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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/19/2009 4:22:36 PM

DomImus

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Look on the bright side. There are plenty of old bags out there for us old farts.

*snort*

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/19/2009 5:07:16 PM

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Well there is a good side to it, I wrote a Mistress about 8 months ago, she is her 20's. She responded saying i was to old, and she did not like creepy old men and that I was sick.

However, today I get an email from her and she goes to great lengths about how broke she is and needs some donations to help see her through. I have yet to respond, but trust it won't be an offer of monetary funds

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/19/2009 6:09:34 PM

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tMy Sir was 60 when i met him - and we meshed , right down to loving mushrooms and hating green peppers. It was serendipitous!

And the point is, is that his age had nothing to do with why we are still together - its more about that we like the same or similar things, and dislike the same things. We have things in common outside the dungeon.

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/19/2009 6:21:52 PM

MasterJack53

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thank you for the insight. it will b e very helpfull. It seems that aboiut 10 years ago what is in my profile now brought me replies and provided me iwth suitable women. I guess IU should provide more info about what IM seeking. Thanks again. Master Jack

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/19/2009 6:33:58 PM

MasterJack53

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thats what I want. I say I want a slave in session but a friend and equal intellectual out of collar. I know that sounds like a contridiction but I have had it several times. I call myself a Master because Im not Dom in my normal life but I am very Dom as someones Master. Another small thing is that I call my females slaves but treat them like submissives giving them some contgrol over what we do. I started this in 1973 with my first wife after finding some S&M mags in a Dutch Sex Store in Holland where I was stationed with NATO while I was in the army. the pack of mags also had gay mags in it and IM really glad I decided to do the S&M things haha. It progressed to my second wife who was more into corporal punishment and daddy daughter play which I couldnt get into. but after we seperated, I had several "slaves" that I confused by treating them as subs and calling them slaves. haha but it worked good until they moved on to someone more into pasin than I was and when I moved. Sorry I know its boring. MJ

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/19/2009 6:38:56 PM

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quote:

want a slave in session but a friend and equal intellectual out of collar.

better make that sucker out of velcro

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/19/2009 6:42:33 PM

DarkSteven

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterJack53

I want a slave in session but a friend and equal intellectual out of collar.

I'm lost. I always thought that both a slave and a sub submitted in bed but that the real differences were outside the bedroom, where a slave had a stronger service orientation.

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/19/2009 6:44:08 PM

DesFIP

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I don't think so. Wanting someone as smart as him isn't a bad ambition. It's a good way to make sure you have someone that has your back and can help find keep you from digging yourself into a hole. It's a good thing to have someone you can toss over options with who will make intelligent comments and suggestions.

I've always said that he's the CEO and I'm the executive assistant. I provide him with the information he needs to make his decisions.

I know you're always there for Jim, being a friend when he needs and a sounding board as well. I think Jack just expressed it badly. There's nothing wrong in wanting a full relationship that includes being a lover, a friend, a partner in crime as well as a dom or sub.

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/19/2009 6:56:22 PM

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There's nothing wrong in wanting a full relationship that includes being a lover, a friend, a partner in crime as well as a dom or sub.

It's woooooonderful.

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/20/2009 4:47:20 AM

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Got news for you mate, your only a youngster, at the young age of 64, I have just began to have fun and have the life experienced to only now really enjoy the fun and look forward to making fucking really whopping mistakes now too.. Viva le Olde Farts.

mmmmmmmmmm yummy age..you go BEAR..
an unbelievable playmate I had 2 years ago was 73..god damn he was cool..

GM

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/20/2009 5:49:49 AM

JohnWarren

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

That's really not much to make a submissive's woman's heart go "pitter patter" and her nether parts to get all slippery.

The pleasure is also mine [hug]

Wow, speaking of nether parts getting slippery, good to see you again, Dr. Warren!

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/20/2009 3:21:21 PM

sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Got news for you mate, your only a youngster, at the young age of 64, I have just began to have fun and have the life experienced to only now really enjoy the fun and look forward to making fucking really whopping mistakes now too.. Viva le Olde Farts.

*Offers to be fucked and whopped by Mr. Iron Bear...

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/20/2009 4:20:25 PM

pompeii

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ORIGINAL: MasterJack53
I have made all my stupid mistakes by now.

That one statement tells me you have a lot to learn, still.

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/20/2009 5:16:59 PM

DarkSteven

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pompeii

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterJack53
I have made all my stupid mistakes by now.

That one statement tells me you have a lot to learn, still.

I dunno. I made all my stupid mistakes when I was in my twenties.

Then I made them all again when I was in my thirties.

Then I made them all again when I was in my forties.

I'm getting damn good at them now.

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/20/2009 5:31:27 PM

DesFIP

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You know what they say Steven, practice makes perfect!

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/20/2009 7:34:12 PM

MasterJack53

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the truth is, my previous submissives were from word of mouth and not the internet. I may have 35 years in the lifestyle but Im new at trying to find someone on line. As for my experience in the lifestyle it was exactly that in the lifestyle and not in on line dating. I only posed the question because I was told I should look at a younger age group than what I was looking at. Ifelt realistically because of my age I should look in the range of 35 to 50. But I take offense at the implication that IM lieing about my experience or that because Im not familiar with on line dating that I am not a Master. MJ

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/20/2009 9:09:53 PM

abuddingdom

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I've posted on age threads here before, and reflected on the chapters of my life. When I was young my girlfriends were mostly older than me. Indeed, my first bottom was twice my age, and we were together better part of 3 years. But, the age differences weren't usually that dramatic, anywhere from a year or 2 to up to 7 - 10 years. When I hit m,y late 20's the pendulum swung and they were mostly younger. My ex wife is 12 years younger than me. We imploded and split 5 years ago(this month, in fact), and in that time I did some dating and some topping with afew women all several years younger. I experienced 2 what I would define as relationships post implosion and pre my pretty one - one was 10 years younger and the other was 30 years younger and noone was more suprised than me at that one. My pretty one is 16 years younger. Whats it all mean? Hell if I know. I didn't conciously nor do I think even sub-conciously seek out youngun's, and in my profile I suggested that 40ish - 60ish would likely be a good match age-wise(I was 55 when I first wrote it). I'm pretty youthful which might partially explain the latter part, but I can't even begin to comprehend what attracted older women to me back in the day, or vice versa for that matter. I really don't know -my recollections are that we each crossed paths with each other at times of our lives at which the other each had what the other one wanted / needed and each story worked forawhile and nothing more complicated that that. But, there has to be some reason for the pattern repeating itself a # of times.

None of which is more than slightly relevent to the op's topic, though. I'll throw this in , which I don't think anyone has yet said : that age old adage which says when you aren't looking is when you'll find who you need or they'll find you is true in my current life. I'll also add that reading these posts have made me feel pretty good about myself.

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/20/2009 9:17:03 PM

sirsholly

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

want a slave in session but a friend and equal intellectual out of collar.
better make that sucker out of velcro

quote:

don't think so. Wanting someone as smart as him isn't a bad ambition. It's a good way to make sure you have someone that has your back and can help find keep you from digging yourself into a hole. It's a good thing to have someone you can toss over options with who will make intelligent comments and suggestions.

I've always said that he's the CEO and I'm the executive assistant. I provide him with the information he needs to make his decisions.

I know you're always there for Jim, being a friend when he needs and a sounding board as well. I think Jack just expressed it badly. There's nothing wrong in wanting a full relationship that includes being a lover, a friend, a partner in crime as well as a dom or sub.

well said Celeste. I guess i took his statement the wrong way...meaning she would be collared in the bedroom only.

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/21/2009 4:51:39 AM

oceanwynds1

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Hi Op
I am actually a couple years older then you. One thing in life i don't believe in is luck. I also expect to make a lot more mistakes till the day i die. Mistakes are a way to learn about oneself and then improve.

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RE: are we old farts out of luck - 10/21/2009 6:09:04 AM

sunshinemiss

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Good morning Jack,

Now in my previous post I may have been *ahem* a little saucy, but in fact it points to a certain truth. Awhile back there was another thread about age - what age range would one consider dating. And in truth it is about the man, not the age. Generally, I date younger men - they can keep up with me. However, I would be honored to date any number of the older men on this site. They make my heart go pitter patter because of who they are.

Online dating / meeting can be fraught with misconceptions, expectations, difficulties by its very medium. There is little nuance, no body language, no tone of voice. Misunderstandings are to be expected.

So, from this side of things, may I offer a bit of advice? Take it, leave it, whatever, but you seem to be authentically looking, and you seem to just need some technique pointers.

1. Lose the "Master" in your signature and your name. Many of us have little respect for that word in this type of venue after multiple experiences with posers and players. Respect is earned. So is the title "Master". I always figure if you gotta tell me you are a diva, you probably aren't. Same with "Master".

2. Spell check. Just as you would dress up and check that your shirt was buttoned properly before going out in public so your first impression to others would be positive, it would behoove you to be fastidious about your words here. And paragraphs. Use them.

3. Get a nice pic taken. With a nice background (no clutter). Not on your camera phone. While Steven gets away with it, he has been here a long time and we have great respect for him, his mind, his wit, his charm, and it's a damn sexy pic.

4. Your profile... sigh... It's deadly boring. There is nothing but kink in it. You have stated here that you want someone to be more than just "in session" slave and yet your profile is nothing but kink. What do you enjoy? Tell a story. You like to do certain things, talk about it! Let the passion speak!

You want your intellectual equal. I'll tell you, there are not many people smarter than the women on this board, and we are not impressed that you are an expert at bondage. Loads of people are experts there. But what else can you talk about? We want to experience your intellect, not just here you recite that you have one.

5. Be careful of splitting hairs about definitions: sub vs. slave, Dom vs. Master. *shivers* It can't end well. Just say what you want, don't give it a title.

6. Finally, for you to say that you have made all your mistakes is a bit of bluster that you will be (and have been) called on the carpet for. That is a load of utter nonsense, and if you are as smart as you think you are, you know that. If you don't know that, then you are in for a rude awakening. You have tempted The Fates. They bite.

Good luck in your search,
sunshine

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