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hmm - 10/18/2009 10:01:20 PM

Erdei

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I don't get it why is it so hard to find a good sub in this world? I don't like to be rude and that is what I keep finding that people want to see. I am in the Navy I will have to trust that my sub will listen to me and trust me to keep her best interests in mind to.

We walk threw life thinking that we are one thing until one day we wake up and it downs on us that we didn't know what we wanted in the first place. That is what happens to the world I was a rude person at one time of my life and then I chose to be considerate of the people around me and it has made me a better person.

I would like a sub that will expect me to be considerate but strict at the same time. I want to have a 24/7 TPE relationship with her also.

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RE: hmm - 10/18/2009 10:05:09 PM

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Having a profile does help in seeking a potential submissive online.

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RE: hmm - 10/18/2009 10:11:56 PM

DarkSteven

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Let's turn this around. Instead of asking why you find it hard to find a good sub, let's ask why a good sub may not be interested in you.

1. You are inexperienced and are asking very basic questions.
2. I am getting no "Dom vibe" from you at all. Your post here is basically a complaint. Your other posts ask what subs want in a Dom and promise you'll become whatever they want.
3. You have no profile. So what would a sub have to be interested in?
4. You want a 24/7 TPE. Why do you think you're capable of it when you're brand new? Why would a sub give her life over to someone who has no experience?

I suggest you look for a submissive who is willing to work with a new Dom. Try some things before asking for TPE. And if she's not that "good" a sub, whatever that means, accept that at this point.

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RE: hmm - 10/18/2009 10:20:52 PM

Thedragonman9326

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You stole that from my profile.

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RE: hmm - 10/18/2009 11:34:51 PM

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Too many people walk through life expecting to get everything handed to them without putting any effort in themself. Ever thought about trying the usual avenues to meet other kinksters at conferences, munches, events and such? In this game of life and in this life style, a person needs to sell themself; regardless of the the label they identify with.

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 1:11:59 AM

Annabelle83

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Personally, I have yet to have any kind of real luck on Collar Me as a way of finding a potential partner. I say what I want in my profile - but I mainly use it for the message boards. I would do what Wolf2Bear suggested and try local venues, where you can learn and grow as a Dominant.

Annabelle

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 5:44:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Annabelle83

I say what I want in my profile

Annabelle

Annabelle, not exactly. Your profile uses white text on a white background, so it's not easy to read. Why'd you do that?

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 5:56:18 AM

fluffyswitch

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i have always wondered why people assume that getting a relationship in this scene is any different than getting one anywhere else. i don't mean that as snark, but i have had multiple conversations both here and in real life about how subs don't fall out of the sky all ready perfect, perfectly trained, and the exact way that a Dom wants them to be. i'm not sure why this scene should be any different than any other social circle- it may sometimes take a lot of work to find a best fit.

as for subs being rude? i actually haven't noticed that. it may be a matter of expectations not lining up with reality. submissives are humans like the rest of the species and come in shades of grey. there are some that are deeply submissive and do look like the stereotypical polite to every dominant and submissive to every dominant, and then you get the ones that have been trained to show respect to those that are respected by their Doms but to hell with everyone else, and everyone in between.

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 7:04:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
You want a 24/7 TPE. Why do you think you're capable of it when you're brand new? Why would a sub give her life over to someone who has no experience?

Excellent points, Steven.

I'm not sure what his role in the Navy is, but I would imagine that it would be hard to find a submissive to sign on for 24/7 TPE if he's deployed for 6 months at a time. That's a challenge to the start of any relationship.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 10/19/2009 7:05:57 AM >

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 11:04:40 AM

thishereboi

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Erdei

I don't get it why is it so hard to find a good sub in this world?
Maybe you should reevaluate your approach.

I don't like to be rude and that is what I keep finding that people want to see.
What people?
I am in the Navy I will have to trust that my sub will listen to me and trust me to keep her best interests in mind to.
I think most masters expect this, not sure what the navy has to do with it.

We walk threw life thinking that we are one thing until one day we wake up and it downs on us that we didn't know what we wanted in the first place. That is what happens to the world I was a rude person at one time of my life and then I chose to be considerate of the people around me and it has made me a better person.
Thats great, good for you.

I would like a sub that will expect me to be considerate but strict at the same time. I want to have a 24/7 TPE relationship with her also.
That's nice. Find someone compatible with yourself and start working on that.

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 11:07:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Thedragonman9326

You stole that from my profile.

Why yes, it appears he did. (the OP, not Steven)

I can't for the life of me figure out why though.

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 1:36:46 PM

Annabelle83

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: Annabelle83

I say what I want in my profile

Annabelle

Annabelle, not exactly. Your profile uses white text on a white background, so it's not easy to read. Why'd you do that?

It shows up as white on white? It is supposed to be white on pink - but thank you for pointing it out! Will be fixed soon. ^.^

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 5:02:30 PM

dreamerdreaming

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Yep, it is pink now.

And yep, the OP stole that whole bit, word for word. Wow.

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 7:18:51 PM

Thedragonman9326

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch

i have always wondered why people assume that getting a relationship in this scene is any different than getting one anywhere else. i don't mean that as snark, but i have had multiple conversations both here and in real life about how subs don't fall out of the sky all ready perfect, perfectly trained, and the exact way that a Dom wants them to be. i'm not sure why this scene should be any different than any other social circle- it may sometimes take a lot of work to find a best fit.

as for subs being rude? i actually haven't noticed that. it may be a matter of expectations not lining up with reality. submissives are humans like the rest of the species and come in shades of grey. there are some that are deeply submissive and do look like the stereotypical polite to every dominant and submissive to every dominant, and then you get the ones that have been trained to show respect to those that are respected by their Doms but to hell with everyone else, and everyone in between.

I will have to say that you talk the truth I am manly on here to chat.

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RE: hmm - 10/19/2009 7:22:14 PM

Thedragonman9326

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
You want a 24/7 TPE. Why do you think you're capable of it when you're brand new? Why would a sub give her life over to someone who has no experience?
Excellent points, Steven.

I'm not sure what his role in the Navy is, but I would imagine that it would be hard to find a submissive to sign on for 24/7 TPE if he's deployed for 6 months at a time. That's a challenge to the start of any relationship.

I have a three month set up where I am deployed for 3 months instead of 6.

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