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If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences...


that they didn't even bother
  8% (1)
that they did it b/c you enjoy it
  25% (3)
learned from some one else
  0% (0)
learned to enjoy it b/c you enjoyed it
  33% (4)
it doesn't matter as long as i get off
  16% (2)
end the relationship
  16% (2)


Total Votes : 12
(last vote on : 10/29/2009 11:50:34 AM)
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If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/28/2009 4:07:36 PM   
devilishpixie


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Status: offline 		This subject has come up with more than on person that I know lately so i was wondering if your with a partner and you enjoy say oral and they don't would you rather they do?

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/28/2009 4:12:24 PM   
NormalOutside


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Status: offline 		I had trouble figuring out what you meant, but I voted "learned to enjoy it b/c you enjoyed it".
I took your question to mean "if the person you're with wasn't into the same things as you, what would you prefer to happen?" Any girl I'm with will do what she's told. That's just how I am and I make it clear. :)


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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/28/2009 4:14:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		My vote goes to the last option. If my partner doesn't enjoy a few sexual activities I enjoy, then I will seek others who do and indulge.

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/28/2009 4:30:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I voted for learned to enjoy because I enjoyed it. I expect to be made happy


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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/28/2009 4:43:41 PM   
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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/28/2009 4:58:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are things Master enjoys that I don't and vice versa. I do things to make him happy whether I enjoy them or not.

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/28/2009 5:01:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		i can do alot simply because he enjoys it.  doesnt mean i have to enjoy the act, just that i enjoy pleasing him.

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/28/2009 5:14:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		It depends. If the only things we do in bed are things that don't float my boat, and I'm never satisfied, then end it.
If there are some things he really loves that I could take or leave, then I do it for him because I love him.
But if it's stuff I hate with a passion, then that's a sign of incompatibility.

But instead of learning to like it, since I'm in a D/s relationship I would word it be taught to enjoy it. If you can mix pleasure with pain so someone can learn to enjoy pain, then you could teach someone to enjoy a different sexual activity. However this is one of those things that I would expect him to lead the way, to teach me. Not to be passive and expect me to learn on my own.

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/29/2009 10:50:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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Forgot to beat your chest & do the "dom" yell

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/29/2009 10:54:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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Forgot to beat your chest & do the "dom" yell
here ya go...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rQ7ibJfzKCQ


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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/29/2009 11:03:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was torn between the "learn to like it" and the "end the relationship" only because there are certain things that I will not simply do....and it's not necessarily on my limits list.....however, if there isn't compatibility, including in the area of sexual preferences, then I won't embark on the relationship.

My thinking mirrors Tazzie's and Celeste's.....I'm here to serve and pleasure someone, THAT is what makes me feel successful in the D/s dynamic.  My orgasm is simply an added bonus, but not a requirment as far as I'm concerned!

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/29/2009 11:05:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		i don't get it. What's not to enjoy? *up for anything* The only way to be!

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/29/2009 11:07:27 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: devilishpixie

This subject has come up with more than on person that I know lately so i was wondering if your with a partner and you enjoy say oral and they don't would you rather they do?


devil,

i think sexual compatibility is important and address this with a potential suitor. i can't in good conscious involve myself with someone who is opposed to things that i enjoy sexually. slavery or not, we are going to have an issue if He's adamant that those things won't be indulged. in all truth this isn't something i encounter and i'm pretty upfront about my fetishes. however, i selected the latter option, but in truth the relationship would never develop. i don't believe everything will mesh, but the premise of being sexually unfulfilled in my servitude isn't very inspiring.

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/29/2009 11:08:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I'm a Dom. 


Forgot to beat your chest & do the "dom" yell
here ya go...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rQ7ibJfzKCQ




Sheeeeeeeeeeet, thats just fuckin around, take it from the main man:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MwHWbsvgQUE

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/29/2009 11:15:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, it's not that I'm not up for anything, but there are certain things that I just cannot bring myself to even contemplate......one of those things is the whole Daddy/daughter thing.  Due to my past exposure of things through my job, and having seen things that Daddies do to their daughters, I just can't get past those mental images that will be wil me forever.  I can't even stand to hear anyone refer to themselves as "Daddy" when I'm with them.  I don't consider this a hard limit, it's just a mental block that won't go away.  I know the difference, I know how the dynamic works here in the lifestyle, however, I just can't do it.

So far, I haven't really ran into anything that I wouldn't be willing to try.....otherwise, I'd never know that I did or didn't like it. And I've never had any complaints, so I guess I'm doing something right!

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RE: If someone doesn't like your sexual preferences... - 10/29/2009 11:29:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		I enjoy sex... but I respect limits, however if its in my "must have list" for example oral... I wouldnt pursue any relationship where that was lacking.
Compromise where applicable, our "limits" mostly match altho I am a lil more sadistic than he needs, its not  a concern to the point of "needing" it, I wouldnt ruin a relationship over it.
But I would to basic sexual needs(ie oral)


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