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Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a differ... - 10/18/2009 5:14:26 PM

winterlight

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How many of you have BDSM in your family? I mean your Parents and/or Grandparents were/are in the l/s?

i have heard of it being in families.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/18/2009 5:16:38 PM

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As far as I know, I am the only one. It is not something we have ever discussed at Thanksgiving dinners so I really wouldn't know for a fact.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/18/2009 5:35:20 PM

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Depends on what you mean by that.

I like men who are head of the household. Here it is called D/s.
In my life it's called traditional family values and something my family has always done since as far back as I can remember.

If we're talking about kinky sex..I wouldn't know. I don't talk about it with my family. Kinda tacky imo.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/18/2009 5:37:20 PM

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Your Parents...Your dad is a Dom and your mom is a sub/slave...or vice versa....They made no bones about what they are....

Did they teach u about the l/s?

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/18/2009 5:43:31 PM

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I don't really talk about my sex life (or theirs) with my parents, but my mother once found my porn when I was younger and had a chat with me about how it was "sick wrong, and not how you express love", so I'm guessing no.

Based on a few hints my brother has dropped, I could guess that he's at least mildly kinky and submissively oriented, but again, we don't really talk about our sex lives except in an effort to gross one another out.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/18/2009 5:53:34 PM

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Mine sure didn't. My brother is a tiny bit kinky but he had nothing to do with me being kinky.

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ORIGINAL: winterlight

Your Parents...Your dad is a Dom and your mom is a sub/slave...or vice versa....They made no bones about what they are....

Did they teach u about the l/s?

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/18/2009 5:58:23 PM

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Very few of the households in my family have a defined male, head of household. In fact, with my maternal grandparents, my grandfather treated my grandmother like a queen. Basically whatever he thought she wanted, she got. He doted on her.
My paternal grandfather died when my father was young and my grandmother never remarried. My parents were neither one dominant, just both seriously fucked up. Both paternal uncles marriages appear to be equal to female dominated. Maternal aunt, a cool unafectionate equality seems to be the order of things. Each doing their own thing.
Except for one brother that is married to a domineering bitch, most of my siblings seem to be more partner oriented. Although my youngest sister seems to be moving more towards voluntarily serving her partner.
My daughter definitely rules her marriage and her husband needs it. My son cannot seem to master himself, his sucess rate with relationships isn't exactly stellar.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/18/2009 8:27:55 PM

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In My family, I'm the start of the tradition. My (adult) daughter has come to Me before about certain interests. (It wasn't a big shock.)

Before I moved, I used to have some folks in My area that were second generation kinky folks. In one case, I knew the parents before I knew the son and Mom didn't especially want to hear the details. In the second case, Mom was the great encourager. She would drop little hints at Me about how much good I did. Funny thing was, he gave Me such good reviews that I ended up playing with her, too.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/19/2009 6:27:16 AM

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Nope..my dad's a friggin jerk. Ma shuts up more nowadays than she did to keep the marriage together. (in my opinion it's pure bullshit).
My aunt is a dominating crazy, Both sides are more equality based...but I don't really know them well enough to judge..think they lean more towards the male domination. My maternal side is more targeted towards female dominatin but like I said.. mostly based on equality.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/19/2009 7:41:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Very few of the households in my family have a defined male, head of household. In fact, with my maternal grandparents, my grandfather treated my grandmother like a queen. Basically whatever he thought she wanted, she got. He doted on her.
My paternal grandfather died when my father was young and my grandmother never remarried. My parents were neither one dominant, just both seriously fucked up. Both paternal uncles marriages appear to be equal to female dominated. Maternal aunt, a cool unafectionate equality seems to be the order of things. Each doing their own thing.
Except for one brother that is married to a domineering bitch, most of my siblings seem to be more partner oriented. Although my youngest sister seems to be moving more towards voluntarily serving her partner.
My daughter definitely rules her marriage and her husband needs it. My son cannot seem to master himself, his sucess rate with relationships isn't exactly stellar.

My parents had a balanced marriage.

My other brother is a 2 headed person- whatever the wife wants is law.

My sister strikes a precarious balance... the man is the boss as she is patient- but at a certain point- she lets him know that she is the queen of the house. ( I LOVE my sister!)

My brother tho- insists on being king- and I doubt will ever marry- since he chases the rock video type of hot babes girls.

My maternal grandmother who is still alive had the ideal marriage. A role model to be sure. She is the kindest lady I have ever known. I recall my grandparents would talk things out- and come to a consensus. Oddly too in front of me on some things.... maybe it is being the oldest- but adults often talked thru the problems in front of me.... which I think helped me mature--- even when they used coded language.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/19/2009 9:58:17 AM

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Not kinky, but the whole paternal side of my family is dominant and almost the whole maternal side submissive. My sinister is a bit strange, she is also dominant but doesn't like submissive Men, so is she a switch ?

These are just personality traits though, I know of no signifigant kink activity at all. Although she does own a pair of handcuffs :-) Hmmmmmm.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/19/2009 10:19:12 AM

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In my case, I know my dad had kinky interests.
I came across books he had left behind, when I was quite young.

Whether his interests stayed focused in his choice of erotica or branched into RL, I have no idea.

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RE: Forgive me if this has been asked before or in a di... - 10/19/2009 11:00:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Termyn8or

Not kinky, but the whole paternal side of my family is dominant and almost the whole maternal side submissive. My sinister is a bit strange, she is also dominant but doesn't like submissive Men, so is she a switch ?

These are just personality traits though, I know of no signifigant kink activity at all. Although she does own a pair of handcuffs :-) Hmmmmmm.

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We finally see the pic It does look like your brain goes a mile a minute- as can your fists.

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