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SubOnlyForHim -> RE: Public Play (10/15/2009 9:35:06 PM)

Please accept my apologies. My personal experience makes me forget sometimes...Things are not the same everywhere and there are exceptions to everything.

My state...

http://www.illinoisattorneygeneral.gov/communities/somb/isort_questions.html

i've known people over the years to be caught having sex on a park bench, bike path in a park beneath a tree, or in a car or on the courthouse steps (noway, it wasn't me and you've no proof of it) and they're not on the list...

i'm sure there are other ways to get on there, as judges usually have some control over these things if they feel it is necessary. i'm just saying in my area at least, you'll likely not end up on a sex offender registry for getting caught doing a little public "public play", as long as you're consenting adults and not doing these things in front of children, you know, common sense things.

(fine it was me, and i'm not on the list)



WyldHrt -> RE: Public Play (10/15/2009 9:44:35 PM)

Back on topic-
LP nailed it for me. The term "public play" usually refers to BDSM activities at clubs, parties, and kinky events. "Playing in public" is more likely to be that another matter, the schtuff that can get you in deep do-do with the law if you aren't careful.




LadyPact -> RE: Public Play (10/16/2009 3:00:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: YourAcquiescent

Thank for responding LadyPact. For some reason I always thought of what you described as being called 'voyeurism' or 'exhibitionism' during a munch, club, or party. Of course I do understand that voyeurism is the act of getting sexual gratification by looking at other sexual acts and that exhibitionism is the act of displaying genitals in public or behaving in such a way as to attract attention. I just thought that Public Play was the act of doing anything sexual oriented in public no matter where you are at. But perhaps I need to revise my definitions of what these words mean when Master's and Mistresses point them out.  [8|]


In My opinion, yes, you have your terms incorrect.

Voyeurism is one obtaining sexual gratification from observing unsuspecting individuals who are partly undressed, naked, or engaged in sexual acts; broadly : one who habitually seeks sexual stimulation by visual means.

Exhibitionism is sexual gratification obtained from the indecent exposure of one's genitals as to a stranger or  an act of such exposure or secondarily the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself.

Public play may or may not include some of these, but they are not the common use of the term.  Public play can be without nudity, without physical sexual contact, and a myriad of other things.  The only two components that are required for the term is that it's something not done in private and it has something connected in some way with BDSM.





YourAcquiescent -> RE: Public Play (10/16/2009 5:01:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

In My opinion, yes, you have your terms incorrect.

Voyeurism is one obtaining sexual gratification from observing unsuspecting individuals who are partly undressed, naked, or engaged in sexual acts; broadly : one who habitually seeks sexual stimulation by visual means.

Exhibitionism is sexual gratification obtained from the indecent exposure of one's genitals as to a stranger or  an act of such exposure or secondarily the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself.

Public play may or may not include some of these, but they are not the common use of the term.  Public play can be without nudity, without physical sexual contact, and a myriad of other things.  The only two components that are required for the term is that it's something not done in private and it has something connected in some way with BDSM.





Thank you again Lady Pact,

I see now that I need to be more specific when I mention that I do not enjoy Public Play. I always held public activities (even private public activities) seperate from activites done at a munch, club, or party. So when I tell a Master who is considering me to be their sub that I do not enjoy Public Play I always have referred to all of those activites I listed in my first post. I have always enjoyed going to munchies and participating, but I do not enjoy bdsm activites in a public setting where others are not like-minded. There has always been an issue with this between me and any Dominant. I thought I made it clear from the beginning that I do not enjoy fingering myself behind bathroom stalls, that I want to wear bras under my shirts while shopping, and that I don't want to give them a bj while in a movie theatre. So when they go and try to push me to do these things I get a little frizzled because I had thought that we had already agreed to no Public Play.

In the future I now know to be more specific so that there is no confusion, and I will revise my definition of what Public Play refers to.  [:)]



OsideGirl -> RE: Public Play (10/16/2009 7:15:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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*Ahem* you will not be put on a "Sex Offender Registry" for public nudity, indecent exposure, etc... There are consequences for being caught doing such things, but that isn't it. The Sex Offender Registry is for rapists, child molestors, sexual predators (felony sex crimes).

Incorrect, depending on jurisdiction. You can wind up on the Sex Offender Registry for getting caught taking a whizz behind a bush in many places.

Yup. Some guy here was put on the sex offenders list for peeing in the bushes. A 13 year old girl saw him and went to her parents who reported it to the police. Instant "felony public nudity".



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Public Play (10/16/2009 10:51:40 AM)

Nobody is in a tizzy you're the one  who's now becoming  rude and snarky. Perhaps if you perceive us all who replied to you, to be in a tizzy you need to step away from the computer and see to some real life issues for a while instead of imagining tizzies where there are none. It will certainly suit your use of time better.





And no she wasn't in college she was 17 in high school and on parole for the sex act in school, I believe it was, since I didn't really pay much close attention to the case,
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ORIGINAL: SubOnlyForHim



Thanks for pointing out that i did not pull out my law books and give you a list of every offense and the repercussions for each one. i was under the impression the other people out there in cyberspace conversing on this forum were adults and not school-age children that needed explicit step-by-step instruction and direction. Obviously, my head was in the clouds. i gave examples, not a complete detailed list. i beg your pardon(s)

There are age guidelines per state for consensual sex. In my state it is 16 and not more than 2 years age difference between the parties who are getting horizontal (oh i should clarify my slang so no one gets in a tizzy about that, i dont mean only horizontal...they can be doing it doggy style, woman on top, standing up or any other way, the rule is still the same)
As far as someone being on parole and in school (college i am assuming? because parole implies they've just gotten out of PRISON) and if they didn't do what they were required to do as part of their sentence, well, duh!



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Public Play (10/16/2009 10:59:41 AM)

For me, Public play does not need to be connected to bdsm to be public play. You could go to a dungeon and not bring out a single kinky toy or  impliment, hell you can do things termed vanilla, and vanilla only, and still be playing in public since you are engaging in what you're doing in a space that's not your private home.
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact


  The only two components that are required for the term is that it's something not done in private and it has something connected in some way with BDSM.






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