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aidan -> RE: Feminism (10/21/2009 6:33:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ElWray

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama
But I am not unclear on why male athletes make more than female athletes do:  it's because patriarchy blows.  It is an unjust, corrupt and evil way of life.


Actually, it's because more people are interested in watching male athletes than female ones. I recently saw a news piece on a "lingerie football league" starting here. One of the women players had the audacity to say "they come check us out for the lingerie, but they stay because it's an interesting sport to watch." I retorted "don't fool yourself, honey. It's a lingerie football league....we men probably don't even notice that you're keeping score....or that there's a ball involved.

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama
Funny, but the highest paid female athlete in the same sport is a teenage girl who has never won a tournament, but looks a whoooooooole lot like a little cheerleader.


Wow...now your feminism has you ascribing sexist cheerleader qualities to non-cheerleaders. You've really gone off the deep end. Do you need a life preserver?


You really are not cognizant of the things you're saying, and how they're related to what you comment on, are you?

If you can't see how these quotes directly support the portions of Shakti's post you quoted, then there is seemingly no hope of a reasonable discussion. Your head is so far up your ass your pelvis is acting as a hat.

And as for dance, it is far far easier at all levels of the activity to find troupes and routines that are not overtly sexualized compared to cheerleading. And unlike cheerleading, it does not carry the social baggage of being a semi-official concubine for a male sports team.




OrionTheWolf -> RE: Feminism (10/21/2009 7:03:18 AM)

~FR~

Why wouldn't someone use their looks to their advantage, male or female? Why is that a bad thing? Many males like to look at what they determine is an attractive female, so in any arena that there is an audience, looks will play a key role in it. Each person should use the assets they have, to do as they wish. I also believe in some of these areas, apples and oranges are being compared, as well as audience size of the sports is not being taken into consideration. It just seems very convenient to blame society for many things, when many of those things are not seen as wrong by the majority of society.




pyroaquatic -> RE: Feminism (10/21/2009 9:20:45 AM)

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ORIGINAL: aidan

After that you really lost me. What does Dr. Blackwell have to do with not walking through doors that have been opened? Are you sure you're quoting the section you intended to?



Yes, yes I am.

I'm good at losing people since I am usually lost myself so allow me to explain myself.


I do agree that there is a positive trend going on. While I do not believe that we are all equal, the balance factor is coming into play. Still, we should be treated as if we are all equal.

Exclusive rights and privileges feels unethical.

Yet at the onset of my childhood it was drilled into my head that "I should not hit a girl"

why oh why? is it because they are delicate creatures? I attempt to be chivalrous. I open doors to both males and females, curious to both genders...

but when a lady expects me to open doors for her and to lay down my coat so her shoes do not get wet, or be a gentleman thoroughly...... and lament over the fact the women are not treated equally or fairly. <This has indeed happened to me.

This is where I have a problem. It irks me. It does not mean I will not be chivalrous to my special Lady. But I will not be blinded by that bullshit logic. Women are just as tough as Men. Deal with it. Men can be just as empathetic as Women... I feel ya.

It comes to my attention that some women DO like being treated like shit, which is terrible but it is their choice. I have seen it, and have had a lady-friend of mine tell me "I only date guys that are assholes."

o_O wha wha wha?

Tangents aside, we should look out for the rights of Women, Men, and Children as a whole. One hundred years from now the roles could very well be switched from what it was one hundred years ago. That thought strikes fear into me.

Feminism is a balance mechanism. Not a tool to wrestle whatever 'power' men are perceived to have. (sure a male could be the head of the household but the female is the neck. :P)

The Cheerleader was not enslaved into the position of being a cheerleader. It was her choice, which is a whole lot better than what it was years ago. It is up to her to spread her legs or not.

Back to my lady friend who wanted to date only assholes....

She actually had a boyfriend but found out through various mediums that he was cheating on her. AH....... so she ended it and he was rather upset. So much for his 'control'.

My walking through the door example....

I can give someone all the advice in the world. It does not mean they will take it. People make their own internal advice so it makes sense to them.

People change their own minds.

:D

Hopefully this is more concise than the drivel I have put forth previously.




drizzt87 -> RE: Feminism (10/21/2009 10:58:26 AM)

I'm sure there are many inequalities between males and females. I like to believe that in these current times it's more a matter of "how bad do you want it" in reference to the good job, scholarship, new job title. I look at both my mother and sister who have been very successful their whole lives since they have worked hard for what they have. My mom makes 6 figures at Motorola and work's her ass off along with volunteering at social services, and running marathons. My sister has excelled in school her whole life and is about to graduate Vet school this year, I'm sure there may have been some femmine struggles for my mom as she climbed the latter but in the end I'm confident that it was her intelligence and perseverence in the work place that got her to where she is at now. I'm really not trying to bash either sides to this imo stupid football debate I can careless for NFL I think its a waste of time to watch highly paid athletes play a sport and recieve some kind of public hero status, especially when the news gets bombarded with the latest NFL player who commits a crime.

I'd much rather watch college football at least they arent playing for money but ironically a chance to make good money. I do apologize if I offend anyone on here, it seems like a pretty two sided debate with little grey area to work with.

Thanks,
DMorgan




ElWray -> RE: Feminism (10/21/2009 11:47:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: aidan
You really are not cognizant of the things you're saying, and how they're related to what you comment on, are you?

If you can't see how these quotes directly support the portions of Shakti's post you quoted, then there is seemingly no hope of a reasonable discussion. Your head is so far up your ass your pelvis is acting as a hat.

And as for dance, it is far far easier at all levels of the activity to find troupes and routines that are not overtly sexualized compared to cheerleading. And unlike cheerleading, it does not carry the social baggage of being a semi-official concubine for a male sports team.


Apparently, I'm more cognizant of you are, considering you're completely wrong about what I commented on.

The things I quoted, show that Shakti's 'fear' of cheerleaders sexualization is completely unfounded. You see, for girls in high school, it doesn't matter what they wear. Boys' hormones will over sexualize them regardless. It's how teen hormones work.

As for your assertion of the cheerleaders' 'concubine' status, that's in your mind, not reality. Sure, there's the old stereotype of the head cheerleader dating the star quarterback. But in my school, many of the cheerleaders were also the 'goody goodies' who were involved in many other things. I doubt half of them dated anyone on the football team.

Hell, my friend bought his 6-year old daughter a Cowboys' cheerleader uniform for game days. Know what she gravitated toward? First it was Tae Kwon Do, then Ballet.

The image you have of cheerleaders isn't necessarily shared by everyone else.




Elisabella -> RE: Feminism (10/21/2009 7:22:36 PM)


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ORIGINAL: eihwaz


These are rather startling assertions.  You seem to be operating from some cartoon parody notion of feminism.  Were it not for the feminist movement: Women would not have the right to vote, the right to inherit property, the right to equal pay for equal work (still not a reality but much improved), the right to their own sexuality.  Women would still be considered the property of their husbands, both de jure and de facto.  Before the 1960s version of feminism, women were commonly regarded as responsible for being raped ("she was asking for it") and could be legally raped by their husbands.


Right, and now we're at a state where women have more legal rights than men do. So why are there still feminist activists? The goal has been accomplished. Have a beer, pack up and go home.

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This is a quite truncated list of the injustices and oppressions; the actual list is long, and many persist.


I have respect for the feminists who are working to end legal injustices in other parts of the world.

I don't have respect for the feminists who want to help save the poor oppressed white middle class Western women from being cheerleaders.

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I hope you're not saying you'd like to see a return to this pre-feminist state of affairs?  (I believe that "feminism" denoted as such has its origins in the late eighteenth century, but I'm out of my depth on this history.  Shakti?  Somebody?)


No, that's not what I want. There's a difference between past feminist movements (those that lobbied for legal rights) and current feminist movements (those that are lobbying for social change) and it's the latter that tend to bother me. Like I said before I think that the social feminist movement (70's onwards) solidified an idea that traditional female roles are worthless and the only way to get respect was to embark on a traditionally male path. Of course there are certain segments of society (conservative religious groups, certain segments of the immigrant populations, etc) that don't feel that way, but as a whole, women are oversexualized and underfeminized.

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Certainly there are some extreme strains of 'feminism' -- most significant social movements have had, and have, fringe elements.  I've personally been hammered by self-described 'feminists' as if I, as a male, was personally responsible for millenia of patriachal oppression, an accusation I really didn't appreciate.  It's easy to discredit ideas and movements by citing the excesses of some of their adherents -- but it's intellectually dishonest.  Perhaps it's gratifying in a facile sense to trivialize workplace sexual harassment as "not liking dirty jokes," but that's not the reality.


I wasn't trivializing all sexual harassment by equating it to dirty jokes, I was saying that people today actually sue for sexual harassment based on dirty jokes. Personally I think anyone who views our society as 'patriarchy' has selective vision - they see a lot of men on the top and assume men rule the world. But they don't look at the bottom - at the skewed male/female percentages of prison populations, death row inmates, soldiers killed in battle, murder and mugging victims, etc. They see patriarchy as "men at the top, women at the bottom" but the actual trend is really, "men at the top and bottom, women in the middle" and that's far more complex than a simple "patriarchy."

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So let's maintain some perspective on what are very real "women's issues" and the significant achievements of the feminist movement.


Oh I don't disagree that past feminists did a lot to benefit women. I just think current feminists are misguided.

I see it as something like the abolitionist movement in the US. The abolitionists were great. They accomplished their goals. Then they moved on. It would be like if there was still an 'abolitionist' movement trying to force social change on blacks, saying none of them should like rap music or wear their pants hanging down because it "makes the race look bad and keeps them in slavery" - really sort of ridiculous if you think about it. But that's pretty much what lots of feminists say about women's choices.

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BTW, the "separate spheres" doctrine is from the nineteenth century and, at least in some versions, predicated on the innate (biological) inferiority of women.  And even where not, it's reminiscent of another notion of the nineteenth century, the "separate but equal" regime of the American South.


I hate to tell you, but women are biologically inferior in quite a few ways. We're shorter, slower, have less muscle definition...do you think there would be "womens sports" like the WNBA if women could compete equally with men?

We also have a lot of biological advantages - our centre of gravity is lower, we have a higher threshold of pain, we have more fat stores to stave off starvation...but really the point I'm making is that women and men are biologically *different* and that should be recognized.

Pre-op transexuals are often given hormones of the sex they're transitioning to, and it not only affects their physiology, but their emotional and mental state as well. FTM's report feeling more aggressive and horny and MTF's report feeling hypersensitive to their emotions.

Some people might not like the idea, but really now if both genders were totally identical, well, there wouldn't be two genders. And again I want to emphasize that I'm not saying that women should be banned from certain occupations or men should be forbidden from raising children alone, but I do feel that traditionally feminine pursuits are dismissed these days. A good example is the effect of mothering - from ancient times to the 1950's women were revered as mothers, complimenting a woman on how she raised her children was like complimenting a man on the new shed he built. It was a labour of love.

Today it's hard to find a woman who has a genuine passion for mothering and keeping a home. Kids are given video games and a house key at age 8 and most nights mummy brings home a bucket of fried chicken because she's too tired from working to cook. Both mummy and daddy grumble about who's going to do the housework because they're both tired from a day of labour...so the house stays in a general state of 'sort of tidy but not quite clean' which is exposed if you run your finger on the top of the ceiling fan. Housekeeping is a serious pursuit, and it's something that can actually be an art form, but since it's a traditionally female job it's denigrated as 'drudgery' - as opposed to, say, being an accountant, which has the same amount of repetitive tasks, just with less personal meaning.

The problem I have with feminism today is that the attitude many feminists present is "women can do traditionally male stuff as good as a man can," which itself is debatable (see above re: biological differences in physique and emotional temprement) but also, in my mind, devalues women as a whole. If feminism were more concerned with saying something like "the stuff women are good at is just as good as the stuff men are good at" and presented traditional female roles as self empowering and fulfilling pursuits, as well as embracing traditional masculine behaviours and attitudes in men rather than trying to feminize them, I'd support it.




PeonForHer -> RE: Feminism (10/21/2009 7:31:05 PM)

Absolutely no offence meant to all the fine Americans using this forum, ElWray - and still less would I want this thread to turn into an anti-American rant. However, I do feel that I should mention that cheerleading is commonly cited in the rest of the world as one of the chief reasons for why American culture can look so embarrassingly ridiculous. On the one hand, you have these brainless-looking girls flouncing around being utterly frothy and empty-headed, thus symbolising the 'purity' and 'wholesomeness' of US culture; while on the other, you have some psychopathic old wankers urging us all to accept the 'deep Christian virtue' of torturing anyone who might be an 'enemy of freedom'.

It might help world relations a great deal if you got rid of both. Just a thought. And no offence meant, as I said.




Lucienne -> RE: Feminism (10/21/2009 9:24:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Elisabella


Today it's hard to find a woman who has a genuine passion for mothering and keeping a home


It's really not hard at all to find women who are passionate about mothering. The whole "keeping a home" routine carries different baggage. And, no, for the most part, women aren't excited about keeping a home. The people who are excited about "keeping a home" are usually the ones who can afford support staff to do those tasks. Precisely because "keeping a home" is the kind of thing that people are happy and proud to do for a wage, not normally a "virtue is its own reward" situation.






ElWray -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 1:01:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
Absolutely no offence meant to all the fine Americans using this forum, ElWray - and still less would I want this thread to turn into an anti-American rant. However, I do feel that I should mention that cheerleading is commonly cited in the rest of the world as one of the chief reasons for why American culture can look so embarrassingly ridiculous. On the one hand, you have these brainless-looking girls flouncing around being utterly frothy and empty-headed, thus symbolising the 'purity' and 'wholesomeness' of US culture; while on the other, you have some psychopathic old wankers urging us all to accept the 'deep Christian virtue' of torturing anyone who might be an 'enemy of freedom'.

It might help world relations a great deal if you got rid of both. Just a thought. And no offence meant, as I said.


Be fair, cheerleaders can't do even half the damage to our reputation than the wankers you spoke of.




Andalusite -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 7:58:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Elisabella
Like I said above, I have no problem with people being feminists in their own homes and private lives.

It's when they want to change society to fit in with their desires that I get annoyed.

Elisabella, this is what colored my view of your other post. I don't *need* help from feminism in my relationship, with my friends, in my home, in my private life. It primarily affects me in terms of work, education (when I was in school/university), and attitudes from people when I am in public spaces. I am enslaved by a man, but not because I am a woman and somehow "deserve" that, or am inferior to him, but because that is the way I interact with him as an individual person.




Andalusite -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 8:06:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama
Of course. Cheerleaders aren't important and never will be. Know how you can tell? The announcer never mentions them, and they have no names or numbers on their jerseys, and no future other than spreading their legs in the back of a bus.


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ORIGINAL: aidan
And as for dance, it is far far easier at all levels of the activity to find troupes and routines that are not overtly sexualized compared to cheerleading. And unlike cheerleading, it does not carry the social baggage of being a semi-official concubine for a male sports team.



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ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic
The Cheerleader was not enslaved into the position of being a cheerleader. It was her choice, which is a whole lot better than what it was years ago. It is up to her to spread her legs or not.


Sure, cheerleaders literally spread their legs (ie. doing splits), but I disagree that that means they are sluts who take on the whole football team or have sex in the back of the bus. I know several former cheerleaders who aren't like that at all, and didn't date any of the jocks. These attitudes seem *really* sexist and offensive to me!




LaTigresse -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 8:08:06 AM)

And I have to chime my unwanted two cents in here.

The thing that grated on me about

"Like I said above, I have no problem with people being feminists in their own homes and private lives. It's when they want to change society to fit in with their desires that I get annoyed"

is that the basic concepts of feminism SHOULD be an integral part of society. Equal for all. It is when it gets specific, in a consenting relationship etc. etc. that it can be on a take it or leave it.

I will not allow a woman that wants to be treated as less than equal, to be an influence on MY life. I don't believe she has the right to allow her personal lifestyle choice to be an influence on ANY other woman's choice.

If a woman wishes to submit to a man, believe that she should live some 50's type lifestyle, believe that her man is superiour to her in some way........that is HER right. But I will not allow her to use her choices to define me in my life. She can yap about nature and her one true way until her face turns blue. I will support her right to live it but I will tell her to shut the fuck up when she insists on telling me that living my life my way needs to be kept hidden and out of her sight.




Lucienne -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 8:29:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
The thing that grated on me about

"Like I said above, I have no problem with people being feminists in their own homes and private lives. It's when they want to change society to fit in with their desires that I get annoyed"

is that the basic concepts of feminism SHOULD be an integral part of society. Equal for all. It is when it gets specific, in a consenting relationship etc. etc. that it can be on a take it or leave it.


Elisabella's comment didn't grate on me as much as it made laugh. It was a perfectly absurd thing to say for the reasons that you mention. It's like saying "I don't mind water, as long as it stays out of the ocean."




nanshakh -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 8:42:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
Absolutely no offence meant to all the fine Americans using this forum, ElWray - and still less would I want this thread to turn into an anti-American rant. However, I do feel that I should mention that cheerleading is commonly cited in the rest of the world as one of the chief reasons for why American culture can look so embarrassingly ridiculous. On the one hand, you have these brainless-looking girls flouncing around being utterly frothy and empty-headed, thus symbolising the 'purity' and 'wholesomeness' of US culture; while on the other, you have some psychopathic old wankers urging us all to accept the 'deep Christian virtue' of torturing anyone who might be an 'enemy of freedom'.

It might help world relations a great deal if you got rid of both. Just a thought. And no offence meant, as I said.


Be fair, cheerleaders can't do even half the damage to our reputation than the wankers you spoke of.


So true. That's putting things back into perspective.

Actually, that's one of the things that many appreciate and envy USAmericans for. No, not cheerleaders [:D]. But that capacity to indulge in doing things because they enjoy it, not caring one bit if it is going to be seen as ridiculous by others. This is a great quality in fact. A great lesson in simplicity to all those, in "older" countries, overtly uptight and self-conscious people who are living in terror of ever being a trifle ridiculous. An attitude which is nothing else than a form of cultural bigotry as I see it. After all, one is ridiculous only in the eye of the beholder. If one doesn't care about the beholders, their eyes, and the ridicule, one is immune to being too self-conscious, and feels so much freer.

I don't believe cheerleaders are so damaging for the reputation of the USA. It might be a practice that is damaging to those partaking in it, and there should be a health hazard warning on the package [:)]. But it's the whole sport, American Football, that seems very strange for me. Yet it is a feeling I have about many sports. Not the sports themselves, but the way they are practiced actually. What is ugly is all the commercial and ideological exploitation.

For that matter, I much prefer American Football than Soccer football. It might look like a farce, but it is much less primitive and barbarian. I've never heard of British hooligans provoking the deaths of 91 people in the tribunes of an American Football match, as they did in the Hazel stadium in Belgium, or 96 deaths in the Hillsborough Stadium tragedy. A feat hooligans are trying to repeat whenever there is a soccer match in England or in Europe, usually resulting in numerous casualties and sometimes deaths. So even if it looks like a farce, it is in fact a rather well orchestrated and harmless farce. Each country has its silly traditions, they mostly look silly to outsiders, are not so silly after all when better understood. From what I hear around me, other things are much more damaging to the reputation of the USA. Them wankers too, indeed.

Now, from a purely "outsider" point of view, the role assumed by cheerleaders is... a bit surprising, shouting and jumping up and down as if the promiscuity of males was all of the sudden so exciting to them. But for that matter, they don't look so much sillier or caricatural than the footballers themselves, somewhat exotically dressed to resemble some sort of modern Homo neanderthalensis. As for the public, again, at least they only come to have a good time, not to try to commit mass murder.

Yes, I do think the role assumed by cheerleaders is diminishing to women. It's part of the epic. The mighty warriors are engaged in a virile clash from which the most brutal will emerge glorified, and the giggling overexcited girls are on the side, supporting the heros who will, supposedly, be allowed to claim them as bounty. Even if it's just a symbol, and not true in reality, it makes no difference to the intent of the whole orchestration. Not much different from the tournaments we used to have in medieval times (the cheerleaders were quieter actually :)) Not much different from the gladiators fencing in the arena earlier (though the women were only allowed to occupy the worst seats, up there, farthest from the arena. (Maybe they had been distracting the gladiators [:D]). But yes, the whole thing is meant as a big celebration of patriarchal values. It's the same with the race car girls parading beside the sleek mechanical chariots before the race. And this is taking place all around the world when it comes to flatter the males' ego to make them pay for something.

I am not so sure it always corresponds to the general taste of the public. What I noticed in this kind of popular culture, is that the marketing is very outdated, it's slow to notice the changes in society. Maybe the macho message is not so catchy to so many any more, but it would take those taking care of the marketing ages to realize that. They keep on applying the same recipes because after all... the money keeps coming in. It's either that, or there is a deliberate intent in trying to still convey that message to the public. It wouldn't be the first time. I am not so sure actually. It's quite puzzling.




drizzt87 -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 11:44:24 AM)

Since were still talking about cheerleaders.. I'll confess that I sat across from the Eagle's cheerleaders on a C-130 flying from an air base in Iraq. They presented themselves as any other young lady would act I believe most of them were attending college and since they only do home games its more of a hobby that they enjoy much the same way a lady would enjoy dancing either professionally or at a club. I may be a blind male but as an American theyre pursuing happiness and can probably care less what others say about them. Who are we to judge how they should act to appease our own beliefs.

-DMorgan




GoDolphins -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 3:14:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama
Of course. Cheerleaders aren't important and never will be. Know how you can tell? The announcer never mentions them, and they have no names or numbers on their jerseys, and no future other than spreading their legs in the back of a bus.


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ORIGINAL: aidan
And as for dance, it is far far easier at all levels of the activity to find troupes and routines that are not overtly sexualized compared to cheerleading. And unlike cheerleading, it does not carry the social baggage of being a semi-official concubine for a male sports team.



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ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic
The Cheerleader was not enslaved into the position of being a cheerleader. It was her choice, which is a whole lot better than what it was years ago. It is up to her to spread her legs or not.


Sure, cheerleaders literally spread their legs (ie. doing splits), but I disagree that that means they are sluts who take on the whole football team or have sex in the back of the bus. I know several former cheerleaders who aren't like that at all, and didn't date any of the jocks. These attitudes seem *really* sexist and offensive to me!


It is pretty ironic that it's the feminists on here who are doing the most judging of women's choices isn't it? It just defends what I said in my first post on this thread about feminism being an ideology that has to be followed for many modern feminists to be able to accept those "choices." Then again I could go on forever with double standards here, but I won't.

I wonder what the women I know who have been cheerleaders at one time or another and lead successful lives both professionally and personally and did not go around spreading their legs would say about these comments. It's just amazing to me there are women out there being killed for wearing the wrong thing and we're worried about cheerleaders and their choices and how they keep The Patriarchy going.




dreamerdreaming -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 4:58:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DVsFox

When feminism tells women what they can and cannot do based on solely on their gender--it's not feminism.

DV's Fox



Exactly.

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The whole point of feminism, which is to free people from gender-based prejudice and its effects, is clearly lost on that woman. Instead she's somehow gotten things completely backwards. [8|]


*wonders if the poor woman also thinks her ass is her face, etc.*




youngsubgeoff -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 5:36:51 PM)

Do I think women are as capeable as men when it comes to playing football? No. Why? Because in football, size does matter. Alot. I played middle linebacker in high school through my junior year. I was 6'0, 250 lbs, and I was a mean SOB. My usual plan of attack was to knock the center, who was almost always alot bigger than I was, on his ass and get to the ball carrier. I doubt that an average or even slightly larger than average woman would be able to stop me.

Now that being said, do I think women are less capeable then men in the workplace, or even the rest of the world? Absolutely not. My supervisor at work is a woman, and she's probably the best supervisor Ive ever had.

Basically the only place Im a sexist is in sports.




ShaktiSama -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 5:49:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite
These attitudes seem *really* sexist and offensive to me!


But young girls pouring their energy in high school into a pursuit that will never produce a viable income and cannot be anything more than a "hobby" for them as adults, while boys can parlay their athletic pursuits into a  full ride college scholarship and possible a minimum of 640K a year as professional athletes--that isn't at all sexist or offensive to you, right?

Yeah, your priorities and mine are really, really not the same, Andalusite.  Maybe there really is something about NOT spending my days kneeling in service to a man that makes it impossible for you and I to see "sexism" the same way.

Lot of people babbling in this thread about women's "choices", it seems to me.  Not a lot of people concerning themselves over where a young girl's "choice" may lead.  No interest whatsoever in whether women and girls are being offered opportunities to prosper and better their own lives with their talents--opportunities that boys can take for granted.

As for your repeated insistence that cheerleading is wholesome, pure, devoid of sexual suggestion or sexual exploitation, and that no cheerleader is expected to or forced to "put out" in the course of her participation in the activity?

I must respectfully disagree.  I think the fake pseudo-wholesome batting-your-eyelashes "Me?  Never!" facade that is associated with cheerleading is bullshit.  What's more, it's ugly, twisted, dangerous bullshit, which allows people to make excuses for pushing younger and younger and younger children into a sexually exploitive costumes and sexually provocative role.




Andalusite -> RE: Feminism (10/22/2009 6:27:51 PM)

youngsubgeoff, one of my classmates most of the way from K-12 was a Samoan woman who was around 6' and 250 pounds. She didn't choose to go for football, although she did play informally with the guys a lot. She was an all-star athlete in track, volleyball, basketball, softball, swimming, and she was a cheerleader to boot. Plus, she was in Honors/AP classes in High School. [:D] Yes, most women don't have the build for it, but a few do, and I know a couple have been the place kicker at the High School and college/university levels.

ShaktiSama, I already agreed that I think that cheerleaders' uniforms should be changed, especially for the younger girls. Probably there are *some* cheerleaders who are also sluts, but *assuming* that all of them are is sexist, misogynistic, and downright wrong/mistaken. *Most* children who are athletes don't become professionals, whether male or female. Some keep it as a hobby, some explore other athletic areas and use the skills they've learned there, some become couch potatoes. I think that anyone who develops a lifelong love of exercise is doing well, much like anyone who fosters a love of reading. It's just applicable to so many other areas of our lives! Yes, there are fewer opportunities for female athletes than male athletes, and that is one of *many* areas that need to be improved. I think it's less important than educational and professional opportunities in other areas, and it already has more than its fair share of funding compared to hard sciences, engineering, and many other areas. As I pointed out before, male and female track stars, badminton players, wrestlers, fencers, gymnasts, and volleyball players all are very unlikely to be able to make a living from their respective fields as well. I can guarantee that male and female D&D players, collectible card game players, chess players, and so forth are *also* very unlikely to make any money from the time and effort they put in. Some things just tend to be hobbies rather than careers. Heck, for that matter, being able to qualify as a professional cheerleader is easier than qualifying as a professional football player - instead of only taking the best of the best, they merely need to meet the basic qualifications. I do think that moving cheerleading into being more of its own sport with its own competitions is a positive change, and hopefully will lead to better, more qualified coaching and improved safety measures.

If *anyone*, you included, views a child as "sexually provocative," no matter what they're wearing or doing or if they're stark naked, *YOU* (collectively) have something seriously wrong with you.

As to my kneeling to my Master, I have had a male submissive before for 5 years, and all but one of my ex-boyfriends since I was 21 have been somewhat submissive to me, both in and out of the bedroom. When I was looking most recently, I was open to possible people of any D/s or BDSM orientation. I don't serve him because he is a man, or because men in general are superior to women, or because *he* is superior to me. I react to him as an individual that way, and he likes that I am intelligent and strong. Just because I started out as a Domme and am now a slave doesn't mean that any other Domme will do so as well. MaamJay and lovingpet are both also switches who are currently in M/s relationships with a man as well - do you feel they don't have any right to post here either?




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