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RCdc -> RE: Pregnant and Domless and other craziness... (10/22/2009 9:27:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MMagic
It's not the pregnancy that we thought was worse, it was the thought of being pregnant and not being WITH said Dom that was the worst thing. Pregnancy in itself is a wonderful thing. I was referring more to the SITUATION.



I know it was the situation.  As others have stated - being pregnant and not with the father is not the worse thing that can happen to anyone, let alone a s-type.  Some people even choose to not be with the father of their child.  My question to you is - do you equate submission with helplessness?  Why would not being with a dominant be any different to not being with any partner?
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This is indeed horrific, but we were thinking of our own age group and possible situations..

You are 35.(I perved[:D])
At 24, one of my best friends lost her partner (who was her husband) to a heart attack.
At 22 my friend lost his partner to suicide.
At 35, I know a person diagnoised with MS.
At 33 and 50 - cancer.
Having had miscarriage in my mid 30s - I, like others, would suggest that there are way more 'worse' life scenarios.

the.dark.




Missokyst -> RE: Pregnant and Domless and other craziness... (10/22/2009 9:37:16 AM)

:) the greatest joy in my life was the minute I knew I was pregnant, considered abortion.. and decided I would have more happiness with the child. He is 23 now, perfect, loving, and the best decision in my life. His father, who was a dominant in my life knew, but never did a thing but suggest I abort the baby so we could stay together. Phht. That is one year out of my life that was fine while it lasted, but I did not regret moving on.

This is a man, woman situation, not a ds one.

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ORIGINAL: MMagic

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: MMagic

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

you present a scenario that is not at all exclusive to submissives....

What could be the most horrible thing that could happen to us beings subs and this was it.  While I realize Dommes can have this happen, I guess my thinking is because of the dynamic there, the Domme is in control in a sense...I could be wrong. Been wrong before, will probably be wrong several times today.  Any more thoughts?


If you have broken up, then there is no control.
If you are pregnant by mistake or pick up an std, then there is no control.

From my POV - pregnancy isn't the 'worse' thing that can happen for all s-types.

the.dark.




It's not the pregnancy that we thought was worse, it was the thought of being pregnant and not being WITH said Dom that was the worst thing. Pregnancy in itself is a wonderful thing. I was referring more to the SITUATION.





AquaticSub -> RE: Pregnant and Domless and other craziness... (10/22/2009 11:32:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MMagic

So I'm up and my brain is going a mile a second and I'm thinking of the most AWFUL situation for a sub to be in, (females in this case) Any subs have this happen to them? Find out your pregnant after you've broken up with your Dom? If you haven't, how would you handle said situation?  Would you call them? Abortion? (yes I said the A word) keep the kid and not tell? Tell them? What about other things, STDs? Would you call and share with them? Interested in hearing your replies.


I doubt my being a submissive would have anything to do with it, or that being a female is really required to answer the question. A male sub/slave would likely have trouble with finding out he had impregnated an ex-mistress after all. Nothing of this nature has happened to me but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't feel the need to do anything because they HAD been my owner. I would probably either keep the child myself or try to find it a loving family through open adoption. As for an STD - I would be required to alert them so that they do not spread the disease further. Not doing so would be incredibly irresponsible on my part.



AquaticSub -> RE: Pregnant and Domless and other craziness... (10/22/2009 11:38:38 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MMagic

It's not the pregnancy that we thought was worse, it was the thought of being pregnant and not being WITH said Dom that was the worst thing. Pregnancy in itself is a wonderful thing. I was referring more to the SITUATION.



Eh... I look at it from the point of view of it's break-up cause it's broken. If you aren't together anymore, you probably shouldn't be. There are rare exceptions but the odds are good it's best to move on. I still don't see this as the worst thing that could happen to a sub. Honestly, I'd regard losing my parents/friends in a car wreck as worse than finding out I was knocked up by someone I wasn't with anymore, even if they were an owner once upon a time.



DavanKael -> RE: Pregnant and Domless and other craziness... (10/22/2009 5:58:52 PM)

I agree with others that this isn't particularly a D/s query but I'll answer anyway. 
Assuming I was early on, I would abort.  It's questionable enough having a partner when you have a baby whether they're going to be around for the long haul. 
As to STD's.  If he infected me with something, the permanence and severity would dictate my response.  For several STD's, the ramifications would be dire for him.  For others, I would make him miserable.  I do have STD talks with partners before sex, so getting something would imply a lie or ignorance on his part. 
If I gave him something, I would be highly apologetic.  It would have to be something I didn't already know about that popped up between when I was last tested and when I was tested after he and I were together.  Given my eing diligent about testing, far more likely for him to be the genesis than I.
  Davan



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