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petitbateau -> RE: Gay men vs. strap-on sex (9/28/2009 11:48:58 AM)
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ORIGINAL: ddogg2
Excuse the crudeness of my question but what does the male bottom get out of gay sex?
I mean I know when I fuck a woman she can organism from it.
While I enjoy getting pegg'd I do not get off from it.
In a typical gay man sex do you take turns getting off?
Just curious how the gay mind works I guess.
I don't get it.
thanks for entertaining my questions.
I'm not so sure is just a thing of gay mind here. I guess you're drawn to think like this for you see yourself as heterosexual (anal sex for men are part of sex culture since ages, it's just the prohibition of modern religions about anal sex that created the actual taboo).
I can tell you that anal sex is nice for a few reasons, not too much different from a woman point of view.
first of all prostate stimulation. is good, is nice, is hot, makes people cum. does the trick in anal sex (might be similar to hitting the uterus from behind for women, but not having an uterus is hard to say)
Secondly there is a powerful mental side about it... it's related to owning and fucking and it's basically breaking a taboo. it's not so different that having anal sex with a woman, from this point of view... I mean, why she would like it when she has millllllions of nerves in her lovely pussy? :) there's a physical side and a mental one, both together creates the pleasure.
About the question what's best, again, a real cock is better. Is somehow softer and harder at the same time... it's living and pulsating inside you and you can feel the presence as a living thing, not just a piece of plastic.
It's somehow warmer, even if the last generations plastics do wonders about that. *grins*
Still I guess the difference is what's attached to it... a man behind that cock is a man. it's right there, it's the place he must be to conquer you, when you give to him your most inner self :p
gay mind is not easily spoken of... I must say I'm very interested too, I see myself as a gay guy with sometimes an acquired taste for ladies...
but gay mind, as you wrote, is mainly a matter of dealing with social taboo... imagine your whole sexuality to be perceived but almost everyone (extremising here of course, but don't forget the rest of the world out there that still kills gay man) as utterly disgusting and wrong.
your parents, your friend, they all share the same thoughts (again, more or less).
think about being beaten for that, being insulted on the street, being harassed at work or outside for you look gay or they know you are.
I had to eat my nice bowl of shit in these years, for I always wanted to be open about it... and it was hard.
Also, again, think about the formation of your own sexuality when you're a kid, where there are roles sometimes like in any culture and you're maybe on the more "feminine" side - aka meaning you're a fricking passive - and all the world just screams it's wrong.
even in your request, even if polite and fair, there is the seed of what I'm saying:
how they can enjoy it? what can they get out of it?
means that even you can't believe the wonder of something which is a big social taboo
and the questions reveals more than the answers...
reveals the social stigma of being homosexual or gay or whatever...
with this I'm not saying that you were unpolite or anything else. curious is a good thing, I'm just showing you how deep you have to fight, as a gay man, for everything is against you.
also, remember, there's nothing like typical.you're not typical, isn't it? we are not typical here in this forum I guess.
but maybe I'm somehow the typical passive cute guy, I like cock in my ass and I know my place and I scream of pleasure when they do it right and they make me feel like a b**ch... I also cum from it and it's a different kind of orgasm than a penis one.
but also I tend to like active only men, for my mind is still impressed with a strange illusion of masculine/feminine roles and I just abide. I find it funny, that even being a living taboo breaker, I still try to copy with the social rules (this is part of the reason for my aforementioned acquired taste i guess :p)
But there are versatiles people, that likes both the side of the moon.
Not being one of them, I can just say they're quite lucky
LOL
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