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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 10:55:15 AM   
AnimusRex


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I think you are simply playing a kinky version of World of Warcraft. You don't seem to know any of these people very well, or at all. You don't seem to have any connection to your Mistress/slave other than via your chosen roles.

Honestly, your whole post describes a crowd of people sitting in a chat room figuring out who gets to play the Dom, who gets to be Domme, and who will play their roles of the various slaves, subs, and switches. Perhaps they drew cards, or tossed dice, and yours came up "Master".

I respect those who experience BDSM online, and won't smear that entire side of things, nor do I want to insult those who are new, finding their way here.

But get fucking serious. Get to know the people you are messing with and figure out what sort of relationship you want and can offer.

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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 2:11:23 PM   
lucylucy


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Status: offline 		Yeah, there’s definitely a brat in this situation.

Acting impulsively without any regard for consequences, being inconsistent, whining, making rash generalizations, asking if you are right or wrong when it appears you’re already mightily convinced that you’re right and don’t want real feedback but want validation only . . . very bratty.

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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 3:09:34 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Unless you had negotiated with her subs the right to interfere in their relationships, you were totally wrong.
Beyond that, there is no way any woman will agree to have sex with some dude she has never seen unless she's a paid escort. You want more sex, be a man women want to have sex with.

She wasn't lazy, you were ignorant, and lazy.

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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 3:13:40 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		It is a very rare thread these days where every single response is such an excellent one.  Everyone made great contributions.

It seems to Me, OP, that you are absolutely wrong.  The only thing you did right was to release the girl so she can find a good Dominant.  The failing here was yours, not hers.  Not only could you not give proper direction, you blamed her when you didn't.  You were too lazy to do a task yourself and got angry when she had a different method of accomplishing it.  Then, you proceeded to punish her s types because something was not carried out the way you thought you wanted to dictate.  Not that you ever communicated that clearly, of course.

Oh, and I love the whole 'I hate switches now' ridiculous tripe.  The fact that you weren't able to command her properly didn't have a thing to do with her being a switch.  A submissive or a slave wouldn't have followed your lead either, since it appears you have no idea of how to do it.

The last thing you need are online s types if you have no clue of how to conduct a power dynamic.  Thankfully, no other people were dragged into this mess before the whole thing dissolved. 


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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 4:58:18 PM   
MasterAlaster


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Okay I understand where everyone is coming from and after getting some sleep for the first time in days I now realized where I failed I should have sought out a mentor to teach me how to dom instead of just jumping into a relationship. Also I do not hate switches I was just venting and saying things I didnt mean I apologize for my ASSHOLISH BEHAVIER.

< Message edited by MasterAlaster -- 10/9/2009 5:07:06 PM >

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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 5:16:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's a good sign that someone can own up to their actions, and apologize.

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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 5:45:24 PM   
krikket


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Oh my...when i read your post my first reaction was (almost) to go make a big bowl of popcorn to eat before reading any further.  i have to say i think you did very well by admitting your mistakes and being able to look forward.  So often when a post is so disagreed with as your post was, that person never shows their face again.  It's definitely a good step in growing as a Dominant and as a person in general.

To all those who posted, i have to say y'all were (and are) great.  Y'all were able to point out the red flags, the problems, the ramifications of his actions without it become a flame war.  Sure makes me proud to know y'all. :)

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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 6:49:39 PM   
lucylucy


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Status: offline 		OP, you just earned my respect. For what it's worth.

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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 8:35:52 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		How old are you???????????????

You sound as if you haven't finished high school yet - and also haven't got the subtle nuances of dating down pat yet.

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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 9:03:28 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		Hey that is not fair!

I'm twenty two and I have not got the subtle art of properly interacting with people.

At least he owned up. Yay!

Make your own mess and then clean it up, I suppose.


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RE: Am I wrong or right? - 10/9/2009 9:50:55 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		This is a train wreck. Your a new Dom, are you SURE you have a Dominant personality? Because if not your just playing a part. She is a slave now? Is she SURE she is submissive and not just playing a part? Why is she online trying to find you MORE slaves when you have not even figured out how to handle her? Why are you telling her what to do with HER slaves? She is their Mistress, not you. She is not a brat and perhaps not a slave or sub, you most certainly are not a Dominant, let alone a Master.

You both need to slow the fuck down, sort out who is who and lay down some ground rules before you start a relationship. And do yourself and her a favor, do not even think about taking on anyone else in this relationship. It would be unfair to the new person to get involved with a pair who can't even work together yet!

~Lashra

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