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pyroaquatic -> The Difference between a.... (10/16/2009 1:27:02 PM)

good Husband and a good Submissive. What is the difference?

Personally I see none. But others may have a different take on this.

Thoughts?



SweetDommes -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/16/2009 2:45:23 PM)

It depends on the orientation of the wife in question, among other things. For some, a good submissive would be a horrible husband because they want a dominant male. A switch might not think a submissive would make a good husband, if they want another switch. And I know some couples where both the husband and wife are dominant, and they get along quite well.



kccuckoldmist -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/16/2009 2:59:57 PM)

That is a definition fight. For someone who does not do the loving long term relationship then they probably can be much different. For those that hubby and submissive are the same then there is of course no difference as caring, loving, compatible and committed and devoted to our relationship and the dynamic we have agreed to makes it good.



DesFIP -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/16/2009 3:03:35 PM)

I knew a sub/sub marriage that went very well for over 20 years until her death. They both did things to please each other, they would service top each other, and at various points they each had an outside dominant. But the marriage was primary.




pyroaquatic -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/16/2009 3:32:01 PM)

Ah, well thank you all for replying. Much appreciation.

There is a stereotype of the male putting on the ball and chain when marriage comes upon him.

I've always thought....

"HEY. Why not Me?"

but marriage is a very sacred thing.... powers that should not be meddled with. It is nice to know there are multiple dynamics/orientations....

very nice.

Submissive does not equate to love I suppose. There is a short-term lust factor as well.

Thank you all, once again.



AcademyForSlaves -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/16/2009 7:38:44 PM)

Hi.

I agree there's no difference between a good husband and a good sub because I'd only marry a good sub and by marriage he'll be my "husband" (my slave husband).



LadyPact -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/16/2009 10:00:20 PM)

It's going to depend on who you ask, pyro.  For those of us who have one of each, some will say there are vast differences or many similarities depending on how we structure those relationships, and who we structure them with.  The basic definition that I use is that My good husband is in an equal relationship with Me and has no submissive tendencies.  On the other hand, clip is submissive to Me, but does not see Me at all the way he would his wife.

Does that mean that MP never does anything just to make Me happy. do special things for Me, or go out of his way to make My life more pleasant?  Sure he does!  Every once in a while, those who don't understand that there is no superior authority in some D/D couples will ask him if he does certain things out of a sense of submission.  He just answers them in the context that if I wasn't a Dominant female, they are the same types of things that any vanilla husband would do.  Some are too quick to judge a certain action as a submissive one or a Dominant one.  There are absolutely couples out there without a kinky bone in their body that do the same types of things for each other.





LPslittleclip -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/17/2009 7:14:35 AM)

a good husband and a good submissive should both be attentive to their partners so in that way they would be similar. for me i am both a husband and a slave but not to the same persons. for my wife i do things that need to be done as we share the responsibility's of the house. for my Mistress i do not have the responsibility's of the house i am solely Hers and please Her in any way i can. i enjoy housework and love to cook especially baking. now both have benefited from my becoming a slave but each is different and cherished.



IBused -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/17/2009 3:07:45 PM)

A good husband will Divorce your ass, when things don't go his way....a good submissive would say Purdy Please Ma'am, before considering to dump your Ass



pyroaquatic -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/17/2009 4:31:11 PM)

So this is a context-sensitive question. Got it.

A good sociable person communicates, trusts and is trusting, knows his/her strengths and faults and owns up to them.

In a mutual relationship... for example a male and female, there is more.

and we have not broken into husbands in a poly-unit.
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Wooo.

Thanks everyone. :3



LadyPact -> RE: The Difference between a.... (10/17/2009 4:33:56 PM)

I have to ask you, ib?  Where in the world do you come up with this stuff?

Yes, pyro.  It's definitely on a case by case basis.  Just a thought, but you might enjoy reading the poly board sometime.  There are a lot of folks who contribute all of the different ways that make it work for them.



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