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kinky girlfriend - 10/12/2009 6:39:37 PM   
TheCid


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Status: offline 		so i have a new girlfriend and things are going great. the relation ship is purely vanilla and im fine with that, but i can tell my girl is dominant, she just dose not know it yet. examples. she always initiates sex, she LOVES to bight (my chest looks like the battle of the bulge) and one of the resonse she likes me so much is because i let her by her crazy self. i have told her that im sexually submissive and her response what a striate up "good".

know im not saying i what to FORCE her to be dominant or anything, that just seems like a horrible idea, and im fine with what i have right now, i have a feeling that this would happen naturally as time goes by, what i would like is some tips on how we can begin to explore our more kinky sides.
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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/12/2009 6:42:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		The same way you'd do anything new with a partner. Get a few books and read them together, read some websites and join some forums together, go out and experience things together.

Experiencing new things with a partner is not rocket science just because it's got the label 'kinky' on it.



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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/12/2009 6:45:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Slow and easy... ask what she wants to try, tell her you won't judge her but you'd love to know some of her biggest fantasies... let it be an open conversation.



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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/12/2009 8:27:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hello Cid,

I get it... You feel damned lucky and you don't want to blow it.  I was in a similar situation.  In my case, she was the one who wanted to expand into 'Whips-n-Chains.'   Oh!.. the memories!....

My advice...  make suggestions... Introduce her to Elise Sutton and be prepared for her to take the lead.

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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/13/2009 10:46:21 AM   
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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/13/2009 2:47:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Elise "I am really a man" Sutton? 

To the OP:  I am not really clear how it is that your girlfriend is biting you hard enough to bruise and always initiating whatever sex you have and is still classified as "vanilla".  If she isn't interested or experienced in the D/S activities you enjoy, bring them up and see if you can get her excited about the idea.  *shrug*  That's how it worked for me when I was young.

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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/13/2009 3:11:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tie her up, Top her ass and piss her off....then let her go....and your ass is now on the bottom, without even asking

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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/13/2009 6:14:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		all really great ideas. o and i looked up Sutton... lol ya maybe a bit to much, i would like to actually keep my free will for the moment

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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/13/2009 9:11:55 PM   
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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/15/2009 9:58:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		@SnowRanger...... um no, Gloria Brame wrote Different Loving. Elise Sutton, is supposedly a female domiant who writes about female supremacy, but does it with such a slant towards male submissive fantasies, is often thought and rumored to actually be a male submissive who writes under the name.

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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/15/2009 2:23:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think you just need to talk to her about it all. You like being submissive and she likes to be Dominant. It could be a match made in heaven!

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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/15/2009 8:42:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IBused

Tie her up, Top her ass and piss her off....then let her go....and your ass is now on the bottom, without even asking


Whatever happened to honest, direct communication? Manipulation from the bottom, of any kind, is a bad idea. That's like Dominants that give submissives impossible to complete assignments/tasks, just for the opportunity to 'punish'.

I'm sure you were just joking, but really, wrong way to go about getting what you ultimately want.

OP - the advice from the other posters about reading books and websites together is the right path to go. There's a work of fiction called, "She's on Top", which I found quite yummy. Gifting her with it could be a good idea, and if she reacts favorably, then you can ease her into some of the more informative/less fantasy books of our life/lovestyle.

Good luck and keep us posted,


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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/17/2009 7:15:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi.

It's not for a sub to train a Mistress but your right that she might be a natural dom and so it looks like you can let it happen naturally the way she wants it to. But you can leave subtle stuff around to see if it interests her, like a regular movie with one femdom scene in it and see how she reacts during that scene. And by the bed you can leave rope and handcuffs and see if she chooses to use them or not. If you get selfish and demanding about it she might lose the interest altogether so like I said leave only subtle hints. We've tutored lots of women and I know they all don't like a sub topping from the bottom.

Hope this helps.

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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/18/2009 7:23:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dude, trust me on this. Just ask! Even if she is not thrilled with ALL of what you choose to lay out just take whatever she is willing to do and and run with it. It will amaze you how "one thing MAY lead to another" anyway. So decide on one simple act that you think you would like to experience with her and flat out ask her if she would be cool with it. If she says no than you have other things to think about. But if your intuition is correct you will enjoy that evening! I really think this is your only option. Good luck!

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RE: kinky girlfriend - 10/20/2009 10:55:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		well thank you for the advice. two nights ago i just went with it and asker her striate if she would be into it. things took a bit of a 360 turn though, i ended up tying her up 0_0. haha did not know i had it in me, we had a blast.
not complaining though fun all around.

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