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New and excited - 10/2/2009 1:36:37 PM

Mike12183

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First of all i would like to say hello, and second i am glad i have started this new chapter in my life. I have always been the strong male type, i have a very manly job and a lot of pressure on me at all times. A couple of weeks ago i met a woman at a bar who really opend my eyes.....

I have always had thoughts of giving up controll to someone.......Was so used to being the domonate man in the bedroom and letting that go was the biggest turn on ever to me. I was scared at first i admit, i had never been tied up before so i was nervous..But when i became comfortable i really let go, listening to her comands, doing as i was told...

My question is this, i want to explore more of the scene, see just how far i can go untill i break. What is the best and safest way? If anyone knows of a club or meeting place in the dallas area that woul be great!

thnks to all, mike

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RE: New and excited - 10/2/2009 3:10:07 PM

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Hi Mike,
There's a lot in Dallas. Try a google search. I'd be careful about talking about wanting to "break". It might give the wrong impression. Have loads of fun!

and welcome to CM.

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RE: New and excited - 10/2/2009 4:57:39 PM

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The best way is to meet someone you resonate with and explore within the relationship.

If by break you mean how much pain you can tolerate, that can well change on any given day. Not enough sleep, not nearly as much tolerance. Coming down with a cold, hardly any tolerance. Am emotionally overwhelmed and stressed out? You can find yourself sobbing in release but still have tons of tolerance left.

And how much you can take also depends on the relationship. In a stronger relationship with lots of trust, you can relax and take more.

But remember, just as you want someone else to do this to you, you have to think about them. What will they get out of it?

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RE: New and excited - 10/3/2009 6:53:31 PM

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Why not take a look at a few sites to get you going :

www.owk.cz gives you an idea of Femdom, www.slaveregister.com is a place where you can register so you can tatou a number on you or put on your collar so that you wont have an ownership tatou stating a name before you're shure about it... But more important are the links to discussions and Mistresses all over the world. And maybe you'll start seeing the difference between fake, commercial and IRL (in real life).

I'm shure you'll find a lot of other links as well here.

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RE: New and excited - 10/3/2009 7:32:47 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mike12183

First of all i would like to say hello, and second i am glad i have started this new chapter in my life. I have always been the strong male type, i have a very manly job and a lot of pressure on me at all times. A couple of weeks ago i met a woman at a bar who really opend my eyes.....

I have always had thoughts of giving up controll to someone.......Was so used to being the domonate man in the bedroom and letting that go was the biggest turn on ever to me. I was scared at first i admit, i had never been tied up before so i was nervous..But when i became comfortable i really let go, listening to her comands, doing as i was told...

My question is this, i want to explore more of the scene, see just how far i can go untill i break. What is the best and safest way? If anyone knows of a club or meeting place in the dallas area that woul be great!

thnks to all, mike

rather than break, I would go with push your limits

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RE: New and excited - 10/3/2009 8:47:28 PM

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Hi.

Welcome. We relate to what you said because we've met lots of guys that like the idea of giving up control and having a woman take control. It can be really exciting.

For meeting others in person I suggest searching for "munches" and bdsm events in your area. Try searching on here, on search engines, yahoo groups, and in local bdsm mags and clubs. We might have some listed on our links page too.

Hope this helps.

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RE: New and excited - 10/3/2009 10:16:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mike12183

First of all i would like to say hello, and second i am glad i have started this new chapter in my life. I have always been the strong male type, i have a very manly job and a lot of pressure on me at all times. A couple of weeks ago i met a woman at a bar who really opend my eyes.....

I have always had thoughts of giving up controll to someone.......Was so used to being the domonate man in the bedroom and letting that go was the biggest turn on ever to me. I was scared at first i admit, i had never been tied up before so i was nervous..But when i became comfortable i really let go, listening to her comands, doing as i was told...

My question is this, i want to explore more of the scene, see just how far i can go untill i break. What is the best and safest way? If anyone knows of a club or meeting place in the dallas area that woul be great!

thnks to all, mike

Just wanted to welcome you to the crazy world of CM. You have already has some excellent responces and here there are a few shits in CM but there are a large number of some really good, knowledgeable folk and some really great ones too.. Good luck on your new journey.

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RE: New and excited - 10/4/2009 1:34:40 AM

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I have always had thoughts of giving up controll to someone

If you give yourself to someone there is no need to be broken. ( not even sure if it works to break a person into serving..you either want or not)
But as others said..you can have your limits pushed.

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RE: New and excited - 10/4/2009 4:29:00 AM

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Aye you can actually break someone so that they will jump (or at least shuffle/crawl if they are unable to move faster) to do your bidding for them the alternative is far too horrible to think about. But that is way outside the scope of this discussion or even this site.

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