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RE: A little worried.. - 10/15/2009 9:05:07 AM

PolyVinyl

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Thanks very much kccuckoldmist, Andalusite, and LadyPact for your helpful comments. I've been trying to be a little more relaxed when talking to some Dominas on this site for the last few days; it's working well in some cases, others...not so much

. I'm sorry, some of these emoticons are hilarious.

In any case, I'm starting to think that this site is losing its utility except for the forums; it's a wolf's nest out there of call-girls and questionable pro-dommes. (shrug) we'll see how it goes.

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RE: A little worried.. - 10/16/2009 8:38:20 AM

Andalusite

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3 months seems pretty early to give up! Yes, there are more women than men (or at least people posing as women) who are outright scammers or professionals who aren't up-front about it, but there are plenty of men who lie about being available, or wanting a relationship, or aren't very self-aware about what they can offer (ie. bottoming vs. submission), and consequently are also misrepresenting themselves. Chip found LP here, my Master found me here, Fox found Diurnal Vampire here, and I know there are lots of other success stories!

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RE: A little worried.. - 10/16/2009 9:17:12 AM

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Completely off topic, but a couple of quick corrections.

The first one happens quite often. It's not Chip. The boy was actually given the name clip, with an "L". It used to be a nickname of his as a child. When I first got him, since it was originally supposed to be a temporary dynamic, it had reminded Me of the concept of freshly cut flowers. Meaning that it would be great while it lasted, but there was the realization that, just like flowers cut from the vine, there would be a time that it would fade away. That was actually the intention when I collared him. That he wouldn't be Mine past when we lived in the same location. So the name clip was given to him as My submissive.

The other is that we didn't meet here. We actually crossed paths for the first time on another site. Back before Fetlife, Alt was the easiest way for Me to keep up with the lifestyle folks that I associated with in Atlanta. I was chatting with some folks about going to a BDSM club the following evening when clip signed on to that chat room. Out of the blue, he asked if it would be all right for him to come along so he could meet Me. I told him it was a public club and everyone was welcome. The next night, the boy drove three hours just to meet Me, even though we only lived ten minutes apart at the time. We didn't play that first night, but his submission to Me has been there ever since.

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RE: A little worried.. - 10/16/2009 10:02:02 AM

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the way that you have started on your journey is very good keep up the good effort it will work out for you. like some of the other posts have mentioned attend local munches and meet and greets, visit any local play spaces and actually see what is going on and talk to others. as far as what to do when you do meet someone be honest and respectfully and you will make someone a very happy Dominant.

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