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MarinaBlack -> A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/7/2006 3:57:16 PM)

Call me demanding, a dreamer, even delusional.

What I seek is a "traditional" Mistress/servant relationship as is clearly posted in my profile.
Not looking for a boyfriend or a sex toy, but a proper Ladies' servant - a maid or butler or both.
Is this too much to ask for?
Am I delusional in the belief that I may make such a connection with someone who hasn't expectations of sexual gratification from ME, but is into providing service to a demanding sadist who will be his or her friend and mentor?
I have had my profile up for maybe a year now and receive an insane amount of responses.
I have taken the time to write an extremely detailed profile about who I am, what I offer and what I seek.
In spite of all of this I keep finding myself inundated with either false replies - men who claim to be seeking the same type of relationship I pose, but will never proceed to meet me, men who pose as femsubs and will never proceed to meet me or men who are seeking a Dominant Wife ignoring the fact that I mention clearly in my profile that I am married.
Am I simply in the wrong "place" for what I seek?




KnightofMists -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/7/2006 4:16:17 PM)

mmmmmmmmmmmm didn't know that was a Traditional M/s Relationship! Interesting




champagnewishes -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/7/2006 5:09:24 PM)

I must have always been exposed to nontraditional relationships. Until i came to this site, i never realized that there were indeed lifestyle relationships that stemmed strictly on servitude and sex was not to be found anywhere in the equation. All I can plead is ignorance on my limited insight.

In reading through the new profiles that appear, I have found a great many of the submissive men who refer to themselves as slaves, are indeed seeking such a relationship as what you have described. I have not come across as many submissive female profiles where this seems to be the case. This is of course strictly my observation and I do not mean to imply there are not just as many female submissive/slaves whom desire such a relationship as well.

I guess this is just another clear example of people not reading your profile before they contact you.




Elegant -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/7/2006 7:19:24 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MarinaBlack

Call me demanding, a dreamer, even delusional.

What I seek is a "traditional" Mistress/servant relationship as is clearly posted in my profile.
Not looking for a boyfriend or a sex toy, but a proper Ladies' servant - a maid or butler or both.
Is this too much to ask for?
Am I delusional in the belief that I may make such a connection with someone who hasn't expectations of sexual gratification from ME, but is into providing service to a demanding sadist who will be his or her friend and mentor?
I have had my profile up for maybe a year now and receive an insane amount of responses.
I have taken the time to write an extremely detailed profile about who I am, what I offer and what I seek.
In spite of all of this I keep finding myself inundated with either false replies - men who claim to be seeking the same type of relationship I pose, but will never proceed to meet me, men who pose as femsubs and will never proceed to meet me or men who are seeking a Dominant Wife ignoring the fact that I mention clearly in my profile that I am married.
Am I simply in the wrong "place" for what I seek?


Ma'am,
Nothing is too much to ask for but hoping for and getting are, as you now, two different concepts. Your profile is clear and precise and only a fool would read other intentions into your words.

There are such people out there but they are few and far between. I wish you the best.

quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

mmmmmmmmmmmm didn't know that was a Traditional M/s Relationship! Interesting



MarinaBlack specified Mistress/servant and I see that as different than Master/slave (the more oft translation of M/s)






MasterBuckeye -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/7/2006 7:49:45 PM)

Unfortunately this will always be a problem for us Dom(s), as it seems that people who learned how to read early on have forgotten how to do that as they grow up and decide that they want to submit. I myself, do NOT want an illiterate slave, I want one that has the ability to be a conversationist, decent intellect and the such. When you find the ones that can read everything, they are so far and few between that sometimes we skip right over them because of the other 500 junk messages. Good luck to ya, MB




sweetpettjenny -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 2:41:59 AM)

There are all different types of people seeking various relationships on Collarme...it takes time. It took me a year to find Master.




slavejali -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 4:15:10 AM)

Maybe you should specifically ask for a guy with no sex drive?




shiava -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 4:16:11 AM)

i find there is many different facets of this lifestyle, and probably someone to suit each one.

It may take time, but i bet, if patient, You will find the one person You seek.

shiava




MasterRobert1 -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 6:24:08 AM)

No, you're neither delusional nor a dreamer. You simply need to find a "traditional" Master, not one of the many wannabes or pretenders that CALL themselves Master.




starshineowned -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 6:37:55 AM)

quote:

No, you're neither delusional nor a dreamer. You simply need to find a "traditional" Master, not one of the many wannabes or pretenders that CALL themselves Master.



Why would she need to find a Master when she is a Mistress seeking a service only oriented slave?


starshine
Happy slave of Master Delvin




Mercnbeth -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 7:33:00 AM)

quote:

Am I delusional in the belief that I may make such a connection with someone who hasn't expectations of sexual gratification from ME, but is into providing service to a demanding sadist who will be his or her friend and mentor?


speaking from personal experience-No. Just try to keep in mind that it is RARE, you will have to weed through what seems to be an ocean of mismatches and folks who don't even know what path they are on, much less be able to navigate it with any honesty. they ARE out there, though!!! being married might make it a bit harder, but this slave has no experience with being married and looking, so she can only speak from observation on that point, not first hand knowledge.

good luck!




subtlesubie -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 8:46:49 AM)

Let's see... you want a person who is no less than 'remarkable', has all the individual positive attributes you mentioned, who has nothing better to do than be your butler , AND you want him to pay (!) for the honor on top of it all. I'd say dreamer. You can seek solace from this guy though. He's also puzzled why he can't find something that doesn't exist.




Elegant -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 9:45:55 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: subtlesubie

Let's see... you want a person who is no less than 'remarkable', has all the individual positive attributes you mentioned, who has nothing better to do than be your butler , AND you want him to pay (!) for the honor on top of it all. I'd say dreamer.


This is a good example of how people miss the facts when reading profiles. MarinaBlack stated The subs I seek MUST be USEFUL to me. Do me" subs who want to be topped by an expert Domme, but have nothing to offer, can pay for play with No Exceptions

Be useful or pay..that is how I interpret her statement.




IrishMist -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 2:30:24 PM)

Actually, I found your profile to be extremely to the point and well written. As Miss Beth said, it just takes time to find that which you want.

The best of luck to you [:)]




MarinaBlack -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 2:42:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

Maybe you should specifically ask for a guy with no sex drive?

quote:

Maybe you should specifically ask for a guy with no sex drive?


You miss my point.
I have no issue with my servants having sex with OTHERS.




MarinaBlack -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 2:44:26 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRobert1

No, you're neither delusional nor a dreamer. You simply need to find a "traditional" Master, not one of the many wannabes or pretenders that CALL themselves Master.


Wow.
I "need to find a master"?
Did you ready my query?




MarinaBlack -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 2:46:11 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: subtlesubie

Let's see... you want a person who is no less than 'remarkable', has all the individual positive attributes you mentioned, who has nothing better to do than be your butler , AND you want him to pay (!) for the honor on top of it all. I'd say dreamer. You can seek solace from this guy though. He's also puzzled why he can't find something that doesn't exist.


Did I mention something about wanting someone to pay for a service?




MarinaBlack -> RE: A "Traditional" M/s Relationship - Too Much To Ask For? (3/8/2006 2:48:41 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Elegant


quote:

ORIGINAL: subtlesubie

Let's see... you want a person who is no less than 'remarkable', has all the individual positive attributes you mentioned, who has nothing better to do than be your butler , AND you want him to pay (!) for the honor on top of it all. I'd say dreamer.


Ah...
Someone who reads.
You have already presented yourself as one of the unique and rare ones here.


This is a good example of how people miss the facts when reading profiles. MarinaBlack stated The subs I seek MUST be USEFUL to me. Do me" subs who want to be topped by an expert Domme, but have nothing to offer, can pay for play with No Exceptions

Be useful or pay..that is how I interpret her statement.





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