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too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 6:29:28 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Master's need a new topic.
So, the topic is....Denial.
Is this not the greatest form of punishment?

Go stand in the corner, nekked and leave me alone....Don't turn and look at me with those puppy dog eyes...I will not waiver!

Damn, that's a hard punishment to follow through with.....I should keep her dressed!
What is your favorite punishment?

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 6:51:05 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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What is your favorite punishment?

Favorite punishment is an oxymoron to me if you're talking about actual behavior modification. When I feel I actually have to punish someone, it's not at all pleasureable for me. It not only means they have disappointed me, but that I have made missteps to not correct or guide them properly along the way. It forces me to question my methods, it forces me to question my path and their own perspective of our mutual path. It is not in any way a pleasurable experience for either of us.

And THEN I have to take the time and energy to enact a punishment, which takes away from fun time together. Life is too short already.



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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 7:09:46 PM   
KnightofMists


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what Lucky said!!

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 7:16:14 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		my Master would have answered the same. He does not like punishing me. This in no way means he does NOT punish me when he deems necessary, but he would rather spend his time enjoying me than going through everything LA described.

Thank you, LA, for such an accurate portrayal.

Now, the question could be, what are the most effective forms of punishment...and that may elicit different responses. Naturally, however, they would depend on the particular submissive being punished, and the nature of the infraction. But it may be interesting to know of some creative methods people use.


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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 7:44:57 PM   
MHOO314


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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 7:53:40 PM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		I HATE denial, and I HATE being iggied (ignored)

Anything else I can handle.

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 7:54:27 PM   
Arpig


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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 9:15:10 PM   
angelic


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Status: offline 		ignoring will always and forever be for me a hard limit... if i'm ignored... You can then kiss my lilly white butt as i walk away from Your sorry one!

< Message edited by angelic -- 3/5/2006 9:16:28 PM >

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 9:41:07 PM   
MistressOfGa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

Master's need a new topic.
So, the topic is....Denial.
Is this not the greatest form of punishment?

Go stand in the corner, nekked and leave me alone....Don't turn and look at me with those puppy dog eyes...I will not waiver!

Damn, that's a hard punishment to follow through with.....I should keep her dressed!
What is your favorite punishment?

I agree 100% with Lucky. I cant stand to administer punishment. I truly believe it hurts me more than it does pup. It takes to much time away from our enjoyment of each other and it hurts this old gal's heart. Not worth it. It also makes me question what I am doing wrong that he feels he could get away with whatever I am having to punish him for. Thank goodness, he is an obedient puppy!


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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 9:43:46 PM   
Evanesce


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quote:

ignoring will always and forever be for me a hard limit... if i'm ignored... You can then kiss my lilly white butt as i walk away from Your sorry one!


Thank you! That's exactly how I feel about it, too. Either deal with the problem directly or let me go, 'cause mama don't play "go stand in a corner."

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 9:43:50 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Master knows my abandonment issues and has never "ignored" me, ever. He will tell me to go stay in my quiet time, however. And if i get worried, he will always assure me, "I'm right here, slut, but you have things to think about." It is always explained to me and he will always check in to see how i am doing. But that's rarely for punishment. Fortunately punishment doesn't come too often. When it does it is not pretty.

Something interesting happened a couple months ago though. He was having me do something extremely difficult. After several tries i "couldn't" try anymore and gave up. This did not go over so well. He became very quiet, and went to his desk to work. i sat there crying. A bit later he came to the bed, told me to stand up. i did, facing the bed. He laid down and told me it doesn't matter how many times i try and fail, as long as i keep trying. What angered him here is that i simply quit, and i know better than that. He went on to say some more things about it and told me to stand there and think on things. While i was standing there....he fell asleep! Typically he wakes up every hour or so, but nooo, not that night.

When morning came he woke up and looked at me, still standing there. i won't ever forget that look on his face when he realized i had stood there all night.

Typically his punishments are a bit more "corporal" and always followed by an assignment of a detailed report, analyzing myself and the situation.

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 10:36:58 PM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		LA pretty much nailed it as far as I'm concerned.

Too often people fall into 'game' punishment. The sub in Secretary putting the bug in the bed so she would get 'punished'......... which was what she wanted and thus not punishment at all but rather a 'treat' that would reinforce the negative behaviour.

A real punishment is something the sub definatly doesn't want, if they really detest corner time.... then corner time is a good punishment. Hopefully a real punishment is something rarely needing to be used and when it does come into play then it should be something that will reinforce avoiding the behaviour that invoked it.

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 10:38:59 PM   
foxglove716


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Status: offline 		i agree with the others that said being ignored is the most terrible thing ever

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 10:47:35 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: foxglove716

i agree with the others that said being ignored is the most terrible thing ever

i think it is hurtful, and crushes the human spirit.

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 11:23:17 PM   
PeaceInPlay


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Status: offline 		Though I am new to this site, I am not new to the scene. What has worked best for me in the past has been just my disapproval. Since I care for my sub(s) to such a degree, and I believe that my "job" as Dom is to help my sub to become what she never dreamed she could be, then my disapproval alone makes a very effective punishment. If I look at her with the thought in mind that she has let herself, and therefore me, down then it is most likely to create the desired outcome, which is to reconsider her actions and rectify them if possible. Nothing more is needed. As was posted earlier, this"life is too short already."

Namaste.

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 11:27:12 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Perhaps it depends on the submissive or slave as well. Blame it on my Catholic upbringing, but while disappointing my Master is horrible for me and through that and discussion lessons are learned, i can not seem to let go of it until i have paid a "penance" of sorts. i will feel bad about my transgression forever. It is cleansing for me to go through a punishment. He knows that about me and is kind enough to provide it.

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/5/2006 11:30:34 PM   
BitaTruble


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What is your favorite punishment?


For Himself and me, there is nothing good about punishment, so neither of us have a favorite form which it may take.

Celeste

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/6/2006 3:09:10 AM   
sweetpettjenny


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Status: offline 		A Owner should dislike giving punishment as much as a sub/slave feels badly about dissapointing her Owner.
quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

Master's need a new topic.
So, the topic is....Denial.
Is this not the greatest form of punishment?

Go stand in the corner, nekked and leave me alone....Don't turn and look at me with those puppy dog eyes...I will not waiver!

Damn, that's a hard punishment to follow through with.....I should keep her dressed!
What is your favorite punishment?


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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/6/2006 3:17:48 AM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: Arpig

My favourite punishments are those i never have to administer


Thus speaks a wise, wise man... Now that Arpig, your statement would have to be listed amongst the all time classic statements.. Hats of to you sirih....

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RE: too many pages, so, something new - 3/6/2006 4:12:08 AM   
sunshine333


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Status: offline 		i think the term "punishment" gets used in different ways within this lifestyle. in fastlane's defense, i'm sure he meant play punishments like the example Raven Muse used in his post. and for some people that is the way they relate to and enjoy the lifestyle.

i, however, relate to the rest of the posters here in that i only use that term when it means that i've truely done something wrong. in which case, no one can punish me worse than what i do to myself. the mental anguish that i put myself through knowing that i've been displeasing is worse than any beating or any amount of naked corner time that could be administered.

humbly,
sunshine

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