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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/9/2006 7:34:36 AM

OscarHargraves

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My sex life (or the problems with my sex life) with my wife.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/9/2006 6:18:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: slavejali
If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

Things that I will not do:

disagree or correct him in public without express permission
bring a specific issue or problem to the board unless instructed to ask others for their perspective
complain, bitch, whine or vent about him, alandra or our relationship
use the forum as a means to communicate my needs, wants and desires to him
use the forum to try and manipulate him (have not done this in private either)

These are some of the big ones that I will not tolerate in myself. I see the boards as a means to have an intellectual discourse (thanks LA for that term). They are a means for me to read other perspectives and add to my own growth and understanding.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/9/2006 6:43:39 PM

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I'll post about things I have done when sceneing/sessioning/playing with My slave bishop or others.

When it comes to the serious personal stuff its best discussed between the parties concerned.

Sometimes...it can help to talk to someone,but its always a close friend if its needed.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/9/2006 6:50:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

I am involved in more than one relationship at this time. Ideally I would have no limits in discussion, but obviously there are limits to discussion on this board—therefore I am limited in what I can discuss.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/9/2006 7:09:04 PM

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The only things that come to mind that I would not post are things that would embarrass someone that I cared for, or someone that was not deserving of embarrassment, and I would not post anything that would betray a confidence.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/9/2006 7:45:25 PM

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I'm pretty sure that very few people on a forum like this really care about my or anyone else's personal relationship crap.

When you see something like that, it's usually just a good old healthy rant. Sometimes venting to strangers in a relatively safe environment is both useful and helpful.

Sadly, there are usually three basic response types, a) you poor thing, b) let me check your profile and see what shit I can post about you here, c) you must be a drama queen to post this here.

Fortunately, the moderators here are kind enough to give us one or two bites at the "STFU asswhipe" apple.

On a related topic, why worry about relationship advice ... when the rule of plausable deniability works so well:

Whatever it is, I didn't do it ... and if I did, I didn't meant it ... and if I did, it wasn't my fault ... and if it was, I'm really sorry!

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/9/2006 8:28:42 PM

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If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

My limits are where everything is - in His hands - but i am permitted to be a free thinker. Now figure that one out. LOL

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/10/2006 3:01:14 AM

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If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

My limits are where everything is - in His hands - but i am permitted to be a free thinker. Now figure that one out. LOL

To think freely, for one's self, is "oxygen", promoting growth......maybe your master feels he can allow for that AND channel the growth in a fashion benefitting you both.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/10/2006 3:58:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

There are a gazillion things I don't discuss publically, and in some ways it's a rational system and in some ways it's an arbitrary system. Pretty much "Whatever I feel is ok to share, I share, whatever I feel is private, stays private."

And my partners all know what that means.

You have a gift for making whatever you are being reticent about sound incredibly intriguing! :)

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/10/2006 4:53:01 AM

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If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

I keep our relationship issues between just the two of us.
In a general sense, I'll talk about issues on the forums; looking for other PoV's, but I would never ask for advice about something that was really serious or private.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/10/2006 11:31:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

If you are already in an established D/s relationship where are your limits in regards to posting and what you post about?

Below are comments made by other posters which in their own way sum up how I feel about posting guidelines.

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ORIGINAL: amayos
I am involved in more than one relationship at this time. Ideally I would have no limits in discussion, but obviously there are limits to discussion on this board—therefore I am limited in what I can discuss.

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ORIGINAL: Level
The only things that come to mind that I would not post are things that would embarrass someone that I cared for, or someone that was not deserving of embarrassment, and I would not post anything that would betray a confidence.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
There are a gazillion things I don't discuss publically, and in some ways it's a rational system and in some ways it's an arbitrary system. Pretty much "Whatever I feel is ok to share, I share, whatever I feel is private, stays private."

An important thing to keep in mind, and I think it might be why many people don't talk about certain things.. is that anything you say here is subject to ridicule. Justly or Unjustly.. that is how things work.

People will always be people.. and you can always trust them to be people. Some will love you. Some will hate you. And some will only be happy when they take you down a peg.

Any advice can be good advice, it just depends on how you apply it. (Some is best applied as lawn fertilizer.)

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ORIGINAL: Submotive
My limits are where everything is - in His hands - but i am permitted to be a free thinker. Now figure that one out. LOL

A mind is a terrible thing to waste. Sounds like you have a very wise dominant. :)

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/10/2006 1:54:23 PM

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Oops.. well I don't know why It won't let me edit it.. but.. as an afterthought.. I realized I didn't add..

I don't really care what my subs post about or questions they ask, however I feel that they should (and they have btw) discuss with me first any issues before posting about it.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/10/2006 1:55:57 PM

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That's what I do Maam, if I'm not sure about something I'm posting I check with Master for the ok.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/10/2006 2:41:27 PM

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I have praised her openly on the boards when she has been wonderful and excelled but the flip side of that is I would never post anything about any problems, punishments, or anything of that nature here on the boards. I think most of our personal informations is just that personal.

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RE: Some things you dont talk about... - 3/11/2006 2:10:55 AM

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its is also said that sometimes things that are kept in secreat tend to have more spice as my prodomme friend put it temptation is a sweetness of candy yet to be eaten but if eaten by everyone there is none left so if you tell all to everyone what kinda of growth would you have what kinda of bond would you have with that other by letting someone else solve it for you and would that make you codependent humm this questions and more on the nest post
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