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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 3:18:01 PM   
SDFemDom4cuck


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Status: offline 		Until you meet face to face or on cam you have no way of knowing if he is who he says he is. Anyone can send a pic and say that's them.

Regarding whether he's married. If you have his name and birth date you can do a background check and see if he's married. It's relatively simple. Try Intellius.


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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 3:19:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		SD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Glad to see you out here cuckking!!!!!!

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 3:21:40 PM   
sunshinemiss


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I have good gut instincts that have yet to be proven wrong. BUT, I also have a serious lack of give a damn.

Unless I spend time with them in person, getting to know them......I have pretty much zero emotional involvement in the relationship. At the most,  I may feel a mild annoyance for the waste of my time.



*feels so sad that LaT doesn't twuely love me.  sigh.

To the OP:  You got some great advice.  Particularly from Lady Pact.  If you can't see that, then you aren't really looking for advice.  You aren't looking for an honest to god way to make sure.  Instead, you just want us to say... ohhh you can tell by blah blah blah.  The reality is you can't tell.  You have a few wonderful ideas.  Use them, don't use them, but take responsibility for your decision.


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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 3:21:44 PM   
SDFemDom4cuck


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

SD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Glad to see you out here cuckking!!!!!!

Ron


Warning..momentary threadjack!!!

Awesome to be out here again! Missed you.


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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 3:34:53 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: supportourtroops

Your incorrect there are SF Officiers. As for mine the pictures arent fake. I have several in active ACU's in the desert with other Soldiers in his unit. Name, rank, unit, clearly seen on uniform. A group of soldiers dont get together and wear fake uniforms in military airplanes, helicopters, etc. I also have 2 of his official military dress portrait, again rank clear. In acuatality I dont give a shit what his rank or unit is. I just want to know he the person sending the photos and is not married. The End.
The question is again, how do you know the person who is sending the information and photos is the same person???? How many military have you dated? Has been in your family? How many deployments have you been through? My ex DOM of 5 years was military and went through 2 deployments with him, the reason it wasnt a problem??? I knew him PRIOR to being deployed. This is the first time I've met someone online who wasnt in my city to meet face to face. I have zero experience with it or how to tell if they are real. I was under the impression you could come here and ask others for helpful advice. Crazy F*cking ME.


For fuck's sake.  Out of everything that has been constructive on this thread, you decided to go on your own personal fit.

You did receive helpful advice.  I will give you one piece more.  Stop thinking that the site is full of people who are here to kiss your ass.  Not every answer you are going to get here is going to be one that you like.  People with experience on the forums are giving you their opinions. 

Let Me put it into a context that you understand, since you have prior BDSM experience.  Every munch or event that you ever participated, I'll bet you had better things to do than to just bend over backwards to please any first timer who happened to stumble onto the group.  While you were getting ready to go out for the evening, I'll bet you weren't thinking.... "oh, I hope, I hope, I hope someone new shows up so I can spend the entire night doting on them."

As for if he's married, the best advice you can get is trust, yet verify.  You can do that either through his family or check his references with the last BDSM group he belonged to in the States.  It's that simple.

On your other questions:

My father's military service was before I was born.

Ex husband, military through the length of our marriage, which ended over fifteen years ago.

Current husband, military.  Two tours in Korea, one in Oman.

Current submissive, military.  Currently deployed to Afghanistan.  Three tours prior to that.  (Didn't own him then.

Past submissive, military.  Air Force.

Good enough?




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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 3:38:39 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		LOL, LadyPact, you are deigning to post a curriculum vitae for some wide and brawling bitch?
Shit, she could look all that up by searching your posts.......wouldn't take a minute.

You are your own boss, though.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 3:44:25 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		LOL.  I am My own boss.  Don't think anyone would argue with that.

Considering the number of posts though, I think it might take more than a minute.


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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 4:04:50 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: supportourtroops

Your incorrect there are SF Officiers. As for mine the pictures arent fake. I have several in active ACU's in the desert with other Soldiers in his unit. Name, rank, unit, clearly seen on uniform. A group of soldiers dont get together and wear fake uniforms in military airplanes, helicopters, etc. I also have 2 of his official military dress portrait, again rank clear. In acuatality I dont give a shit what his rank or unit is. I just want to know he the person sending the photos and is not married. The End.
The question is again, how do you know the person who is sending the information and photos is the same person???? How many military have you dated? Has been in your family? How many deployments have you been through? My ex DOM of 5 years was military and went through 2 deployments with him, the reason it wasnt a problem??? I knew him PRIOR to being deployed. This is the first time I've met someone online who wasnt in my city to meet face to face. I have zero experience with it or how to tell if they are real. I was under the impression you could come here and ask others for helpful advice. Crazy F*cking ME.


Might want to adjust the settings on your computer.  I think yours is only showing the flamers and hiding the ones that gave you some very good advice.

I didn't add because a lot of them said what I was going to say, and well, no one can top LP in this subject, especially since I'm a total newbie to the military wife club.

Read the actual advice, that's what you posted for isn't it? 

I get so tired of posting advice and it being ignored in favor of the people that the posters claim they don't want to hear from in the first place.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 4:23:44 PM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Funny how so many of us can come in here and all get along and have a good time, and then there's one that comes in and we all just make a collective effort to make her life miserable.  So who are we gonna pick on tomorrow night, guys?

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 4:28:21 PM   
DrkJourney


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Status: offline 		Geez chymes....didn't you get the memo?  there is a list....lol

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 4:47:39 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Just think of the power aspect!  Make someone's life miserable in ten thousand words or less.  A complete stranger in less than a few days time by nothing more than words on a screen.  To take that life into the palm of the hand and make it a wretched mess of misery!

Where's My Elixir of Power and I hope it comes in purple.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 4:59:29 PM   
zephyroftheNorth


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Where's My Elixir of Power and I hope it comes in purple.

I love being a sadist.



Just checked for you LadyP and it does indeed come in purple. It says Koolaid on the package but don't let that fool you


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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 5:43:42 PM   
Lucienne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Past submissive, military.  Air Force.



I love this detail. Did you spank him and tell him what a bad bad program the F-22 is?

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/27/2009 5:53:00 PM   
Lucienne


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ORIGINAL: supportourtroops

Your incorrect there are SF Officiers. As for mine the pictures arent fake. I have several in active ACU's in the desert with other Soldiers in his unit. Name, rank, unit, clearly seen on uniform. A group of soldiers dont get together and wear fake uniforms in military airplanes, helicopters, etc. I also have 2 of his official military dress portrait, again rank clear. In acuatality I dont give a shit what his rank or unit is. I just want to know he the person sending the photos and is not married. The End.
The question is again, how do you know the person who is sending the information and photos is the same person???? How many military have you dated? Has been in your family? How many deployments have you been through? My ex DOM of 5 years was military and went through 2 deployments with him, the reason it wasnt a problem??? I knew him PRIOR to being deployed. This is the first time I've met someone online who wasnt in my city to meet face to face. I have zero experience with it or how to tell if they are real. I was under the impression you could come here and ask others for helpful advice. Crazy F*cking ME.


Ok. It's been clear to me for a while that you are interested in affirmation, not advice. I was raised in a military family. I have family serving right now. The only category specific dating advice my dad has ever given me is "don't date SEALs." I've dated marines and soldiers. I have a good friend who is SF, who I performed welcome home "support our troops" services on after two separate tours. I've already given you my sincere advice. Treat him like an erotic pen pal, not a potential serious long term partner. If you were my sister or my friend, I would try to impress upon you in detail just how unlikely it is that, even if the guy is who he says he is, you will end up in a serious relationship with him.

It doesn't matter if he's real, he is the very definition of unavailable.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/28/2009 7:13:57 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Just think of the power aspect!  Make someone's life miserable in ten thousand words or less.  A complete stranger in less than a few days time by nothing more than words on a screen.  To take that life into the palm of the hand and make it a wretched mess of misery!

Where's My Elixir of Power and I hope it comes in purple.

I love being a sadist.



Just sitting here smiling hugely at this........


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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/28/2009 8:01:45 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		The op refuses to do any work to find out if he is who he says he is. She wants a mind reader to tell her the answer.

Okay, I took out the trusty magic 8 ball and it says FAKE. Ta -dah, an answer.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/28/2009 8:29:58 AM   
dreamerdreaming


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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

quote:

ORIGINAL: supportourtroops

Your incorrect there are SF Officiers. As for mine the pictures arent fake. I have several in active ACU's in the desert with other Soldiers in his unit. Name, rank, unit, clearly seen on uniform. A group of soldiers dont get together and wear fake uniforms in military airplanes, helicopters, etc. I also have 2 of his official military dress portrait, again rank clear. In acuatality I dont give a shit what his rank or unit is. I just want to know he the person sending the photos and is not married. The End.
The question is again, how do you know the person who is sending the information and photos is the same person???? How many military have you dated? Has been in your family? How many deployments have you been through? My ex DOM of 5 years was military and went through 2 deployments with him, the reason it wasnt a problem??? I knew him PRIOR to being deployed. This is the first time I've met someone online who wasnt in my city to meet face to face. I have zero experience with it or how to tell if they are real. I was under the impression you could come here and ask others for helpful advice. Crazy F*cking ME.


Ok. It's been clear to me for a while that you are interested in affirmation, not advice. I was raised in a military family. I have family serving right now. The only category specific dating advice my dad has ever given me is "don't date SEALs." I've dated marines and soldiers. I have a good friend who is SF, who I performed welcome home "support our troops" services on after two separate tours. I've already given you my sincere advice. Treat him like an erotic pen pal, not a potential serious long term partner. If you were my sister or my friend, I would try to impress upon you in detail just how unlikely it is that, even if the guy is who he says he is, you will end up in a serious relationship with him.

It doesn't matter if he's real, he is the very definition of unavailable.



 
Exactly.
 
Thank you, Lucienne!



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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/28/2009 8:37:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: supportourtroops
I've met no one else on CM that is of interest, but again I could be talking to a 70 year old bald man.



We'll I'm a 65 year old balding man.

Back to your serious question, you don't know anyone online.  I might not even be John Warren.  Until you meet someone in person, interact with him or her AND have a disagreement, you haven't even begun to know someone.




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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/28/2009 8:40:50 AM   
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Time is usually the teller... if you don't feel comfortable... wait... talk more, get to know them - if you start feeling comfortable, share more but don't rush it. I think 98% of the horror stories you hear would disappear if more people waited until they got to know the other person, rather than being just super horny and ready to play.


Bingo...and just for the record, the same applies from the other side of the D/s dynamic.

Webcam is about the best you can do otherwise.  At least it gets to the superficial truths of appearance, age, etc. But whether truth runs more than skin deep can only be determined over time.

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RE: Knowing Fake from Real Online - 10/28/2009 8:47:07 AM   
Wolf2Bear


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ORIGINAL: Domitianus

quote:

ORIGINAL: Redoubt
Time is usually the teller... if you don't feel comfortable... wait... talk more, get to know them - if you start feeling comfortable, share more but don't rush it. I think 98% of the horror stories you hear would disappear if more people waited until they got to know the other person, rather than being just super horny and ready to play.


Bingo...and just for the record, the same applies from the other side of the D/s dynamic.

Webcam is about the best you can do otherwise.  At least it gets to the superficial truths of appearance, age, etc. But whether truth runs more than skin deep can only be determined over time.


Which means communicating with the other person, meeting in a neutral place for coffee and all that fun stuff. Seems to me that too many forget a little thing called instinct and when it is alerted then investigate further before deciding to take things to the next level.


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