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midtnsub4use -> question on photo (10/26/2009 8:50:21 PM)

I have on occasion shared my subbies photos with other that I have chatted with but rarely have I shared her photo without her face obscured.  It makes her nervous that I might do that, so I was wondering if you think that posting either an uncensored photo or one with some censoring.  I am thinking of using a black box or strip that I can adjust the bightness level of.  For example in this photo I have a large black box over the photo that I am thinking of doing this with.  The box can be made smaller even as small as a tiny slit that covers only her eyes as well as lighter which allows some or all of the things obscured to be visible.  My questions to you are:  How small or large should the area obscured be and should there be a lightness level to the box.  The box in the photo is 100% black but it can go all the way down to 0% which is really nonexistent. 

I really want input about this as well as locations that you think I should post it and how long to leave it up.  This is being done as a punishment to her and I will show it to her once it is ready and inform her of the duration of the postings. 

Thanks for your input and I look forward to hearing your ideas



midtnsub4use -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 8:52:17 PM)

Sorry here is the photo I am talking about

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Wolf2Bear -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 8:59:21 PM)

My own personal thoughts is this can be a slippery slope posting photos of a sub in the manner which you stated. I just have thoughts of potential issues which may happen in the future though as I said....it is my own feeling. Each person will have to make this choice based on their own opinions and degree of openness. 



wildangel3825 -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 9:11:44 PM)

Well as a submissive..i need to trust my Dom. If he knows for whatever reason publicly posting nude pictures of me is a hard limit it would cause major issues for me. It is something i hope you have discussed with her. It could effect her job, children or family. It would have a negative effect on how i felt for my Dom. It might even be a deal breaker. Trust is a big thing. Does it make her nervous or did she specificly say she did not want them posted. There can also be legal issues later. While your relationship is good she might not pursue but bad breakups can cause issues like this to become a huge legal nightmare. Sometimes things seem like a good idea in the heat of the moment and later not so much.



WyldHrt -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 9:24:49 PM)

Gotta go with Wild on this one. Face covered or not, it's possible that the pic will be spotted by someone that recognizes the jewelry she's wearing and her hairstyle. Depending on the program you used, it's also possible that someone could remove the black box and repost the unedited, full face pic.
For me, it would be a deal breaker, because I would no longer trust my Dom if he thought that posting nude pics of me in public as "punishment" was a good idea. 



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 9:34:38 PM)

Okay, I'm confused. 
 
As a dominant who has no issue with a punishment dynamic if that's what floats your boat, I'm trying to think of a reason why posting nude photos of your sub with her face blacked out is an effective disciplinary tool.  What, exactly, do you expect her to learn from this?  That she can't trust you?  That she has every reason to be nervous, if not outright terrified, that you have so little regard for her that you would post them?  That you do not consider her, as your property, to have a high enough value for you to care for her emotional and psychological welfare?
 
If that's what you're going for, then you're doing a great job.  Keep it up.  However, if you have some other goal in mind, then you should rethink your approach.  I can't see any good reason to post nude photos of her, faceless or not.



LadyPact -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 9:39:32 PM)

And in less than 24 hours, those of us who said that pictures on threads being a bad idea have been proven right.  Thanks.

Oh, as for the OP, the only thing you seem to be punishing her for that is effective is her poor choice in a Dominant.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 9:41:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

And in less than 24 hours, those of us who said that pictures on threads being a bad idea have been proven right.  Thanks.



How long do you think it will be before the mods retract that particular perq?



WyldHrt -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 9:44:13 PM)

quote:

What, exactly, do you expect her to learn from this?  That she can't trust you?  That she has every reason to be nervous, if not outright terrified, that you have so little regard for her that you would post them?  That you do not consider her, as your property, to have a high enough value for you to care for her emotional and psychological welfare?

As always, well said, Syl! OP- I'll add that if the pic/s are posted in a place where comments can be left, some people get off on making nasty remarks (ask almost any female on here with pics up), esp nudes. How will your sub feel if she reads such things?



LadyPact -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 9:48:59 PM)

Unfortunately, I doubt that will happen, Sylvere.

The bad part is that no person on this site knows that the girl in the shot belongs to the OP and consented to her shot being used outright or consented to the OP's wishes due to ownership.  All that girl needs to do is relinquish her consent.


Edited so that no confusion would be made as to which remark I was intending to reply to.

Also to add I agree with Wyld entirely.



FoundEachOther -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 9:50:21 PM)

- the female half -

If my Master decided to post nude pictures of me, in punishment, the trust that I have in him would be gone. There are so many different things that can happen with nude photos on the internet. Certain companies keep copies of webpages, and photos for x amount of years in backup, in which police, fbi, and other branches of service can access at whim. If your sub has children, or family, they could stumble upon those pictures then what would happen? As a graphic designer, even though you blackened her face out, a person with even half the knowledge I do in Adobe Photoshop could easily rebuild that picture back to the original. I don't know honestly if I could trust my other half if he ever did something like this in punishment. Nude photos are not a hard limit for me, however, I believe that posting them on the internet for any tom, dick or harry to see, would be under "Permanent mental, or physical damage."



DavanKael -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 9:54:40 PM)

Jeez, I don't log on for a few days and there's pics on the forums. 
As if allowing cock shots in profiles (Which I still support because they provide entertainment value for me whether they look good, bad, or make me want to say 'free the pensises' when they're depicted all caged up) didn't cause enough of an uproar, I see this being even more poorly received. 
From a practical viewpoint, photos can muck up the boards pretty readily. 
I like the avatars on the left and text on the right; it's simple, aesthetically pleasing, etc.
In this specific instance, I think the OP is an asshat and agree with what Lady Pact said. 
What precisely is such 'punishment' supposed to teach her, OP?  I still wouldn't like it but I'd respect the honesty of your saying: I get off on humiliating the woman in the pics and on the exhibitionist aspects of showing people what is mine.  Again, still wouldn't agree with the practice but unless the lesson in your "punishment" is 'don't allow asshat supposed dominants to have unclothed pics of you', I don't understand what you claim to be teaching her. 
Davan



sweetsub1957 -> RE: question on photo (10/26/2009 11:19:57 PM)

~Fast Reply~
I think that ANY nude or semi-nude pictures of ANYONE should not be made public without her/his consent.  If I had a Dominant Who published pictures like that of me, I would be outta there so fast His head would be spinning.  Plus, I'd be trying to find out if I had any legal recourse, as it would be totally NONconsensual.



justagirlinzh -> RE: question on photo (10/27/2009 12:01:39 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: midtnsub4use

I have on occasion shared my subbies photos with other that I have chatted with but rarely have I shared her photo without her face obscured.  It makes her nervous that I might do that, so I was wondering if you think that posting either an uncensored photo or one with some censoring.  I am thinking of using a black box or strip that I can adjust the bightness level of.  For example in this photo I have a large black box over the photo that I am thinking of doing this with.  The box can be made smaller even as small as a tiny slit that covers only her eyes as well as lighter which allows some or all of the things obscured to be visible.  My questions to you are:  How small or large should the area obscured be and should there be a lightness level to the box.  The box in the photo is 100% black but it can go all the way down to 0% which is really nonexistent. 

I really want input about this as well as locations that you think I should post it and how long to leave it up.  This is being done as a punishment to her and I will show it to her once it is ready and inform her of the duration of the postings. 

Thanks for your input and I look forward to hearing your ideas


My input: Any half-assed photo program can get rid of the black box, even if not, it's possible to recognise someone you know by their jewellery. Also, she probably made a poor choice in a dom.



Hierodule -> RE: question on photo (10/27/2009 12:33:47 AM)

Am I the only one who thinks its odd that the op made this thread to ask about the appropriateness of a photo to be posted online and then POSTED said photo in the thread? Guess what buddy? Its too late you just published the photo... on teh interwebz... It doesn't matter if we like the black box or not at this point.

*edit* Ok just peeped his profile and he already has the same pic posted with less obstruction. Don't see the point of this thread at all. *backs away from the thread*



WyldHrt -> RE: question on photo (10/27/2009 12:37:49 AM)

OP- I hope you really read the above comments before going ahead with this (further than you already have, as I suspect that you cannot remove that photo now).
All the responses to this idea have been negative for good reason, and have come from respected members on both sides of the kneel.
Unless your sub agreed to this at the outset, it really is beyond the pale, IMO.



NihilusZero -> RE: question on photo (10/27/2009 1:23:19 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

And in less than 24 hours, those of us who said that pictures on threads being a bad idea have been proven right.  Thanks.

The same images are already visible on the OP's profile. If his intent was the same, he just would have been forced to post a link to the images, rather than embed them in a thread.



devilishpixie -> RE: question on photo (10/27/2009 2:26:03 AM)

Wow. I would have a hard time trusting my owner if he put up nude or sexual pictures of me w/o my conscent. Infact we put some up and after a couple of days I realized they made me really uncomfy and begged to remove them. He allowed me to do so. People are recognizable for alot more than their faces. For me personally anyone that knows me would recognize a photo because of my tattoos.

My question to the op is .. if this is for discipline what is the lesson to be learned or the behavior you are modifying with this discipline?



DesFIP -> RE: question on photo (10/27/2009 4:17:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Oh, as for the OP, the only thing you seem to be punishing her for that is effective is her poor choice in a Dominant.



Absolutely right.

If she messed up, it was your fault. You are supposed to be able to teach her. Why didn't you? If however it was deliberate, then you folks have much greater problems than any punishment can solve.

But spreading her photo all over the internet, knowing that dozens or hundreds have already downloaded it and will continue to spread it just shows what poor choices you make and should make her rethink about the wisdom of submitting to you.



LadyPact -> RE: question on photo (10/27/2009 7:20:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

And in less than 24 hours, those of us who said that pictures on threads being a bad idea have been proven right.  Thanks.

The same images are already visible on the OP's profile. If his intent was the same, he just would have been forced to post a link to the images, rather than embed them in a thread.



NZ, even TOS recognizes that the images that anyone uploads should be of yourself.  Section nine is pretty clear about it.  Throwing the pictures of someone else on a thread just makes the poor choice worse.



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