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RE: Too Safe = ALONE?!! - 3/3/2006 5:18:59 PM

Aileen68

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1. How long did/would you wait before going from email to chat?

Probably about two days.

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2. How long did/would you wait before going from chat to phone?

One week

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3. How long did/would you wait before going from phone to meeting?

The same day as the first meeting

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4. How long did/would you wait before going from meeting to kink play?

The first meeting

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5. How long did/would you wait before going from kink play to live-in relationship?

Not applicable for me.

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RE: Too Safe = ALONE?!! - 3/3/2006 5:24:37 PM

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1. How long did/would you wait before going from email to chat?

2. How long did/would you wait before going from chat to phone?

3. How long did/would you wait before going from phone to meeting?

4. How long did/would you wait before going from meeting to kink play?

5. How long did/would you wait before going from kink play to live-in relationship?

1. Not long at all since i don't particularly find email a great way to get to know someone. IM however, has been very helpful as i get a definite sense of a person through this medium.

2. Depending on how IM goes i'm open to phone conversation relatively quickly, but do take precautions and will request their number as opposed to giving mine. Once i feel more comfortable then they can have my number.

3. Depending on our schedules, if after talking on IM and on the phone, i'm still interested, then i like to set up a meeting ASAP and see if what i think is going on actually is.

4. Not much into kink play for it's own sake these days as i've learned that the power exchange dynamic only works for me when there's some real feeling established. So i might not even get into this at all until or if we establish something more concrete.

5. Living together won't happen for me until i have removed any questions or concerns about our compatibility and long term objectives. i'm too old to do the moving from here to there thing anymore without lots of thought and consideration.

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RE: Too Safe = ALONE?!! - 3/3/2006 6:03:49 PM

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1. How long did/would you wait before going from email to chat?
He & i chatted in IM before email. i don't think we used email for a few days, at least.

2. How long did/would you wait before going from chat to phone?
i think it was about a week or so

3. How long did/would you wait before going from phone to meeting?
2 months

4. How long did/would you wait before going from meeting to kink play?
Same visit, although i wouldn't call it kink play. i call it, he tested and gauged me through usage.

5. How long did/would you wait before going from kink play to live-in relationship?
Not applicable.

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RE: Too Safe = ALONE?!! - 3/3/2006 6:17:52 PM

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If I am interested in the person and I have a feeling speaking to them in Ims would be interesting I go right away. Ims are safe and if you don't like them block them.

Same with talking with them, I can always ban their number should they become distastefull.

Metting to kink play depends on who they are, if I was at a club I'd play with in minutes of negotiations.

I don't do live ins, I live with family there is no room for any one else in our house. me living with them in their house it'd be a very long time. I have quirks and they have quirks and I have to be sure my stuff will blend in with them,

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RE: Too Safe = ALONE?!! - 3/3/2006 7:57:40 PM

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Chat, phone and meeting........ whatever she's comfortable with.

Kink play.......whenever I'M comfortable and she's ready.

Live-in relationship........uh, let's say that would depend on a lot of various things and couldn't be determined until the time came.

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RE: Too Safe = ALONE?!! - 3/3/2006 8:18:51 PM

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1. How long did/would you wait before going from email to chat?

i would chat on day one.

2. How long did/would you wait before going from chat to phone?

That would depend on the conversation in chat, but not long.

3. How long did/would you wait before going from phone to meeting?

That first meeting, in a public place of course would depend on the trust already formed. Probably within a 30 day period.

4. How long did/would you wait before going from meeting to kink play?

i only play with those i truly trust and care about, so that one is hard to answer. In my prior relationship, it was about 6 months.

5. How long did/would you wait before going from kink play to live-in relationship?

It took 2 years in my prior relationship, though i don't think there is a time line there. When it feels right, both will know it.

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RE: Too Safe = ALONE?!! - 3/4/2006 9:08:15 AM

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1. How long did/would you wait before going from email to chat?

I rarely chat anymore; chat bores Me.

2. How long did/would you wait before going from chat to phone?

I usually wait to see if some abnormal responses show up via email. I'll normally wait about 2 or 3 weeks.

3. How long did/would you wait before going from phone to meeting?

Depends. I'm extremely cautious. As with the wait from email to phone, I will use a phone period to wait for abnormal responses to show up via voice. Alcohol abuse, drug abuse, emotional problems, tempers, manic depressives usually show up in voice conversations as soon as I put off meeting a man in person to fit My schedule.

Anywhere from 6 weeks to 6 months.

For one thing, the sub has to commit to several weeks of emails and/or phone conversations just to establish his validity with Me; men who insist on a rushed meeting are usually 'do me' types who just want to 'meet 'em, fool 'em, fuck 'em, leave 'em'. I've found that a few weeks spent up front generally weeds those types out.

4. How long did/would you wait before going from meeting to kink play?

If things click and everything is in place with regard to security measures, (including medical tests), it might be a day or two or a week or two.

5. How long did/would you wait before going from kink play to live-in relationship?

Months. Years. Never. Tomorrow, if it was the 'right' one!

6. Too Safe = Alone?

No. My precautions suited My bobbi to a "T"; he was cautious, too. There's just no such thing as being "Too Cautious".

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RE: Too Safe = ALONE?!! - 3/6/2006 4:18:38 PM

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1. How long did/would you wait before going from email to chat?

I might not wait. Would really depend on any sense of chemistry or the mood I am in.

2. How long did/would you wait before going from chat to phone?
Actually, I don't move from chat to phone.
I don't go the phone route until I have met someone in person.

3. How long did/would you wait before going from phone to meeting?
See above. I do it in reverse.

4. How long did/would you wait before going from meeting to kink play?
Depends on chemistry. I might not wait at all.

5. How long did/would you wait before going from kink play to live-in relationship?

Depends on so many factors.I met my husband/slave at a fetish party last May.
He moved in with me in November and we married in December.
Years ago I had a friend/play-partner I met professionally. She was a pro sub and I am a proDomme.
We quickly became good friends and she moved in with me about 4 months later. About a month after that she showed me just how damaged she really was and 4-5 months after that I moved out.

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