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Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 3:37:41 AM   
angeloflife


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Status: offline 		Reading a profile tonight i have seen many a time and have shook my head and i still dont get the subs need to be paid to be humiliated?

Sure i understand she wants to be humiliated and that's her kink ...But why does she feel the need to have to make others pay for her to feel humiliated ???? I dont get it at all. Sounds more like a job then a kink to me???

Would love to hear others feed back on this ....for the life of me i really dont get why??? Sounds more like he is her pimp not her Dom???? What say you???
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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 3:50:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: angeloflife

Reading a profile tonight i have seen many a time and have shook my head and i still dont get the subs need to be paid to be humiliated?

Sure i understand she wants to be humiliated and that's her kink ...But why does she feel the need to have to make others pay for her to feel humiliated ???? I dont get it at all. Sounds more like a job then a kink to me???

Would love to hear others feed back on this ....for the life of me i really dont get why??? Sounds more like he is her pimp not her Dom???? What say you???


I'd have to see this profile to give you good answer

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 3:58:11 AM   
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Her dominant is offering her up for others to humiliate, if they'll pay him/her? If so, then yes, he IS her pimp, pretty much, which does not preclude that from being a "kink".

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 4:26:43 AM   
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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 4:42:24 AM   
MasternAtl


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Status: offline 		Do you have to "get it" in order for it to be okay for others to do?

Seriously, if it is something that this individual or individuals enjoy and there are others willing to pay to participate, what is wrong with that?



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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 4:46:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Because giving him money to do this is of itself humiliating. So she's doubly humiliated like this.

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 5:04:47 AM   
LondonTrainer


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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 5:20:33 AM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: MasternAtl

Do you have to "get it" in order for it to be okay for others to do?

Seriously, if it is something that this individual or individuals enjoy and there are others willing to pay to participate, what is wrong with that?





Depending on what is involved in this "humiliation" since money is changing hands, it may be considered prostitution. Since it is the dominant's responsiblitity to keep a submissive safe, he needs to make sure the submissive not is doing anything that will get her into legal trouble.

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 6:29:49 AM   
angeloflife


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Status: offline 		I first message the said sub about her profile, she is just turned 18 and has been told by her Dom she must make a quota every day.So she must get so many to pay to view her on cam.She also does real time meets for money.

I do understand she wants and enjoys the humiliation it is a common kink.I know their are alot of kinks some extreme and we all have our own kinks myself included. Is why I'm on CM in the first place. Its the fact she has to get a quota everyday and states on her profile she is of late feeling burnt out and was upset she couldn't get her quota for the week. The fact that they MUST pay....is the part i dont understand.To do it for your kink yep i do.

Their are professionals out there and yep i understand that also. They are upfront and provide a service it is their thing.

This i feel however slips in between ...She said in a message to me " all subs and Doms get burnt out" This in it self caused me concern. ..Thanks for all the feed back so far is helping me to understand better.

angeloflife :-)

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 7:34:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds to me like she's a pro-submissive. At first, I thought you were saying that *she* was paying for humiliation sessions.

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 8:30:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dont get it either.  But thats not my kink.  As long as it works for her.....

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 8:39:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		wait, I am just all kinda fucked up over this, someone will pay me to humiliate them?

Now I feel like such a worthless slut, giving it away with both hands like I do.

Ron

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 9:08:47 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: angeloflife

Would love to hear others feed back on this ....for the life of me i really dont get why??? Sounds more like he is her pimp not her Dom???? What say you???


but you've already answered your question. your problem is your unwillingness to accept their dynamic differs from the definition you've affixed to your own. if he is the dominant and has determined this is proper for them, why would their behavior be of concern to you? she belongs to him and most people use their property in the manner they deem suitable. they don't solicit suggestions nor require approval. i find it highly doubtful you'd want the same either.

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 12:29:31 PM   
angeloflife


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Status: offline 		I said i didnt understand,I was concerned ,I wanted others feed back to understand more about this ....I didnt say i aproved or not, or that is was not a kink .Yes i agree if that is their kink , then it is.No right or wrong here , once again thanks for the feed back is interesting to hear everyones views on this .

angeloflife :-)

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 12:43:58 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

wait, I am just all kinda fucked up over this, someone will pay me to humiliate them?

Now I feel like such a worthless slut, giving it away with both hands like I do.

Ron
No, no, no Ron ...YOU have to pay to humiliate HER.  So for that to work for you, someone would have to pay YOU to humilate YOU.  See?

Ever-helpful CD

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 4:54:57 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		There are pro-submissives just as there are pro-Dom(me)s.  *shrug*  And, whatever they're doing doesn't necessarily fall into the realm of prostitution because it may not be overtly sexual. 
If you're interested in the service for sale, explore further.  If you're not, don't. 
Also, bear in mind that there are sometimes scammers on here and elsewhere. 
Davan

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 8:24:51 PM   
Hierodule


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Status: offline 		Early in our relationship, my now Master handed me money after our very first intense "session". I refused it because it made me feel cheap. I said "I'm not doing this for money." He said" You don't understand if you want to be mine you have to obey me in every way. If this money makes you feel like a whore then you need to deal with those feelings. I'm not offering you money. I'm ordering you to take it." It was my first real surrender of pride to him. Not a physical surrender, a mental one. I did feel humiliated. Because after something that was so intense for me, to be given money made me feel like property. Like I had been used as an object. To me it was powerful. It hasn't become a recurring theme as me move into 24/7 but I think he really felt that it would make me swallow my pride. And he was right. So... just saying, maybe being made to feel like a whore is the ultimate humiliation for some women.

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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 10:01:39 PM   
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It was my first real surrender of pride to him


i miss this feeling....


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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 10:47:46 PM   
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RE: Paid to be humiliated...I dont get it ??? - 10/13/2009 10:50:39 PM   
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