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RE: what does dominating a sub do for you? - 10/27/2009 6:59:36 AM

boldfinger

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It's a way to intimacy through reciprocation of complementary needs. Lead and follow, command and obey, want and have, this and that. For a violin to make music takes the bow and the strings. It's how the psychology of a hierarchical relationship works. I'm this way, she's that way, together we get there. What it does for me is make me happy. What I miss when I don't have a submissive to dominate is the spiritual joy that comes being intimate. I don't need it but I sure like it.

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RE: what does dominating a sub do for you? - 10/27/2009 9:53:18 PM

lucylucy

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Thanks, everyone, for the responses. Several people touched on the connection they feel with a sub. I like what AndySTL said:

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In my opinion submission is the strongest way of showing your love towards your Dom/Master. So I guess what I am saying is that it is nice to have someone care about you so much that she trust you enough to give over herself completely.

For me, that's completely true. Trusting my boyfriend as completely as I do is intoxicating.

I also identify with what boldfinger said about intimacy:

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ORIGINAL: boldfinger

It's a way to intimacy through reciprocation of complementary needs. Lead and follow, command and obey, want and have, this and that.

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RE: what does dominating a sub do for you? - 11/3/2009 9:18:12 PM

kettil

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It is all about surrender.

Look beyond the mechanics, look past the logistics, look behind the curtain; for most of us, what we do is about more than physical pleasure, about more than endorphins, and adrenaline, and testosterone, and oxytocin.

It is about connecting with another human being in ways that are almost impossible to find elsewhere. It is about connecting with yourself. It is about truth and beauty. It is about trust, it is about intimacy, it is about surrendering to each other and ourselves.

What do I get? I get a warm, vibrant, electric woman placing herself, her body and her mind, in my hands. Like a pool of still calm water, her skin ripples in waves with my touch. Her responsiveness guiding me, her reactions narrates the journey I guide her through.

What do I get? I get a shining, radiant being, every bit as formidable as I am, to dance with, to create with, to journey with. Not my opposite but my perfect complement. Where I am hard, she is soft; where I push, she yields, where I am lost in my head, she is lost in her body.

What do I get? I get a panting, incoherent, wild-eyed female mewling like a cat in heat. An elemental female so deeply in her womb of need that only one thing exists for her: me, the male hovering over her. A female animal with only one thought in her foggy mind; to be used, to be taken, to be mounted.

And at that moment, when I mount her, when her body parts for me, when I sink into her to join her in the primal fog, I get the one thing I need the most.

I get to be me.

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RE: what does dominating a sub do for you? - 11/4/2009 5:59:53 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kettil

It is all about surrender.

Look beyond the mechanics, look past the logistics, look behind the curtain; for most of us, what we do is about more than physical pleasure, about more than endorphins, and adrenaline, and testosterone, and oxytocin.

It is about connecting with another human being in ways that are almost impossible to find elsewhere. It is about connecting with yourself. It is about truth and beauty. It is about trust, it is about intimacy, it is about surrendering to each other and ourselves.

What do I get? I get a warm, vibrant, electric woman placing herself, her body and her mind, in my hands. Like a pool of still calm water, her skin ripples in waves with my touch. Her responsiveness guiding me, her reactions narrates the journey I guide her through.

What do I get? I get a shining, radiant being, every bit as formidable as I am, to dance with, to create with, to journey with. Not my opposite but my perfect complement. Where I am hard, she is soft; where I push, she yields, where I am lost in my head, she is lost in her body.

What do I get? I get a panting, incoherent, wild-eyed female mewling like a cat in heat. An elemental female so deeply in her womb of need that only one thing exists for her: me, the male hovering over her. A female animal with only one thought in her foggy mind; to be used, to be taken, to be mounted.

And at that moment, when I mount her, when her body parts for me, when I sink into her to join her in the primal fog, I get the one thing I need the most.

I get to be me.