact, I often thought there was something wrong with me, that I could get off on causing someone pain. But for them to give me that power, that was more exciting than anything.

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/2/2006 8:09:02 AM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		I waited about 9 months before ever playing (just last week)

To me, it was natural and relaxing...no fears anxieties or worries once the cuffs, collar and chains were on. (before that I was v nervous)

Even though the dom I was playing with had been told several times that it was my first time, he still asked me later about other doms I had played with.

He had expected me to maybe 'freak out' or 'lose it'...not totally relax and submit. But, I trusted him and had done my homework. It felt like where I was supposed to be. I suppose it is...

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/2/2006 9:29:09 AM   
Smythe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

I remember the first time I tied a submissive up and played with him. It was such a rush for me. The feeling of his submission to me was incredible. It actually took my breath away and I wanted to share with him the feeling and the gratitude of his giving me the power to take him, but I was afraid that he wouldnt understand. I wish now that I would of told him how important his submission was to me. Many years later I am still in awe when I see my pup looking at me with his innocent eyes and his total trust in me. When I tell him to do something and he cant do it quick enough, because of his need to please me, it makes me so proud that he is mine. From my very first experience with a submissive to where I am today with my pup, I wouldnt change a single thing.

Dominants: How was your first experience with a submissive and how did it shape the kind of Dom that you are today? Is there anything you would have changed?

Submissives: is there anything you would have wanted differently and how did your first time shape the kind of submissive you are today?




After quite a few (pre-internet) years of thinking that there was no one else like me, I was shocked, grateful and extremely turned on to find another who felt as I did. I had lived alone with my fantasies...and I knew just what I wanted to do, but I kept thinking, OMG can I really do this? Is there really this other person who craves being on the other end of everything I had imagined? A new world opened to me that first time.

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/2/2006 12:44:23 PM   
BeeQueen


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Status: offline 		my first few szenes happend in nilla relations
when i still didnt know what drives me, didnt have a name for it , just knew it thrills me
i tied them..bit them ...scratched them....humiliated them.....made them wank for me...and made them eat their cum off my body
i never have been rejected to have my way ...even tho non of them called themselfe sub or slave or masochist, infact most of them came back for more...some even years later (when i already had a name for it, and a more settled way of living my sadism/control)

i think it makes a BIG diffence if u go and search BDSM relation, or develope ur dominance/submission out of regular relations.

it made me see that there is no diffrence in love - nilla or bdsm - everything goes if there is the right moment , feeling and responsibility.

and i still prefer ppl that r not active in the bdsm szene - and have them approach slow - instead of having to follow a set of fantasies ppl develope over the time (just think about all the mails u get from subs where they put out on 2 pages what they want/like/dream off, without even bothering to think that that kind of info is secundary to the *right hormons* between 2 ppl before they go into anything like a relation/bdsm relation) - tho i do enjoy occational playpartners once in a while that can take the rough stuff right away
just my 2 cents
Bee

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/2/2006 2:02:10 PM   
Sensualips


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Status: offline 		I can't really pinpoint an exact "first" experience because it was such a gradual, natural process. I mean, was it when I was was 14 and made a boy beg and plead and grovel at my feet before I would touch him? Was it when I was 18 and asked my boyfriend to tie me up and blindfold me? The wax play or wrist restraints or rough sex or filthy talk or sex toys of my twenties? The first time I asked "Sir, may I please cum?" and waited agonizingly for the answer? Or was it the first time I slapped a man, ridiculed him, and pissed on his face?

Really hard to say.

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RE: Your First Experience - 3/2/2006 4:00:39 PM   
redheadedfire4u


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Status: offline 		Hmmm like others it is hard to say.
My kink in my vanilla years was a mixed bag that caused me so much trouble, wrong type of men, wrong place, wrong time ...
Was it when I was working and did not even realize what it was that I was doing ... no that was just a sneaky form of abuse ...
Was it the "walk the walk, talk the talk", vanilla off alt who liked really, really rough sex who masqueraded as a Dom ...

No for me the first experience was when I entered knowingly and with a combination of anticipation and nervousness with my Sir.

My thoughts ... I can do this, enjoy this and He still thinks of me as precious ... someone pinch me, I must be dreaming!!!!!! lol.

And the really fantastic part is it just keeps getting better and He still thinks I am precious lol.

Warm smiles to all


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