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SweetEscravo -> not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/8/2006 5:53:52 PM)
Okay, my dom and I have been together for almost two years now, and have been 24/7 for some time. However, nothing has ever really been made official...it is more like we just decided to and did. On our anniversary, I really want to do somehting kind of formal for him...to make it really official and everything you know? If you were going to try to do this, whether you want to call it begging a collar or however you think of it, how would you want to do it? Any ideas or thoughts will help. Thanks.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/8/2006 6:22:59 PM)
Spend a few days or weeks putting together a scrapbook that is your petition for a formal collar. Include lots of little thing, plus the actual well-written document that actuall asks for the collar. Explain why you want it, why you feel worthy of it and what it would mean to you. I've seen petitions as short as one page and as long a 80. Be creative. Fire

DragonNphoenix -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/8/2006 10:18:14 PM)
I totally agree with the petition. Make sure that you are clear about what your needs and desires are. Spend some time on this. Give yourself a good chance to get what you are thinking down on paper... dont rush the process. 1st Girl Phoenix

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/9/2006 6:08:19 AM)
As I said in the other thread- ask the other person directly first.

Mercnbeth -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/9/2006 9:50:24 AM)
quote: I really want to do somehting kind of formal for him...to make it really official and everything you know? are you sure that is something that he WANTS you to do for him, or that you want for yourself or both of you? you say you have been together for 2 years--but He has never told you how he feels about having a "formal" relationship, or involving a collar, ritual and/or ceremony, petition and/or contract, and what that means to HIM? what does "really official" mean to Him? this slave would strongly suggest respectful communication with your Dom with regards to the above before DOING anything.

PenelopePitstop -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/9/2006 2:46:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DragonNphoenix I totally agree with the petition. Make sure that you are clear about what your needs and desires are. Spend some time on this. Give yourself a good chance to get what you are thinking down on paper... dont rush the process. 1st Girl Phoenix And then write it up in BLOOD!!! Hey I'm kidding, I think. But yes the written word is one of the deepest expressions there is.

proudsub -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/9/2006 3:27:41 PM)
quote: On our anniversary, I really want to do somehting kind of formal for him...to make it really official and everything you know? If you were going to try to do this, whether you want to call it begging a collar or however you think of it, how would you want to do it? Any ideas or thoughts will help. Thanks. It seems to me in a D/s relationship it's the Dominant that should offer to make things "official". Two years is a long time, but at 18 you are very young (i don't know his age) and maybe he just isn't ready for anything official yet. How about just planning a nice romantic evening and see what happens?

collegebeauty -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/9/2006 8:23:47 PM)
Your profile says you're engaged to your Dom. Isn't that, and an upcoming marriage official enough? It seems to me that a ring links you to him as much as a collar. Yes, a ring is a vanilla symbol, but it shows your commitment to him as much as a collar could.

proudsub -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/9/2006 8:37:02 PM)
quote: Your profile says you're engaged to your Dom. Dang i missed that in her profile, forget my previous post.[:o]

Arpig -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/10/2006 8:56:26 AM)
A ring may be a vanilla symbol, but it was originally a symbol of ownership [:)]

Submotive -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/10/2006 9:02:36 AM)
Yes, i would agree that communication is a must here. One of the things that was brought to my attention when i thought my motives were good, was that i was inadvertently seeking to have control of a situation by not permitting Master to be aware of my feelings and desire. Instead i was assuming i knew what He would like rather than asking Him and permitting Him to be in control.

Arpig -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/10/2006 9:10:20 AM)
That's a really very interesting viewpoint on it submotive, one that will be having me doing some extended deep thinking

gretchen -> RE: not sure how to do this..any thoughts help (3/10/2006 10:47:52 AM)
For a two years relationship, just choose a perfectly intimate time. A moment that feels right. Pure, simple, and directly.

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