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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 8:02:48 AM

foxglove716

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What I can't seem to understand is why he can't find anyone real

*scratches head*

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 8:06:54 AM

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i tend to agree with true here. If i was that interested in why, i would just casually ask. If it was a red flag, i would move on. And i also agree that many find red flags in the oddest places, and miss out on the big picture. Everyone told me not to talk to my Master because his yahoo profile wasn't filled out and he "IM'd without permission." Look what i would have missed out on...

When i first talked to my Master, i wanted to know his real name. i asked, "So what do people call You?" He said "It depends who you ask. Some just call me asshole."

In retrospect, i find that funny. At the time i went off, accusing him of not wanting to tell me his real name, of hiding, of not taking me seriously (man i had issues then). He laughed at me, said i was rather silly for taking everything so seriously, and told me his name.

i can see, understand and appreciate being cautious. But many will find something that may very well be explainable, and decide that person is a player without ever asking for the explanation.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 8:09:35 AM

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yeah, the closest I've come to having a "scene name" the nick I use here. It also happens to be the nick used for our e-mail (shared account with Holly, of course) that we use for our lifestyle related chat lists and so when we go to munch groups, we put it on our name tags - along with our real names - so that people who have only interacted with us through e-mail will know which e-mails are ours.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 8:12:10 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

i tend to agree with true here. If i was that interested in why, i would just casually ask. If it was a red flag, i would move on. And i also agree that many find red flags in the oddest places, and miss out on the big picture. Everyone told me not to talk to my Master because his yahoo profile wasn't filled out and he "IM'd without permission." Look what i would have missed out on...

When i first talked to my Master, i wanted to know his real name. i asked, "So what do people call You?" He said "It depends who you ask. Some just call me asshole."

In retrospect, i find that funny. At the time i went off, accusing him of not wanting to tell me his real name, of hiding, of not taking me seriously (man i had issues then). He laughed at me, said i was rather silly for taking everything so seriously, and told me his name.

i can see, understand and appreciate being cautious. But many will find something that may very well be explainable, and decide that person is a player without ever asking for the explanation.

And this is why I pointed out the discrepency to the person in question ... but it did make me wonder how others would see it, so I asked. To me, it's a potential problem, and potential problems are - by definition - warning signs or red flags. This doesn't mean that it is a serious problem, or even a problem at all. There could be a totally innocent explination - however, given past experiences of myself and others, it's more likely that it's someone trying to pull a fast one on someone else.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 9:01:52 AM

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SweetDommes, I mean no disrespect to You--but I am in a wicked mood this morning because I am off to Vegas in a week and have summoned the boy---

My suggestion is you tell this profile person they should introduce the "Top" to the "bottom" and hope there is a match!

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 9:49:03 AM

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*snickers* The fact that the guy is a switch makes that even funnier, Hathor LOL Perhaps "Kevin" is his Top name, and "George" is his bottom name?? (names taken from previous posting where I used them as examples - not the names actually used on the profile in question)

Anyway ... still hasn't been on, so who knows what he'll say/do when he gets my message.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 11:36:00 AM

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SweetDommes, I mean no disrespect to You--but I am in a wicked mood this morning because I am off to Vegas in a week and have summoned the boy---

My suggestion is you tell this profile person they should introduce the "Top" to the "bottom" and hope there is a match!

Do love it when you hit wicked moods... they're funny at times... thanks for the laugh.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 4:17:02 PM

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Lots of people in the scene use multiple names. Here, for example, people know me as Emerald, or Lucky or LA and I could sign off on any of those and be known as such. However, I'd find the inconsistency amusing- just like when I see subs here changing their sig line every other day to something like "butterfly" to "butterly, property of sir daniel" to "butterfly, owned property of sir daniel" to "sirdaniels pet" and usually eventually "Angel, formerly butterfly."

Multiple names = ok

Inconsistency/rapid changeover of names = bad

And frankly it would be the whining and complaining that turned me off more than anything.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 4:27:31 PM

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But in the same profile? Me thinks he lost track of who he was when he was done wanking.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 6:00:33 PM

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Never assume malice when a situation can be explained more simply with human error.

Give the guy a break.

A polite note would probably resolve the issue just as well. No need for an air of superiority.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 8:37:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: MsPurrmeow

Never assume malice when a situation can be explained more simply with human error.

Give the guy a break.

A polite note would probably resolve the issue just as well. No need for an air of superiority.

I didn't realize I was giving off an "air of superiority" - it started out as simple curiosity, wondering what other people would think if they ran across it ... then it progressed to having to clarify and defend my thoughts on the subject. If that gives you the impression that I feel myself superior, then that's your issue and not what I intended. I stated my thoughts and opinions, and defended them - as well as validated other's theories, and admitted that I did send the gent in question a note about the discrepency.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 9:57:12 PM

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Hey, it worked out for the guy! He's got people talkin' exclusively about him on two pages of a thread!

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 10:02:54 PM

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Yeah, too bad no one knows who it is but me LOL

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 10:14:49 PM

Driver1961

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He enters, reads, He laughing.......

Such true words collegebeauty!

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Hey, it worked out for the guy! He's got people talkin' exclusively about him on two pages of a thread!

"Settle" SweetDomme, Mrs Purrmeow is only pointing out how typing/typos can be misunderstand by another, and yes I do believe she has a point. This poor man may see this thread (even though you shown appropriate sensitivity and have not mentioned his nick) and get off the site altogether cos of an innocent error on his behalf. You sent him a note questioning him, I would await a reply should he wish to, then at least send another 'note' before going here. It is very confronting to read a thread that may be about you, if (and admittedly IF) he genuinely made an error.

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ORIGINAL: MsPurrmeow

Never assume malice when a situation can be explained more simply with human error.

Give the guy a break.

A polite note would probably resolve the issue just as well. No need for an air of superiority.

I didn't realize I was giving off an "air of superiority" - it started out as simple curiosity, wondering what other people would think if they ran across it ... then it progressed to having to clarify and defend my thoughts on the subject. If that gives you the impression that I feel myself superior, then that's your issue and not what I intended. I stated my thoughts and opinions, and defended them - as well as validated other's theories, and admitted that I did send the gent in question a note about the discrepency.

Warm regards to all.....

Paul, Sir to His Angel and Wild.

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/4/2006 11:37:43 PM

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Ask them about it...

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RE: A profile that I just saw ... - 3/5/2006 12:58:33 AM

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There is one other scenario. What if he uses two-diffrent names interchangeably? Because he has two different names. For instance My name is James. I go by Jim, I also have a religious name Rowan. I go by either one or both interchangeably. I usually explain or use both in the beginning but not always. Not because of any reason then it doesn’t occur to me. Since I am called both by allot of different people. Now I'm not making excuses for him, can't, don’t know him. .lol.. I also can’t understand “the real person thing” I’ve heard it a lot (there was even the one thread where some one said this was all a bot or fantasy. (that cracked me up) But I haven’t met fake people here really. In fact a “fake” person couldn’t post. lol Their fake. The rubber ones are the funnest and who would mind them being here anyway. They have rites too... but seriously as in all sites there are good people and bad people and pros and experienced and not. I just don’t understand the no one real here thing. When people say that it sounds like there blaming every one else for them not meeting others and that’s never healthy. That’s the real flag I would think. Thank you just my two cents, Rowan or Jim as you prefer.

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