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TexasMaam -> RE: Calling all BDSM "SENIORS"... (11/4/2009 6:38:41 PM)
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I guess I've officially become a BDSM geezer. Over 50.
Funny thing is I don't feel as though I am over 50. I see 50 year olds and think, jeeze, she/he looks ooooold! ; p
Ah well. I hope I'm aging gracefully, athough I know it's not as gracefully as some I see around me. Maybe I'll win the lotto and head for a plastic surgeon's office. Who knows.
I've already posted My introduction to BDSM elsewhere on this site, so I won't repeat it here.
If life would just get out of the damned way for a change, My best BDSM years would be now, I believe.
Worrying about the economy and retirement consume a great deal of My energy these days. I long for those days when I knew things were going along the right path, when I knew I had a wonderful, secure future ahead......I knew hard work and dedication would ensure a bright future..... and then came politics and the Clinton years...we are reaping the bitter harvest of those years now. It's rather difficult to feel playful when life savings are gone, livelihood is gone, and all that remains is a 6 day a week job 10 to 14 hours a day, just to stay on top of the bills.....egads.....I bemoan the Chinese Invesment firms who own Citibank, Cap One and other US banks, overseas 'investors' who have so gleefully funneled off so many hundreds of billions of our bailout dollars just so they could be spent on Chinese intfrastructure and development, (including military buildup and the purchase of even more US conglomerates), while US employment continues to skyrocket....we, as a people, are so collectively stupid ..... we, as a people, need to wake up and smell the coffee BEFORE Congress allows foreign lobbyists to change our laws to suit foreign investment.....not AFTER..... but then, I digress.
Still, life is funny. In spite of having lost sooo much, I have never been so fulfilled in My BDSM relationship as I am now!
I've been involved in BDSM for over 35 years. I've enjoyed the services of quite a few subs over the years, a few stellar fellows among them, too. But deep at the core of each of those relationships was always the angst, the deep certainty that the sub's actions were motivated only by their individual cravings in hopes of getting what that particular sub needed.
This time it's different; his cravings are certainly there, but he has offered of himself in a way that I have never known before, completely, wholeheartedly, generously, tenderly giving of himself on a daily basis without reservation, without any request. He observes, listens, pays attention to My needs and interests and 'poof' he offers up some token of his esteem by giving of his time, energy, thoughfulness, service, acquiesence: he is, in sum, the perfect, cadillac sub! I cherish every moment with him.
It helps that he is My age, so yes, age matters. He's 2 years My senior, I've had subs both older and younger, but our age compatibility goes hand in hand with our main interests outside WIITWD, namely: music, culinary delights, farming, ranching, travel, and even things like art glass, pottery, fine arts, he's interested in everything that I love. In turn I take interest in machinery, engineering, his ability to problem solve, and we share a passion for current events and pretty lively political and spiritual discourse. On all fundamental levels he is a perfect partner.
Age, too, helps because he is a very masculine and strong willed man. His age and experience have taught him when to hold his tongue, when to back down, when to take a deep breath and avoid a headbutting contest in favor of his figuring out how to finesse Me later instead - by simply asking for My consideration of his point of view - not many willful sub males have figured that out, and certainly not many younger male subs.
It is, for Me, the ultimate relationship, a once in a lifetime experience.
And, most importantly, I believe that the feeling is mutual.
We have a lot to look forward too, both vanilla and BDSM, as our interests and activities evolve in the discovery of each other's wants needs and desires.
Here's an age story for you: manthing and I happen to be about equally oversexed. The other day, we had finished shopping at a local warehouse type store for various sundries and household items and went strolling out to the car. While we loaded up the *new wonderful mini-suv My wonderful sub gave Me*, I stopped a moment to discreetly, but painfully tweak his nipples through his shirt and nibble his neck, nothing drastic, just a nice, covert, brief little tweak and nibble. Evidently I wasn't quite as discreet about it as I had thought. A younger couple walking by stopped, stared, laughed and yelled 'hey! you two! GET A ROOM!' and they walked on, laughing at us. That wouldn't have been so notable if we'd been 20 or so, but at our age it was pretty damned funny, we had such a laugh over it.
All in all, I'm pretty thrilled to be a BDSM Senior! I wouldn't go back in time for nuthin'.
At long last, I have grabbed the proverbial brass ring! I have it all, and so much more...
TM
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