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RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 4:48:42 PM

xoxkittenxox

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I'm nineteen. I just found out that my sister is a total manipulative whore and that I have to live with her for the next week and a half, AND pay her $70 bucks for doing so, EVEN THOUGH, shes got... 4 times as much money as me AND she just recently abused me and justifies it as treating me like an "adult", although I felt like dirt and everyone I have told about this has said, yes, she treated you like dirt.

So, like... She had an affair with her boss and never legitimately worked for anything in her entire goddamn life. Hes admitted that all to me. Yet she keeps playing the innocent victim card, and that shes under all this stress, that shes poor, with a 1.1 mil house and shes got $22k in her pocket which her boss gave her as severance pay, when SHE quit.

Like, seriously, I've got 675 to my name and trying to save up for COLLEGE, when shes banking on $22k AND selling a 1.1 mil house, and moving into a cheap ass house, banking 100k or MORE.

How do I deal with this person? I'm going out of my mind, because SHE is talking SHIT about ME behind my back. TO MY FATHER, to all her friends, to her fiance.... Like... I'm never going to have a relationship with any of these people again. Her and her friends/fiance, don't give a shit. But still. I did NOTHING wrong. I've done all that I've needed to do, PLUS managed working 11 hours a day to save money and riding a bus 3 hours a day, while she sat at home and watched TV.

So. I told her I may have overreacted because of the migraine medication I am on. She accepted my apology and wants to heal our relationship. Like, seriously. She didn't apologize back. She accepted my apology. And the reason she wants to heal our relationship is so I can come back when she has her kid so she can "pump and dump" her breast milk and go out partying and drinking, while I babysit the kid and three dogs.
Of course, I'm not an idiot now and I have all this information which her boyfriend/dad probably do not know. SUSPECT, but do not know. Shes so twisted and shes a fucking liar (as her ex-lover puts it/my boss)

I'M 19 FUCKING YEARS OLD.
I just want to work. Take some money to Oregon. Go to Med School. Forget who these people are!

I feel my only family is my mother and that my boss is more of a family than my true family.

These people are fucked up and I'm the SANE one.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 4:58:30 PM

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sweets dont worry aboutem i know its hard believe me i know what iys like to have a family like that but sometimes your family doesnt deserve you one day you will find love one day you will be successful and then these people will suddenly be loving and loyal to you as long as you have something to give well dont forget them disown them if you have to you only get one life dont waste it trying to make people happy if you meet someone who truly loves you then yes by all means give up part of yourself to them but people who treat you like shit you dont need.... if you ever just want a friend to tal to ass me on Y! damienbeowulf is my SN be good be safe and good luck with med school me and my bf are going into the medical field but not as doctors

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 5:00:46 PM

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uumm...if you don't like your sister why not get your own apartment or move in with your mother?

While I'm not crazy about my family I don't make drama out of it either. I just shrug it off and create my own life without them.

If you want to be treated as an adult then my suggestion would be to learn to not make drama and find ways on your own to make it.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 5:11:22 PM

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You are 19, yes??!!! Well, then. Guess what? It's time to get your big girl panties out and put them on.. Because you are no longer a victim of their chaos and abuse and bullshit and you have now become a volunteer!!!! That's right!! i said it!!! You are a volunteer!!!

Suck it up and deal with it or shut up and stop whining.....Those are pretty much your only options......

But, sadly you will more than likely stay true to your form that you have developed here on the boards.... You will most likely disregard this suggestion because it does not fit your woe is me motto....
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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 5:40:32 PM

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Ask her for a loan. That should keep her away for awhile.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 5:49:36 PM

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quote:

working 11 hours a day to save money and riding a bus 3 hours a day,

uphill
both ways

Ok...Kitten Sweetie. I have no idea what the flip side of this is but one thing is very plain. If you are not happy with a situation it is you that is going to have to initiate a change, whatever that may be.

and calling your family fucked up and claiming to be the only sane one is reaching a new level of immaturity. Stop it.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 5:52:23 PM

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Why do you deal with her??? Because you have a cheap place to stay. Smile sweetly, save your money and move out as soon as possible.

You also might consider student loans and live on campus. If you really plan on going to med school, you will have a butt load of loans by the time you graduate, so what is a few grand more to the total? Get on campus, keep a part time job, and leave her behind. There is no reason for you to be there in the long term.

Of course, grand plans are great, if you actually are going to follow through with them. Better to start now - look for loans, grants and scholarships, put in applications - start your life already!

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 6:08:42 PM

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Wow... pitching a tizzy like this and calling yourself sane makes you look kind of crazy. And all the chatter about your sister's money and assets make you look like a jealous little kid. If you aren't happy with your situation, get out. You're old enough to be on your own. It may not be easy, but life never is.

I realize that you may not like what I have to say because it seems like you want to be told that yes, you are being mistreated and your big bad sister is hateful as all hell. I'm not going to say that. It appears you are having a fit, and I'm just not that sympathetic.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 6:16:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xoxkittenxox
I'm nineteen. I just found out that my sister is a total manipulative whore and that I have to live with her for the next week and a half, AND pay her $70 bucks for doing so, EVEN THOUGH, shes got... 4 times as much money as me AND she just recently abused me and justifies it as treating me like an "adult", although I felt like dirt and everyone I have told about this has said, yes, she treated you like dirt.

Life aint fair. Get used to it.

You are the only one who controls your reaction to it, so if you don't figure out how to make nice with manipulative people, you are going to be one sad person for 70 fucking years or more if you are only 19.

Why don't you find some way to make lemonade out of your lemons?
Or would you rather complain about the issue, rather than find a solution?

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 6:51:55 PM

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OK, as hard as it may seem, I'm going to give you the fruits of my almost 50 years on this earth:
1. Don't pay any attention to what people say about you, if confronted with their lies, deny them and provide whatever proof you have that you feel the person confronting you deserves.
2. The people who really know you will either disregard the stories or will go to you for clarification. Those who just buy the stories at face value are not worth your time anyway so just forget them. Those who do come to you and still prefer to believe the lies...well so what, do without them as well.
3. It doesn't matter how hard you work or how noble your goals are, you are not entitled to any preferential treatment from anybody.
4. There will always be people who get lots out of life for little effort, no matter how good you have it, there is somebody who has it better (well unless you are Bill gates).
5. Just because somebody is part of your family doesn't mean they aren't total assholes. Every asshole you have ever known has a family..and some of them probably think they are just the cat's pyjamas.
6. Just because somebody is family and are better off financially than you does not mean they have any obligation to you, nor does it absolve you from paying your own way (spoken as the poorest person in my entire extended family)
7. It doesn't matter what others think about you, what matters is what you know in your heart to be true.
8. See #7
9. See #7
10....and most important of all; See #7.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 7:14:47 PM

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Poooooor you.....GET OVER IT!!!!! Grow Up......Be your own person.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 11:22:32 PM

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You have had a nice rant. In it you expressed quite a bit of frustration with a good amount of jealousy. Sometimes people get pissed. At this stage of the game you must get along. Lorr is 100% right, ask for a loan. Just see if she is really made out of money, or owes three times what she's got, like lots of others. People love to brag and catching them at it is a great hobby.

Make some plans, plans to put some distance between you and the supposed source of your disdain. At least not walking distance, but some people move cross country. The world is wide open to you right now, and if you could see it you would see plenty of opportunity in damnear everything.

But mind you this, every MF comes in here or anywhere else whining about other people need to look within themselves for the root problem. Are they all liars ? I think not, it is truly their perception of the situation that skews their thinking. Honestly you could really be 100% right, but it is doubtful. Also, when you think you are 100% right is precisely when you need to reevaluate your position. People have a way of internally rationalizing damnear anything. This is human nature so don't even try to deny it. I am twice your age and I know better.

Now, let's just say you are 100% right here, just for fun. What then, are your options ? At yor age I would assume that you have very little if any established credit, but on the other hand you don't have a criminal or driving record three times as long as my arm. Many doors are open to you.

Now if you can see it this way, that is in a less negative and defeatist light, ideas can come, solutions. Things, actions that will positively affect your life. I am 49, a one trick pony who if he loses his job will wind up on the street. I drank up my license, and burned enough bridges that I would be pretty screwed. You have not done that. This is your greatest asset and if there is any sound advice I can give you, it would be to consider your actions and words carefully. Funny as it may sound since I have no idea of your gender, I just haven't checked, walk like a Man. Take it in stride. You have a bunch of deadbeats around you get out. No matter how rich they are, they can still be deadbeats. Surround yourself with positive influences, people who have plans for their future, or more precisely, have plans to build themselves a future. Don't let yourself get bogged down in this shit.

And don't let these people scare you away. What you got in the way of a negative tone in some responses was due to the way you put it in the beginning. Many people do not see this, but I have worn alot of hats, that of what you might call a horse trader to executive almost. In dealing with people you never ever admit to being in an inferior position, and you never admit when something is stressing you out. Admitting that stressout is telling people what buttons to push, just like admitting being broke when you want to borrow money. You never tell them how bad you need it. Never wear the inferior shoe, even if you are submissive in nature. I can think of a couple of submissives I've known who were absolute sharks when it comes to business.

Render unto Ceasar, render unto exwife/husband, render to whoever, just get what is your's and render it unto yourself. Comparisons do not work so well, as the proper people in society, that is those who deserve to be rewarded or at least recognized rarely are, while assholes inherit more money then the whole gang of us could spend in our entire lifetimes. Life is not fair, and it is not likely to change for the better anytime soon. Sorry.

Other than that, best of luck.

T

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/27/2009 11:27:48 PM

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If paying $70 has you this up in arms, just wait until real life kicks in, medical school or no medical school.
Good luck though, M

P.S. And what Daddysredhead

quote:

Wow... pitching a tizzy like this and calling yourself sane makes you look kind of crazy. And all the chatter about your sister's money and assets make you look like a jealous little kid.

< Message edited by FullfigRIMAAM1 -- 9/27/2009 11:31:06 PM >

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/28/2009 8:57:05 AM

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Oh for cripes sake....grow up and act like a 19 yr old adult. Yes life bloody sucks when you don't get your way all the time and family will hand you rotten lemons, so what? If you actually want to go to med school, you will do what ever is necessary to make that come true...if you want it bad enough. You want to work...find a job, you want to continue your education... save you $ for tuition. You are 19 and have the world at your feet, be proactive and not reactive, you go further in this life.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/28/2009 9:08:36 AM

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Wow. Tough crowd!

Give the gal a break.

The 2 need to have a good talk. Maybe the 2 simply wont get along.   That does happen.   But people do not beleive everything they hear.   Believe me- people in my family have said bad things about me- and I have of them.

Go for your goals and dreams- and this should not be dependent on what anyone else wants.

I have found - that- when the type of thing you mentioned goes on- it helps to let myself feel bad for a bit.   You may recall a prosac thread I did a week ago-ish?

It is in the past.

I do not agree with the "get over it" advice.

Feel what you feel then make a plan and deal with it.   Maybe that is what they mean.

If she is scamming others- whatever.   When that costs YOU money then it becomes your must deal with- candid - communication.

Does she owe you money?

If so how much?

If she is bad mouthing you write out what you want to say. We will help you.

Boiling it down....

And one thing I find is family is great pratice for a world full of assholes. Good training.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/28/2009 9:20:48 AM

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Become a real grown up cat, instead of a tantrum tossing kitten. The cuteness factor has worn off, if indeed it ever existed.

SNAP OUT OF IT!

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/28/2009 9:24:30 AM

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I re-read the post.

Ok- a place to crash. $70 a week. Gosh- that does seem much. My brother would deal with me- maybe 3 weeks.
and not charge.

Is this the first time?

If yous do not get along- then find someone elses couch for the $70. (really) Even a lesser neighborhood.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/28/2009 9:58:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xoxkittenxox
Like, seriously, I've got 675 to my name

Really? Damn that sucks. No, wait. It doesnt! Try being in my shoes and having to live (HA) off 7 dollars for 2 weeks. I'd take having 675 to my name ANY day.

Count your blessings, no matter how small, and let the bad shit roll off your back.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/28/2009 10:40:32 AM

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She is your sister. Simply accept her for what she is.

I live on three or four litres of yoghurt per day, one pack of relatively safe cookies (others are dangerous), occasionally some meat, infrequently safe potatoes (some kinds are dangerous) and eggs and bacon, infrequently some chocolate (many types are dangerous) avoid cauliflower and carrots and nuts and sweets and food additives and dairy products of any kind (except yoghurt), take daily at least four 500 mg vitamin C tablets and once a week or one a month a multivitamin tablet. Perhaps your migraines may benefit from this diet too.

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RE: RANT OF MY WEEKEND - 9/28/2009 12:20:15 PM

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Wow, I wish I had 675 dollars to my name. That's food for about 70 days for me and my spouse. I wish I had money for the next 5 meals.....

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