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Andalusite -> RE: Battering vs Discipline (10/30/2009 7:59:05 AM)
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I agree with Venatrix - have you discussed with her that you are having difficulty? Was the "small bat" a crop or the baseball type? Crops generally inflict pain but not damage very easily. Baseball bats aren't inherently abusive, *if* used carefully (to avoid broken bones or damage to internal organs). Thighs, butt, and even calves/biceps have enough muscle to absorb impact, but if she's using it on joints, or your head, or lower back/belly hard, that's very risky. Personally, while I mostly enjoy "good pain," taking pain that actually hurts can be challenging, and bring some vicarious pleasure in taking it for my Master. When I am topping my submissive playpartner, I do enjoy dancing on that line of "almost too much" for her, the way she whimpers, tenses, squirms, and such are yummy. However, I'd never do anything that would *damage* or harm her, and back off when she starts struggling to take it. I'm pretty empathic and good at reading body language, but people who are very stoic or who tend to take pain more out of submission/service than masochism are more complicated to read (in my experience). If they are suppressing their reactions, or they mostly feel physically bad even though mentally good, I'm back to relying more on my judgement, knowledge of safety in general, and watching for physical signs of distress, so I've preferred partners who I click with better in that regard.
Accusing you of being involved with other people sounds unreasonable, unless it were explicitly a role-playing scene. If she genuinely did think you were cheating, during play is *not* the time to discuss it. It sounds like you're no longer with this lady, but getting an idea of what went wrong and how to avoid similar situations in the future is wise.
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