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RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 8:26:46 AM

GYPSYMAMBO

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I have been hearing a lot lately in messages and etc about
"rude DOMMES".."They are rude"..."DOMME=rude"
or "at least you are not rude"

Have had what you feel is a rude DOMME encounter ?

I am interested in what RUDE means/meant to you?
..........not to attack but to gain insight...

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 8:34:58 AM

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I've talked to Dommes, and They weren't at all rude. But then we were conversing as friends, not as potential D/s partners. As a matter of fact, just a day or two ago, I talked to a Domme Who was very warm, friendly, and funny. She made me laugh when I needed it very much.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 9:53:57 AM

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The rudest by far, that I've seen lately, was the 'domme' that got an online degree from some so-called 'domme university'.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 10:02:34 AM

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I am trying to find out from those who feel they have had a rude encounter..exactly what they mean

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 10:06:02 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

The rudest by far, that I've seen lately, was the 'domme' that got an online degree from some so-called 'domme university'.

I think I recall the person of whom you speak. For all her "education" she has a propensity for using 4 for "for" and 2 for "to."

Lest she contaminate the environment for all on-line education, I'll just comment that The Power Play Academy, with which I am associated does not give "degrees." The format is much like a demo or presentation that one would experience at a BDSM conference with the added advantage of extensive one-on-one interaction with the instructors. Even then we don't "certify" anyone as to "expertise." The reward is intended to be greater understanding rather than a piece of paper one can use to proclaim superiority.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 10:10:18 AM

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It's rare that a domme's been rude to me when talking privately. I did have one, though, who CMailed out of the blue to tell me that she would 'consider an application from me' then got really pissy because I hadn't replied within two minutes (as per her stated requirement of all subs). I also disagreed with one of her opinions, which elicited a furious "Never contradict me again!" However, after due consideration, I concluded that she wasn't so much rude as barking looney.

I guess the main reason that dommes can be rude is the same as it is for subs: egos and fantasies. Their kink assumes super-inflated proportions and they stop connecting with people in a human way.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 10:15:25 AM

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quote:

've talked to Dommes, and They weren't at all rude. But then we were conversing as friends, not as potential D/s partners.

i second this. I talk to Dommes all the time, but not as a potential submissive.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 10:29:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

The rudest by far, that I've seen lately, was the 'domme' that got an online degree from some so-called 'domme university'.

I think I recall the person of whom you speak. For all her "education" she has a propensity for using 4 for "for" and 2 for "to."

Lest she contaminate the environment for all on-line education, I'll just comment that The Power Play Academy, with which I am associated does not give "degrees." The format is much like a demo or presentation that one would experience at a BDSM conference with the added advantage of extensive one-on-one interaction with the instructors. Even then we don't "certify" anyone as to "expertise." The reward is intended to be greater understanding rather than a piece of paper one can use to proclaim superiority.

Yeah, but John...

YOU have a grip on reality *grins* And frankly, the organizations you associate with, in my mind, would be worthwhile, since I have no doubt that you eschew any "unicorn and rainbow" places.

warmest regards to you and LIbby...

GM: rude, to me has many forms. Words (often more in HOW theyre said than the definition), attitudes of someone somehow thinking they are in some way superior to me, physical behaviour (going through a door, for instance, knowing someone is right behind them, and letting the door slam in their face). It is a combination of things.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 10:32:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

've talked to Dommes, and They weren't at all rude. But then we were conversing as friends, not as potential D/s partners.
i second this. I talk to Dommes all the time, but not as a potential submissive.

Imma third it...

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 10:44:34 AM

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I have heard a vicious rumour that the simple act of knowing what you want and how, can be deemed as rude by a demanding bottom.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 10:47:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

've talked to Dommes, and They weren't at all rude. But then we were conversing as friends, not as potential D/s partners.
i second this. I talk to Dommes all the time, but not as a potential submissive.

Imma third it...

i fourth this, many i've spoken to are friendly and kind =]

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 11:39:16 AM

DemonKia

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FR, after read thru

Hey, Gypsy, yeah, I've had interesting interactions with some femdoms over on the profile side. It's been a long time, but the first year I was hanging out on CM, 2007-ish, there were a few.

The one that really stands out in my head is the woman who chastised me for looking at her full profile. I kid you not. I was going thru this phase where I was reading just about every femdom profile (on CM) or pro-dom website (online in general) -- it's very educational, femdoms know a lot & like to communicate, in general . .. . . . & I pulled her full profile up alongside probably dozens of other ones, & within a day or two she cmailed me & berated me for opening her full profile. I think I probably just laughed & continued on my way . . . . .

Outside of that I've had a few interactions on the CM profile side with femdoms who're suffering from what I think of as 'dom poisoning' . .. . . Ya know, when someone has overdosed on the domly thing, gotten completely carried away with bein' dom . . . . Dom poisoning looks just as unattractive on any gender . . . . .

& then there's the surfeit of folks who think that the most important thing is that eau d'bad ass, that doms-must-be-grim thing, with profiles brimming with severity & palpable meanness . . . .. I do have to wonder about how that works out, if they're like that in their emails or in their ordinary lives . . . . .

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 11:51:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I have heard a vicious rumour that the simple act of knowing what you want and how, can be deemed as rude by a demanding bottom.

And don't forget saying "no", refusing to run right out and play with them RIGHT THEN, and of course, refusing to change your preferences or standards to meet their needs.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 4:36:35 PM

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I'm not looking for a domme, but while I've had many friendly and nice encounters, I've also had a number of rude and inexplicable ones. The fact that I'm gay does not mean:

1. I want to be ordered by her to have sex with her male sub.

2. I'm a effeminate straight or bi submissive.

Generally, the dommes I've met who weren't looking for anything other than platonic conversation were quite nice. The ones who were looking for more are the only ones I've recieved rude or baffling messages from.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 5:51:10 PM

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The only Dommes I interact with are those I've met on these forums.And they've all been polite, as I have been with them.

However, I have read a lot of journal entries from Dommes who were seriously deficient in manners. Complaining about subs who are not exactly what they want, and making demands upon worms - you get the idea.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 6:01:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

The rudest by far, that I've seen lately, was the 'domme' that got an online degree from some so-called 'domme university'.

Yea, I would have to agree with ya there.

Gypsy, I have seen posts, like the one Greedy mentioned, where I have thought, yea that's rude. Of course the posters have varied between Dom/sub/male/female and all combos. I have even been know to get rude once in a while, but I try hard to behave. I just hate getting mail from Mod 11.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 6:05:32 PM

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We have had lots of run-ins with very rude dommes who believe they are entitled to service from anyone who is submissive or slave. Everything from name calling when I do not allow them to speak with Fox when I dont like their motives, to questioning my dominance when I dont cuckold or share him.

We get it alot, but the vast majority of those I get it from are not what Id consider "real" dominants. They tend to be the fake, Ive been making boys do things for me as long as I can remember and I am dominant beasue I am hot and say that I am types. Those with actual experience and interest in the lifestyle rather than what it can get them tend to have better personalities.

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 6:12:42 PM

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All the Dommes I talk to are sweethearts, except for only one encounter I had on the boards. I commented on the OP, and she just "knew" I was referring to her, and at that point I hadn't even read her post yet. No amount of reasoning could get through. But I didn't take it personally, because this woman would argue with a stop sign. She loves to fight, she pretty much has the opposite opinion of everyone on the boards, loves to flame, and loves to be the victim, everything is about her....I don't even read her post anymore.

Now I've been called rude and worse when I wouldn't go to IM on the first email, phone on the first email, fall in love with them on the first email, or collar them on the first email. And don't forget the every present cyber.

I try to be reasonable, to even the jerks that contact me, the majority have the sense to leave me alone, but you have that small percent that want to push and since I've been told I am human, I do have a limit, I usually just block them, but every now and then, when there's not chocolate around.......

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 6:15:35 PM

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Well there was one domme who, one time when I had some new pictures up of me, decided she was disgusted by how both' my Daddy and I looked and decided to call us the fugliest mamals shed ever seen and we need a fork lift not a 4 runner since on the forrums I was talking about him being ready to buy a used 4 runner, and in our pictures I was lounging against said 4 t runner., we were so fat, ect ect. Then when I told her have fun being reported to the mods for harrasment and blocked her she made another profile to continue the insults, and then blocked me when I told her this profile would be reported for abuse too.

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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

I am trying to find out from those who feel they have had a rude encounter..exactly what they mean

GM

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RE: RUDE DOMMES - 10/14/2009 6:20:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

Well there was one domme who, one time when I had some new pictures up of me, decided she was disgusted by how both' my Daddy and I looked and decided to call us the fugliest mamals shed ever seen and we need a fork lift not a 4 runner since on the forrums I was talking about him being ready to buy a used 4 runner, and in our pictures I was lounging against said 4 t runner., we were so fat, ect ect. Then when I told her have fun being reported to the mods for harrasment and blocked her she made another profile to continue the insults, and then blocked me when I told her this profile would be reported for abuse too.

quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

I am trying to find out from those who feel they have had a rude encounter..exactly what they mean

GM

how sad...I get guys that email insults like that sometime. I guess they think being that way they will get a response or attention for sure and negative attention is better than no attention

they should put that energy into actually trying they would get much further

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