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OsideGirl -> RE: What are your limits (10/3/2009 11:44:57 AM)
When I started this relationship, I had a short list of limits. That was basically: no heights, no needles, no lending me out, no copious amounts of blood, no pee and nothing that infringes on someone else. Over time the list has become useless. We're in sync as far as what he would ask me to do, so there's not a lot of point in trotting out the list of limits after 9 years together. So, at this point the only limit is "Don't ruin the carpet".

afterforever -> RE: What are your limits (10/3/2009 12:22:13 PM)
Technically there are lots of things I won't do. I won't break any laws, I won't do anything that could result in getting caught in public, no minors, no animals, I won't quit university, definitely nothing from the SAW movies, the list goes on and on. In real life, I would hope to end up with a man who would never want to tell me to do any of these things, so it won't ever be an issue. It's all a question of compatibility, if you find the right person none of that should matter, limits that match can be taken as read. I don't see this answer changing once I hit that magical number 26 (other than the fact that I plan to have graduated by then).

Surrenderwithin -> RE: What are your limits (10/3/2009 1:35:19 PM)
When choosing my Master I made it a point to choose someone I am compatible with. I know him well, including his morals and ethics and what he is capable of. I know his personal code of honor and ethics. I know his limits, both within and outside of the realm of BDSM. Thus, I have no need to project my limits upon him. His limits umbrella me as his slave. Getting to know the man I would call myself a slave for was vital before I could give up my personal limitations. I can be his slave as his personal limits umbrella me in a capacity I can accept. This does not mean I would be a compatible slave for a different man though. With my Master I have no need to have limits as he is an ethical Master and I am protected in his shadow. Maggi

darquessence -> RE: What are your limits (10/3/2009 4:24:17 PM)
Every time I say I have a limit Daddy tells me that I don't have any limits lol in or out of the bedroom. Once I thought about what he said was true.I know that he would never do anything to bring me harm or put me in harms way. That is because I trust him.

DavanKael -> RE: What are your limits (10/3/2009 6:34:39 PM)
With love and trust, few. Generally, the things that I would put my foot down on involve things I believe would do me true harm (Of the undesirable sort). There are some things that would be a hard sell but with a life partner to whom a particular thing that did not appeal to me mattered, as long as it didn't matter more than me, I would likely be accommodating. Davan

leadership527 -> RE: What are your limits (10/3/2009 11:16:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DavanKael With love and trust, few. Generally, the things that I would put my foot down on involve things I believe would do me true harm (Of the undesirable sort). There are some things that would be a hard sell but with a life partner to whom a particular thing that did not appeal to me mattered, as long as it didn't matter more than me, I would likely be accommodating. Oh sure, you're all sweetness and no-lmits now. Let's just see what happens after we send in the clowns

spookyfe -> RE: What are your limits (10/4/2009 2:07:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 send in the clowns you just burst through my limit clowns would send me running so fast and hiding in the furthest corner possible.

DesFIP -> RE: What are your limits (10/4/2009 6:03:59 AM)
Clowns? You didn't mention them upfront. Time to renegotiate!

DavanKael -> RE: What are your limits (10/4/2009 9:28:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 quote: ORIGINAL: DavanKael With love and trust, few. Generally, the things that I would put my foot down on involve things I believe would do me true harm (Of the undesirable sort). There are some things that would be a hard sell but with a life partner to whom a particular thing that did not appeal to me mattered, as long as it didn't matter more than me, I would likely be accommodating. Oh sure, you're all sweetness and no-lmits now. Let's just see what happens after we send in the clowns So, I'm calling you in a little while and I'm going to eew and ick at you in voice about this. At length!!! Then, just to put myself in a happy warn fuzzy place, I may pontificate about yummy priests. :> < muttering > Freakin' clowns...evil Jeff!!! And please note, I am not alone in my hatred of clowns. Clown Haters Unite!!! Davan

lovingpet -> RE: What are your limits (10/4/2009 12:11:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 quote: ORIGINAL: DavanKael With love and trust, few. Generally, the things that I would put my foot down on involve things I believe would do me true harm (Of the undesirable sort). There are some things that would be a hard sell but with a life partner to whom a particular thing that did not appeal to me mattered, as long as it didn't matter more than me, I would likely be accommodating. Oh sure, you're all sweetness and no-lmits now. Let's just see what happens after we send in the clowns I have said it before and I will say it again. Jeff is a closet SADIST!!!!!!!! LOL lovingpet

DearJessicaD -> RE: What are your limits (10/4/2009 5:45:44 PM)
Sure. I'm not eating shit. Before we moved in together we discussed limits and luckily were very compatible about the major things - we're not into making the nature of our relationship public, he wont scar me or break any bones, give me STD's, make me worry he's doing any of those things. What would I do if he asked me to do something I'm uncomfortable with? That's happened. I've done them. But those things I was uncomfortable with are not the things I listed above, which is part of why we're still together.

littleone35 -> RE: What are your limits (10/7/2009 12:27:03 PM)
I do have limits soft ones that i expect master to push and my hard ones which are not to be touched. Master and i had a bifgdiscussion about this soon after we met. He asked if i had any limits i told him. He agreed with all but one. Since it is something he really likes i made it a soft limit, but told him i had a bad experenice but was willing to try it again with him. For any0ne else would have been an untouchable hard limit. So our limits match, things i just won't do he has no interest in. Mat's littleone

Andalusite -> RE: What are your limits (10/7/2009 8:00:24 PM)
Generally speaking, my Master and I are pretty compatible, and I'm working on some of the things he wants but I'm not quite ready for yet. In general, I focus on "how can I do what he wants" instead of the limits or "can'ts." There are plenty of things that I probably wouldn't be able to do, or would have qualms about doing, if he asked them of me. So, all you no-limits folks, would you let your dominant put you in a plastic box with airholes, and dump cockroaches or maggots on you? Go up to 1 dozen vanilla women in public places and call them a "fat, ugly whore" if ordered to? Vote Republican if you're liberal, or Democratic if you're conservative, with an absentee ballot so they can confirm that you are voting for the candidates they wish you to? Drink a concoction of chocolate syrup, maple syrup, mustard, and Tabasco sauce at breakfast and dinner every day, or eat the most disgusting food you can think of? Watch a single episode of Barney or the Teletubbies for 12 hours a day every weekend? Poop in a diaper, fingerpaint your body with it, and leave it on for an hour? None of those involve physical damage or illegal activities. Just to clarify, the above wouldn't be as a punishment, just because they find it amusing, or otherwise order you to.

DesFIP -> RE: What are your limits (10/8/2009 5:00:49 AM)
Bugs would induce panic attacks in a lot of people, in my book that's causing damage and therefore unacceptable. Going up to people and calling them names without their consent? Not for me, if there isn't clear consent I don't do it and that includes the watchers. I could deal with the tv, I'm a parent. I've had to watch the damn dinosaur in the past heaven knows. The diaper? He'd better be the one to clean the furniture afterwards. However, since he told me no scat play, this would constitue a major change in the dynamic and here, if you suddenly want something you've never wanted, you need to talk about it. That's like deciding after she's collared that she has to become a bisexual poly when you swore beforehand that you understood she was straight and monogamous. In my view, that's a deliberate lie, bait and switch, and clear cause for me tossing the collar back. If it's something either one of you views as major or it's the opposite of what you've said in the past, it puts us right back into precollaring negotiations to see if we are sufficiently compatible. It isn't always the act, it easily can be not the activity but the deliberate lie that causes the relationship to break down.

sincityprincess -> RE: What are your limits (10/18/2009 3:23:28 PM)
I think you are right in that it depends on the dynamics of the individual relationship. Many people like to get on message boards and preach about how a "real slave" should act or think. But it is all relative. Some Doms who really consider themselves experienced Masters don't want a girl who would not set limits for herself. They don't mind an opinionated slave and even encourage them to voice them. In my personal experience, the concept of having limits at all defines a relationship as D/s, not M/s, but again you would have a hard time convincing someone who was in that sort of relationship of that concept. Some people somehow think that M/s is better than D/s or that a slave is superior submissively than a submissive or even a vanilla girl with submissive tendancies or fetishes. They are simply...different. When I was an owned slave I had no limits. My owner had limits of what he would require of me but it wasn't up to me to try to decipher them or his reasoning. I had "preferences" and could occasionally voice a futile request; such as begging for leniency of a punishment or not particularly enjoying a particular act. But when push came to shove, when an order was given to me--my job was not to like it or not like it, but to obey it. Period.

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