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breatheasone -> Communication (11/4/2009 8:06:09 AM)
Does your "D" type restrict or monitor your communication with others? ie... online, going to munches, phone calls, txt's etc...

RCdc -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 8:09:51 AM)
He does not tell me who I can or cannot speak with, however, Master does monitor my mood and if I am concerned about someone, or I am affected negatively then he would take control. the.dark.

breatheasone -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 8:20:38 AM)
Dark, i always love hearing from you! Its neat to get different slants on some everyday things that we do.

RCdc -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 8:24:00 AM)
smoochies breathingone.... ...don't leave it so long to be gone next time! You are always missed and there is a breathingshape missing from the forums when ya are.xxxx the.dark.

breatheasone -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 8:28:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark smoochies breathingone.... ...don't leave it so long to be gone next time! You are always missed and there is a breathingshape missing from the forums when ya are.xxxx the.dark. You know whats scary?...i was going to say in my reply to you that you are one of the people i truly miss and wonder how you are when i am away from the boards for a while.... but i didn't want to sound like a sappy asshole and all that....[:D]

DesFIP -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 8:28:41 AM)
Nope. He had asked that I don't get into long conversations with dominants seeking subs who are nearby. And people I'm friends with on the boards are exempted. Basically if some guy writes me wanting to know more about me, that's a come on and I shouldn't fall for it. Me writing someone and asking about a rope technique they mentioned is different. However if I start to get all het up over a thread, he has threatened to prohibit me from that board. So I just block people who irritate me now.

RCdc -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 8:35:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone You know whats scary?...i was going to say in my reply to you that you are one of the people i truly miss and wonder how you are when i am away from the boards for a while.... but i didn't want to sound like a sappy asshole and all that....[:D] Not sappy at all breathingone. Just perpetually gorgeous xxxxx[sm=yourock.gif] the.dark.

breatheasone -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 8:36:09 AM)
DesFIP, my Daddy is similar. i would think not wanting your SO to "get into long conversations" with singles looking is pretty universal(please note i realize not ALL inclusive) Even if i was as vanilla as the bean i can assure you i wouldn't want my husband talking to single women at length regularly (OMG shut up thats another thread!)talking to myself again[:D]

thishereboi -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 8:46:56 AM)
Nope, she occasionally gave me a hard time with one friend she didn't like, but she didn't restrict anyone.

littleone35 -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 9:08:50 AM)
Master always says i can talk to anyone i want to (well except for one guy). He does check any mail that i get on CM. If it is from s Dom looking for a sub he will either respond telling them I belong to him, or the eaiser thing just deletes them. Meeting old play partners even just for coffee is not allowed unless he is with me. It is not me he does not trust it is them. He does not trust them to not try to get me back or a least to play again even tho I told them i belong to Master now. So talking is ok meeting is not. Matt's littleone

lizi -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 9:20:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone Does your "D" type restrict or monitor your communication with others? ie... online, going to munches, phone calls, txt's etc... He does not monitor any of my communications at all. He feels that he trusts me enough to do that for myself. However he is there if I have questions or situations to bounce off of him and he'll try to explain things for me and then let me judge it for myself. Which helps immensely at times. In general I'll tell him upfront of who I am talking to or who has written me. I just figure it's good to have it out in the open so he knows upfront and then it never seems like I am hiding anything. Recently there were 2 men trying to get back into my life who I had previous relationships with and they were both being a bit pushy about trying to get me to 'visit' them again or have us go out. One more than the other. I told both no, I informed them of my status, and they both said fine...lets be friends, and continued on to talk some more and then the one got pushy again which frustrated me. So I wanted to talk to my Sir about why that was happening- was I doing it? Was I leading them on somehow because it wasn't my intention and I wanted to know if there was something I needed to correct. He helped me with my questions and then made the point that I was allowed at this point to always talk with whoever I wanted to talk to as he trusted me. It works for us and if I want help I ask for it.

Elizabeth666 -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 10:03:22 AM)
He does not restrict me from talking online and such. i don't go to munches, but if i did i would assume He would want to go with me. i do go to bars with friends and He always hopes i have a good time. He trusts that i am not going to hook up with anyone. He knows how i feel about Him and would not jeopardize our relationship. i am on another site where some of my friends are Dom(me)s but He knows them and has never said a word. As Dark stated, He does know my moods, so if anything on or offline had upset me, He wants me to talk to Him.

littlewonder -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 5:23:05 PM)
No. I'm free to go where I please, talk to whomever I wish be it in texts, calls, munches, forums, etc...He's not concerned and trusts me. I do however talk to him and sometimes ask if something bothers him or if he's ok if I think it may be something that might become a concern for him.

Surrenderwithin -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 5:37:32 PM)
Master does not monitor what I do online or on my phone. However he occassionally does read my text messages if he is bored and has nothing better to do. He knows I will tell him if there is anything he needs to know. He does not care about my online communication with people I do not know.

whiteslavebitch -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 5:38:41 PM)
No, he doesn't. He must not feel the need. Out of respect for him, I do not communicate privately with other Dominants, except to reply to emails asking if I'm available(in rude and not rude language). And then only to tell them I'm taken, sometimes nicely, sometimes not so nicely. That depends on their approach. (As if it isn't obvious enough from my profile that I am taken.) If he so desired, he could look at any of my communications.

lucylucy -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 5:47:14 PM)
My boyfriend doesn’t actively monitor anything, but he reserves the right to read my collarme posts and emails. He hasn’t done that so far, but I write everything assuming he will read it. The possibility of him reading my posts and emails helps me not do anything potentially stupid. A few times I’ve written an email to someone on collarme and re-read it before hitting “send,” and realized that what I said could be taken more than one way and that if my boyfriend read it, he probably wouldn’t like it. I think it helps me be a little extra vigilant about writing things that could lead someone on.

sblady -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 5:56:48 PM)
My online communication/phone calls are not monitored or restricted. I don't attend munches or other events, so that's a non-issue. I have Dominant male friends that I chat with online and over the phone. At one point, I expressed interest in meeting them in person for coffee or a meal on a strictly friendship basis; I can't recall the exact words used, however, I believe the answer was no. [:)]

Drifa -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 6:16:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone Does your "D" type restrict or monitor your communication with others? ie... online, going to munches, phone calls, txt's etc... Honestly, I feel that someone who attempts to restrict or limit your communication with others, your contacts with friends and family, or other support and friends is probably an abuser. For me, a relationship (vanilla or kink) must be built on mutual trust and honesty. My Lady doesn't need to restrict or monitor what I say, because we both know what the limits and rules of our relationship are, and we both observe these rules and limits honestly.

DesFIP -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 6:16:30 PM)
He tries to not let me drive alone at night, but that's because I have no night vision. So if possible he drives. Tonight since it was a school activity and before 9, my son drove. So if there was a munch I wanted to go to, and around here that's a one to two hour drive, it would have to wait until he was available. Same thing with going to a movie, I wait till he can go simply because the mall is 45 minutes away and it's a rough drive for me.

OsideGirl -> RE: Communication (11/4/2009 6:49:09 PM)
Master doesn't restrict any communication and he has full confidence that if I'm dealing with someone that is out of line, that I'll take care of the situation.

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