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slave ownership - 3/4/2006 5:46:53 AM

markmjs

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i have come to the conclusion that i am a slave, rather than a submissive, & i was wondering what precautions i should take before taking the plunge? as my submissive feelings go much deeper than i first realised. i wish to keep all options open, & i would not be averse to being taken by a dom/domme couple. any advice would be appreciated

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RE: slave ownership - 3/4/2006 8:06:31 AM

petcerina

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i would say go slow. i was not able to become a slave until i had been with my Master for several months. Trust had to be built first before i could give myself fully to Him. Make sure that trust is built before you give yourself away completely.

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RE: slave ownership - 3/4/2006 8:08:42 AM

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mark,
Congratulations on your self evaluation, and your decision. Our suggestion is to take the confidence of your decision with you and keep it in mind during your search. Before becoming anyone's slave make sure your definition of the term and theirs are compatible. Address the differences and determine if compromise is practical to your collective relationship goals.

Then trust, not just your partner, but yourself and your decision.

Good luck! Have FUN! Enjoy the journey ahead.

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RE: slave ownership - 3/4/2006 8:19:34 AM

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Don´t rush it. I took 5 months of training where I was tought, molded and conditioned by Mistress. In the end my submissive urges had blossomed into full slavehood.

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RE: slave ownership - 3/4/2006 4:56:46 PM

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There's no real precautions that are different from any other orientation of relationship you'd have- make sure you know what you're getting into and happy with it before you get into it.

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RE: slave ownership - 3/7/2006 6:18:12 PM

LouisMichael

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quote:

ORIGINAL: markmjs

i have come to the conclusion that i am a slave, rather than a submissive, & i was wondering what precautions i should take before taking the plunge? as my submissive feelings go much deeper than i first realised. i wish to keep all options open, & i would not be averse to being taken by a dom/domme couple. any advice would be appreciated

mark :)

mark,
here is such advise I would give. The first is know your elf, know yourself well enough to care for yourself as if you had and where living for a master. Your physical, finacial, mental, and emotional health. You are not a good slave/property unless you are well cared for amd mainttained - without or with a master/dom that has accepted you

Respectrfully
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RE: slave ownership - 3/7/2006 7:43:36 PM

MasterBuckeye

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I really like all the answers posted here, as a Master that teaches bdsm to others, the one thing I would like to add, is: IF it does NOT make sense to you on any level, then go the other way. There are alot of wannabees out there on both sides of the fence, this I know, but the one thing I try to make new subs/slaves to realize is it has to make sense. And NEVER pay anything to another. Your first meeting, in my opinion should be in a neutral public place, where you and him/her can be safe as well. After the meeting then use commonsense from that point forward, Just don't put yourself in a situation that does NOT make sense ever.

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RE: slave ownership - 3/7/2006 9:10:04 PM

Sirandlittle1

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As you state, that you would not mind becoming a slave to a couple. That indicates that you have not yet found the person(s) you wish to become enslaved to.
How therefor, is this a pertinent question at this particular point in time?

Do you not need to know firstly, how the partner effects you?

I ask this because, i had to grow into my role as his submissive. Initially, we anticipated a D/s dynamic, but could envisage that progressing to a M/s one. However, 18 months in to 24/7 D/s, we both realise that M/s is not something we seek from one another. We had to find our niche, our lifestyle, that suited our needs. And the fantasy, was nothing like the reality, well, thats what i found anyhow. Sometimes better, sometimes not.

But then again, im not one of those, born to be submissive types. And only submissive to one person in my life.
Must be nice to just kinda 'know' something from the off. But even if you 'know' yourself, without having met your dominant partner, be they D or M, how can you anticipate their needs of you? Curious isnt it?

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RE: slave ownership - 3/8/2006 4:16:28 AM

slavejali

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Take the plunge, stay safe and have fun.

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RE: slave ownership - 3/8/2006 4:29:00 AM

shiava

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my advice is the same as a few...

Go slow. Let the person/people you serve gain your trust. Though you may feel you are a slave i believe you will find there are things you need to work up to. So take your time, find the right Person/People, than serve with all your heart will give.

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