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Before and After - 10/9/2009 8:53:08 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I have been with Master for almost 4 years (will be in Feb). Now i know i had a life before Master and it was a good life. I was basically happy, but it always seemed like something was missing, something was just not right. Since i met Master I found what i was missing i was the lock and he was the key. The point being even though i knew i had a life before Master it seems like i have always been his and i don't remember my life before him. Now i am not saying i lost my memory it is just my life before him iis like a faded picture. I hope i am explaing this well i don't know how else to put t.

Does anyone else feel this way? You feel like you have always belonged to him?

Matt's littleone
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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 10:13:39 AM   
spookyfe


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Status: offline 		i know exactly what you feel when we first met it was like we had always been his just didnt know it before i met him.  my whole life fell into place being late 40's it was a real revelation to me.  your words sound perfect sence to me. 

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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 10:17:24 AM   
TheGaggingWh0re


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Status: offline 		Yes!
My master will sometimes throw me for a time loop when he says, "I bet you didn't expect to be in this position when you were younger, did you?"

And no, I didn't! I expected to be married with ums, living in the military and baking cookies all day.

Now I am...not married with zero desire to be, no ums with zero desire for them, not in the military, but I still bake cookies! I have a difficult job and I am a collard slave. YAY! It's crazy.

It's like I was never here before he was there.

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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 11:47:43 AM   
ChampagneMojito


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Status: offline 		Yes. I can't really remember what life was like before i met her and i dont see a future without her. It not something that constantly crosses my mind though.

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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 1:28:38 PM   
leadership527


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35
Now i am not saying i lost my memory it is just my life before him iis like a faded picture. I hope i am explaing this well i don't know how else to put t.

Does anyone else feel this way? You feel like you have always belonged to him?
Speaking from the D side, I totally and completely sympathize. Sure I had what... 30 years of life before I met Carol? Those were important years in that they served to get me ready for her. But honestly, there's kind of this whole "not wonderful" -> "wonderful" transition that happened and so yeah, those years are faded in my memory... de-emphasized might be a better word. This is probably the most woo-woo-ish thought I actually hold in my head, but yeah, I think Carol is my soul mate and completes me. I feel like the universe made us for each other and that was always true...even while we were both still being baked.


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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 1:30:45 PM   
firmlove


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Status: offline 		i hope to know what after feels like some day

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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 2:12:03 PM   
ncbabe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527

Speaking from the D side, I totally and completely sympathize. Sure I had what... 30 years of life before I met Carol? Those were important years in that they served to get me ready for her. But honestly, there's kind of this whole "not wonderful" -> "wonderful" transition that happened and so yeah, those years are faded in my memory... de-emphasized might be a better word. This is probably the most woo-woo-ish thought I actually hold in my head, but yeah, I think Carol is my soul mate and completes me. I feel like the universe made us for each other and that was always true...even while we were both still being baked.



This is so sweet, and the reason you two will be just fine!

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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 2:16:10 PM   
MasterSlaveLA


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Status: offline 		The present chapter is always more in the forefront than the past.



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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 4:14:42 PM   
lucylucy


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Status: offline 		I was in a very long term (almost 20 years) vanilla relationship in which I often had trouble remembering what life was like before being in the relationship. I don’t think the feeling is particular to D/s relationships. I think intense relationships of all kinds will provoke this feeling.

I do, however, completely agree with spookyfe’s sentiment that everything fell into place for me when I got into a D/s relationship.


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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 5:13:52 PM   
BellaRed


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Status: offline 		Hmm...I don't really feel that way at all. I know exactly what I was like before this relationship (the one that's ending). I know I have changed a lot during it, but it's been from my work, not anything that was done for me. I am going back to where I am from soon, but I think I will look at things in a different way. I don't know if any of that applies here, but it's as close as I can get.

I look forward to having that life back, only it will be changed of course. I am older and much wiser, probably a bit more brave and a lot more independent. I suppose if it took this relationship to get me there, it's worth all of the other things have happened with it. Growing pains are a bitch, but it's the only way to change yourself sometimes.

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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 5:19:43 PM   
happyladyeyes


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Status: offline 		I have no where near the longevity with my Master (although I do hope) that you do. I am completely with you. I spent my entire life feeling there was a huge gap and that there was something missing and something different in me as compared to my friends and how they thought.

Several years ago I discovered that I was a true submissive in my heart and having a high profile Dominant Female career trapped my true self and the source of internal struggles.  So I set out to find my true self and compartmentalized my alter ego.

Since meeting my Dom whom I searched for a long time my life feels complete and my days are fulfilled.  He has taken me into his fold and training and heart. He has all the attributes I so desired and my submission feels as natural as beathing, so I hope that one day I too will write a write something as you have stating I cannot remember life before him. 

I believe you are blessed to be so fulfilled and lasted so long. 

Cari~

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RE: Before and After - 10/9/2009 8:31:00 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		I feel as if i walked through life half asleep before i met my Sir. I was present but not participating in the world around me.
He is the ying to my yang, the sweet to my pea, the roast to my beef ............. you get the drift?

Its a bit sappy, but in the scheme of things, i have not ever been so happy, so content for such an extended period of time, in all my life. Even the bad days are better than the good days before him. Did i mention that i am a bit sappy now?

I feel as if i am participating fully in my life for the first time. Instead of being an onlooker, i am an active participant, and loving it.

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RE: Before and After - 10/11/2009 8:25:35 AM   
andreaC


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Status: offline 		I have to say that before meeting Master, i didnt have a life, it was meaningless, not going anywhere. But since i have been with him, my life has a meaning, its alive, exciting :) I do feel like i have been with him forever.

< Message edited by andreaC -- 10/11/2009 8:26:48 AM >

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RE: Before and After - 10/11/2009 10:07:59 AM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

The present chapter is always more in the forefront than the past.



That's a good attitude.  I have known too many people that were still living in the past.


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RE: Before and After - 10/16/2009 5:47:24 PM   
hejira92


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Status: offline 		Sir and I will be four years in March. I do remember life before Him; but it's like The Wizard of Oz- all black and white before the Technicolor reveal of Munchkin land.

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RE: Before and After - 10/16/2009 5:59:36 PM   
DrkJourney


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Status: offline 		Even from my side of the fence I know what you mean.  I was merely existing before I met him.  The first time we laid eyes on each other it's like we'd known each other for eons. 

I honestly don't remember life before him.  Now that he's "over there"  I've really noticed because I know I did "something" with my free time before but for the life of me I can't remember what it was...lol.  So now I'm having to start from scratch and start new things, (now that I've uncurled out of the little ball I was in on the couch, saying why me over and over...lol), then in March all goes back to normal...whooo hoooo

congrats on your 4 years!!!!

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RE: Before and After - 10/16/2009 6:07:51 PM   
CaringandReal


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

The present chapter is always more in the forefront than the past.



That's a good attitude.  I have known too many people that were still living in the past.



Is one of them named Jethro? :p

I think I would like to live in the past. In Victorian times. They were such odd ducks, I believe I'd fit right in. :D

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RE: Before and After - 10/16/2009 6:35:30 PM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: hejira92

Sir and I will be four years in March. I do remember life before Him; but it's like The Wizard of Oz- all black and white before the Technicolor reveal of Munchkin land.


I love this!

I was going to say I remember very vividly my life before him (it wasn't all that long ago lol) but it's as though all those paths led me right to him...like the yellow brick road, perhaps? 


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RE: Before and After - 10/16/2009 6:54:14 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		I'm sort of in the middle of the fade out so to speak. It is a little scary because I have a very whole life that was already established before we met. I won't say I am discontent in one world in the desire to have a life with him, but that each having its own merits, they do not necessarily mesh well together. I could never choose, not ever, one completely over the other. There is a completeness and a feeling of the world making sense now that didn't exist before and I cannot even imagine my partner no longer being part of my life, and not just part, very much the epicenter of all kinds of changes, revelations, and understandings. A lot of things have faded away already. A few seem to come into sharper focus. All in all, I know life will never be the same nor do I want it to be.

lovingpet

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RE: Before and After - 10/16/2009 7:06:18 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: littleone35

I have been with Master for almost 4 years (will be in Feb). Now i know i had a life before Master and it was a good life. I was basically happy, but it always seemed like something was missing, something was just not right. Since i met Master I found what i was missing i was the lock and he was the key. The point being even though i knew i had a life before Master it seems like i have always been his and i don't remember my life before him. Now i am not saying i lost my memory it is just my life before him iis like a faded picture. I hope i am explaing this well i don't know how else to put t.

Does anyone else feel this way? You feel like you have always belonged to him?

Matt's littleone


I can't say I do.....but I so incredibly love the fact that you do.

Spectacular.

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