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theRose4U -> RE: Need support (11/18/2009 11:10:48 AM)
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can actually answer that .... "The squeeky wheel gets the grease." my mind says, "The squeeky wheel gets kicked to the curb for squeekin."
i'm scared. i'm scared that if i say whats on my mind it will be bad
In my collar this wouldn't be yours to have. Fears, their basis and anything that causes stress to you...eventually will cause stress and discomfort to him. By not being honest, letting him know where you head is at and what's going on inside you're creating this huge rats nest of emotion that he will have to untangle. Write it out, be honest, how you feel is how you feel, how he deals with that is how he deals with that. By not trusting him to know how to help you, you're being dishonest. Dishonesty leads to discontent. Discontent is what would end you at the curb.
I'm not saying meet him at the door first thing and tell him you had a bad day because he's not paying enough attention to you, but letting him know that you need to talk, have fears about where your situation currently is and how you feel about it gives the poor guy something to go on. In the long run you will realize most dominants HATE this kind of suprise, they'd rather know there's an issue and work on it than be blindsided by a raging banshee of a sub fleeing their collar because "we didn't _____", when frankly many times we had no idea what was being generated between their ears.
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