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Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 7:41:21 AM   
fungasm


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Status: offline 		I like the idea of having one resume, because I want to have it professionally printed... but I also am considering (this is still something I'm thinking through) applying at places as diverse as Kink dot com (and other adult sites) to other Content Development gigs. Other factors include that I am not ashamed that I have tied people up for a living, and if I don't include it, there is a gap in my work history.

Pros
  • It shows that you are a self-starting, take charge kind of person
  • It raises the salary limits
  • It's possible to be hired just because the person in HR has a kinky streak.
Cons
  • It might lead to unwanted sexual harrassment
  • It might raise the salary limit too high
  • It might be distasteful to the person in HR and keep me from being hired.

Given the qualifier, that you have only resume, would you put pro-domme on *your* resume?   Other thoughts?

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 7:50:04 AM   
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would you put pro-domme on *your* resume


Oh yeah. Especially the FBI, the Social Security Administration, Caterpillar, General Motors and IBM loooooove sexworkers, hire them all the time.

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 7:53:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a manager , will striaght away employ that person, so she can teach me a lesson

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 7:59:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not in the U.S. Find a different term to describe what you were doing. "Freelance Leadership Consultant" or something along those lines. I think it is just going to cause more issues than it will solve, not to mention you are missing an opportunity (in most cases) to place something that the employer is likely to be looking for.

While it could be a good idea to have a single professionally printed resume, it is probably not to your advantage unless you are applying to a very narrow field of jobs.

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 8:02:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I change my CV depending on the job I'm applying for. I have one for medical proper career type stuff, and one for part time barmaid jobs, and make changes as appropriate. I certainly wouldn't put proDomme on either of those, but maybe if I was applying to an adult store or somewhere kinky, and I thought they might understand a bit about it.

So I don't think the 1 resume idea would work too well. Don't see why you couldn't get a kinky one and a regular one professionally printed though.

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 8:04:48 AM   
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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 8:21:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Using one standard CV or resume would be a mistake regardless.

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Exactly.

I have too many job skills to even want to list them on one resume. I simply put the things that apply to the type of job I am looking for.

If I was applying for the job I have now.......what good would it be to put that I have years of experience training horses and dogs, or can drive a tractor trailer?

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 8:48:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's been a while since I've worked for someone else... but my CV has always been two pages that list my skills, my publications, my work history, and my references.  I tailor my cover letter and my portfolio to the jobs sent... but where I've worked doesn't change.  My cover letter is tailored to the position, and highlights the relevant experience.  I don't list every magazine where my articles have appeared, every CD or website where my photography is used, or every store or gallery where my art/jewelry have appeared, or every corporate trade show I've done, all the volunteering I've done, the boards I've sat on,  or even every website I've built or developed the content for.  But I list that I have all of these skills, because the job that is really going to challenge me and be something I want to do, will be one where it is fabulous that I am diverse.   I suspect I'm going to be doing content development/database management because those are the nibbles I'm getting now that I'm putting feelers out...

I think a CV/Resume should be a static thing.  You list what you can do, and where you have worked before and how it can be verified that you have worked there. You change the rest of your presentation to match the position.

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 8:53:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: fungasm

It's been a while since I've worked for someone else... but my CV has always been two pages that list my skills, my publications, my work history, and my references.  I tailor my cover letter and my portfolio to the jobs sent... but where I've worked doesn't change.  My cover letter is tailored to the position, and highlights the relevant experience.  I don't list every magazine where my articles have appeared, every CD or website where my photography is used, or every store or gallery where my art/jewelry have appeared, or every corporate trade show I've done, all the volunteering I've done, the boards I've sat on,  or even every website I've built or developed the content for.  But I list that I have all of these skills, because the job that is really going to challenge me and be something I want to do, will be one where it is fabulous that I am diverse.   I suspect I'm going to be doing content development/database management because those are the nibbles I'm getting now that I'm putting feelers out...

I think a CV/Resume should be a static thing.  You list what you can do, and where you have worked before and how it can be verified that you have worked there. You change the rest of your presentation to match the position.

Alison



In that case I would leave pro work out, along with any other illegal activities you may have worked on.


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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 9:08:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Definitely leave it out. You don't know how the interviewer will interpret it and if you can't judge how someone will take something you leave it out and go for the sure thing.

I feel it's better to have resume material that will only be seen in a positive light with no other possible interpretations on the employers part.

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 9:13:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have 3 resumes. One is for retail  management and food service. One is for audio engineering. One is for entertainment. I think it is good to cater your resume to the job you are looking for. If I wanted to get a waitress job again it doesn't really matter to them that  I know how to operate and align an analog tape machine. And recording studios looking for staff don't really care that I reorganized and implemented new visual merchandising procedures at a non profit thrift store. The entertainment and audio resumes overlap but technical album credits are more important on the audio and silly stuff like my clown skills go on the entertainment one.

I think you should make a kinky resume for kink.com and other kinky jobs and a vanilla resume for vanilla jobs.

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 9:19:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Hierodule

I have 3 resumes. One is for retail  management and food service. One is for audio engineering. One is for entertainment. I think it is good to cater your resume to the job you are looking for.


Absolutely.  I ran a resume service and having tailored resumes is a must.


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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 9:41:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Isn't leaving it out of your CV going to create a gap in your employment history, though? That'll look worse on your CV than the fact that you were working in the sex industry*. I think Honsuko might have the right idea: find a suitable euphemism, and use that.

*(Everybody here knows you were doing nothing of the sort, but a HR Manager might not.)

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 3:09:59 PM   
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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 5:19:46 PM   
littlewonder


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I had a 10 yr gap in my resume before I started working again. I simply mentioned in my coverletter the reason for the gap, explaining that I was a stay at home mom during that time but on my resume I  included volunteer work that I had done during that time.


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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 5:56:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Moonhead

Isn't leaving it out of your CV going to create a gap in your employment history, though? That'll look worse on your CV than the fact that you were working in the sex industry*. I think Honsuko might have the right idea: find a suitable euphemism, and use that.

*(Everybody here knows you were doing nothing of the sort, but a HR Manager might not.)


Well, no. Appearing to have worked in the sex industry is arguably worse than listing the trade skills you picked up in prison. Unless it's a sex positive environment (and most jobs are sex neutral), I would go with "self-employed consultant" and then creatively tailor the broader skills applied to the job you are applying for.

I would NEVER apply for a professional job with any remotely sexual reference. I've seen how PR people respond to applicants who worked at Victorias Secret.

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 6:29:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		As a tech writer who professionally produces resumes, my advice is do not go out and have a "one size fits all" generic resume printed.

For each company that you want to apply to, spend a few minutes Googling them and finding out a little about the company, ongoing projects, the company's needs, press releases and so on.  Then tailor the resume you will send that company to make yourself as attractive as possible, keeping in mind who THEY are and what they are looking for. If the job posting listed requirements for what they are looking for, make sure your resume EXPLICITLY calls out places you have shown those skills or abilities or training.

Since there are Kinkos and similar printing shoppes all over nowadays, you can take a diskette or thumb drive into them and have them print you a high-quality spiffy resume on pretty paper on demand. Heck, you can even usually email the file in with your order and pick it up later.

When I am hiring, usually HR got your pretty resume then made a plain paper, crap-o quality photocopy and sent that upstairs to me. I have no idea what the quality of the printing or paper was. What I focus on are your actual abilities and qualifications, followed by your spelling, composition, and grasp of English grammar.

There might be some instances in which you might want to include your background as a sex worker on a resume, but honestly I dunno what those would be. Putting it on paper is probably an invitation to be prosecuted with your own resume as a written confession.  I would instead represent that time as having worked as a private contractor or trainer or something that will showcase your creativity, assertiveness, and leadership skills. Or, you can show that time as having been involved in volunteer work, a sabbatical, etc.



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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 6:56:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fungasm
Cons
  • It might lead to unwanted sexual harrassment
  • It might raise the salary limit too high
  • It might be distasteful to the person in HR and keep me from being hired.


You left out "violates the companies morality policy" which a lot of companies have.

Most people view professional dominatrixes as prostitutes. In their mind they'd be interviewing someone who has a criminal past.

As an interviewer, it would also make me question how'd you interact with other employees.

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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/4/2009 9:14:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with those saying to customize and to reword the issue. "Independent Motivational Speaker" or "Marital and Family Consultant" are fine covers. It is my belief that a good resume provides what you learned at that position. The business skills learned being a pro-domme match that of the above 'professions'.

I've done my fair share of hiring, and I have to say, even as someone into the lifestyle, I would consider "professional dominatrix" a con in almost every capacity. Assuming we're not hiring pro-dommes, hookers, strippers, actresses, etc. I'll have to explain to someone why I hired an ex-dominatrix. That's not a position I want to be in.

What are the pro's of being a pro-domme, corrected for a resume?

Experience with:
Screening employees and hiring.
On site training and respectful corrections.
Comfortable in a leadership role.
Public speaking.
Sales and marketing.
Balancing work/social relationships.
Hour and schedule management.
Professional response to unexpected situations.
Business traveling.



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RE: Would you put professional Dominatrix on your resume? - 11/5/2009 1:38:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I always custom-shape my CV/resume to the position I'm applying for. As an aside, I've also spent very little time out of work (aside from time lost to medical reasons).

I find that using a single resume is not really cost-effective in the long run. Custom prepare each resume with a laser printer on high-quality linen paper, featuring the key skills and competencies requested in the advertisement for the position. Don't use fancy fonts that are difficult to read. Use a consistent layout to make the important parts of your resume stand out. Learn how to describe the job skills from your time as a pro-domme in ways that are business friendly.

I spent 15 years as a  midwife, running my own birth center. Unfortunately, being self-employed often leaves new potential employers cold. First, they're worried that, since you went out on your own once, you could do it again and leave them high and dry. Second, they know that you're used to being the boss and are worried about how you'll fit in to their corporate community. Third, the business you ran clearly didn't thrive, since you're back looking in the workforce, so the human resources people and the hiring entities start asking themselves whether it was it a flaw in the business or a flaw that they'll have to deal with that is inherent in -you- when they hire you. (Just informationally, I closed the birth center when I moved to another state, and that state didn't allow direct-entry midwives to practice).  Instead, I started wording my resume to show that I had taken leadership roles without emphasizing that I was the chief cook and bottlewasher...just the -managing- cook and bottlewasher... and surprisingly, the number of job offers increased exponentially, so that is something else to think about as well.

Hope this helps,
Dame Calla

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