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She could get the same feeling attaching a piece of leather to a fan, turning it on, and backing into it; but she isn't. -Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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I ask your thoughts and/or words of wisdom ,*as been long ago since I gave someone there first spank and intro to bdsm,normally the spankee wasnt virgin,so to speak*.

Grizzly,
Remember, she's come to you for this sensation. Your involvement is what is going to make the experience enjoyable or not. She could get the same feeling attaching a piece of leather to a fan, turning it on, and backing into it; but she isn't. She wants something more, some emotional and/or mental exchange. You should talk to her and find out what that means.

You can make it a 'bad girl' scenario, or sensual. Next thing to consider is prep; consider 'foreplay' to the scene. Having a woman over your knee as talk to her while you rub, squeeze, and fondle intermingled with a stinging spank now and then; is a WONDERFUL experience. Take your time; start first over the clothes, then pants down by the knees, followed by the panties, with appropriate comments and more fondling along the way. You can remove her clothes yourself, or making her take each layer off slowing for your enjoyment; then have her again, 'assume the position'.

The problem most people have interjecting something like spanking into an otherwise 'vanilla' existence it that they think it would be 'weird' if they considered it sexual. Well, it is; even if it doesn't result in exchanging body fluids. Consider the spanking the 'climax'. Take your time getting there, build up to it.

Personally, my goal for any session, regardless of the spankee's 'experience', is to see the spankee's ass rise up and beg for the next spank. Being a sadist, I like it even better if the body language is verbalized. Hearing a sincere begging "Please... may I have another?!" satiates MY desire and is my pleasure.

Don't forget the most important ingredient - HAVE FUN!!!