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RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 3:16:59 PM

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whats the scoop on this willing to relocate stuff...where a slave says she will relocate but then asks for gas money,is this a major scam going on,
i had several slaves say the same thing..someone please let me know if this is a ripoff

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 3:20:06 PM

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Surely that would depend on the individual slave.

However, if you don't know the person well enough to answer your own question, than yes, it's probably a red flag.

Get to know someone *in person* before deciding they can move in.

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 3:25:08 PM

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First, anyone who states their going to relocate without even meetting you is your first tip off that you're being played.

Secondly, treat meeting a potential the same way you'd meet a 'nilla. Get to know each other, fly out to meet (if you're far from each other) continue gabbing and getting to know each other, and if there's something genuine there, ONLY THEN worry about the relocation thing.

Also, not everyone has a ton of cash burning a hole in their pocket, so don't expect those who state they are "Willing to Relocate" to cover all (and sometimes any) of the relocation costs. If you can't afford to fly the person in (with their stuff) then wait till you have some free time, fly to them, and drive back together.

Bottom line... relocation is not the issue, trust and compatibility are the issues; and that takes time.

BTW, I noticed you're on the BOTTOM side of the slash, so I'm a little perplexed by the question... what I mean is, why would YOU be worrying about relocating a slave?!!

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 3:27:13 PM

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depends whats happened to you, you say '''she will relocate but then asks for gas money''' then '''asks for gas money''' how do you know these people, and how long,

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 3:33:28 PM

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Anytime they are willing to move to you without getting to know you, and they are asking for money, they are playing you. Offer to come see them and check them out first. I've had people send me the same photos when they are supposedly two different people. I have one that lives within sixty mile of me, but wont' tell me where she lives and won't meet anyone there, can't even give me a street name. There are lots of players out there so be careful or you'll lose your money, Master Robert

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 3:35:16 PM

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Also, you could try meeting people who are local to you.

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 3:57:39 PM

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I wouldn't tell anyone the name of the street I lived on until after I met them and knew I would want to continue seeing them.

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 4:16:16 PM

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It is a test of a supposed "master," to determine whether there is even sufficient interest to go visit the prospective partner and participate in the move.

If one can't appear in person and direct the relocation, then they are probably just a lazy jerk who also won't be present and won't exercise responsible control after relocation.

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 4:20:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: youmaketherules

whats the scoop on this willing to relocate stuff...where a slave says she will relocate but then asks for gas money,is this a major scam going on,
i had several slaves say the same thing..someone please let me know if this is a ripoff

YES, IT IS A SCAM. Duh...

Block and delete. Don't let them waste your time and money.

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 4:20:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: youmaketherules

whats the scoop on this willing to relocate stuff...where a slave says she will relocate but then asks for gas money,is this a major scam going on,
i had several slaves say the same thing..someone please let me know if this is a ripoff

It has the potential of being a scam. see the reaction you get if you tell them you will fly out and the two of you can drive back together

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 4:25:21 PM

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Yes. Total scam. Are they also nigerian princesses?

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 4:25:43 PM

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someone please let me know if this is a ripoff

Not knowing who you are talking to, how would I know? Confusing - you're a slave, looking for a domme, getting slaves?

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 4:25:45 PM

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Tell the person you'll pay for the gas once they arrive. I usually do that and also pay for the gas back as well. Takes the pressure financial pressure off. Never ever send money unless it's in the form of some nonrefundable ticket of some sort.

I missed the relocating bit :> Since that's the case: I'd go there and help them pack!

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 5:06:13 PM

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First of all, again why is this a concern given your preferred position OP?

Anyway, no it is not necessarily a red flag. With things the way they are now, it is a good possibility that someone would need a hand financially making a major move. I would not move to someone I have never met, I certainly wouldn't want someone to move to me that I had never met. If I was ready for either, I would know the person well and be pretty well certain of his/her character. I would not be ready for someone to do this if I honestly had any reservations that there was a scam being worked. If I was relocating or if I were relocating someone else, I would anticipate sharing the load, but be prepared to take it up on my own as well.

Yes, some people will try to scam in this way, but it is a little difficult to do when at least one is not a fool rushing in. Delay for the purpose of growing the relationship is your best weapon. Absolutely nothing is foolproof, however. Life and living it demands risks. Are the risks worth it? Only you can answer that.

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 6:55:08 PM

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Call me old fashioned but I'd kinda want to know someone as to be able to make at least a reasonable guess whether they're scamming me prior to considering allowing them to live in my home.
The answer is:probably a scam if it's early on. Or someone who's desparate...but if you're desparate, give it a whirl.
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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 8:37:09 PM

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Why on Earth would anyone want to be involved with someone who can't even scrounge up the money for gas if *they* are the ones that want to move in the first place? Do you really want to spend time with someone who has no money or time management skills? Believe me, people like that are really frustrating.

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 8:54:02 PM

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Hmm. I wouldn't say right off that its necessarily a red flag. Its an indication to look out for red flags, but there are many people on here that aren't that well off financially. So I can understand someone asking for gas money and such. That doesn't automatically mean he or she is scamming.

But still, i'd be cautious.

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 9:21:58 PM

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If one has to wonder if she's really legit in asking for gas money to relocate, then one is not ready to relocate her, in Our opinion.

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 9:30:06 PM

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My rule is: "you get to me, and I reimburse you for money spent getting to me" I like to know they have some innitiative and desire. If I am not taken with them, it doesn't cost much to send then home. It comes down to supply and demand. If what you seekis few and far between, you go out of your way a bit more than you would for something more readily available,

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RE: RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:anyone - 11/2/2009 9:59:14 PM

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OP:
I also have said..."Once you get here I can reimburse..."

what is the amount you speak of...$100,,,,,$1000??

IF a slave does not have even say $100?? for gas then I would wonder if it is someone wanting a home...a place to flop..etc ...

I understand many ppl do not have $100 and yet..getting to me would show a lot..
did they whine? did they say littel and see it as an investment in the relationship building?

I am talking about MEETING...not relocating..wow..
Relocation take time??????...and a lot of building..
However...in 3 cases over the years...I discussed in detail HOW the relocation would occur...in 1 case I paid all( move fr 2 prov and 1 territory)...and in the other 2 it was half and half depending on circumstances..

SCAM?? what does your gut instinct tell you...?follow it...
There are many scams on here...need money for lawyer..
cash a cheque...send money order..pay for school...training sessions....etc etc..

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